A guy I found on linkedin used to text me randomly like for 1.5 years but I was dating but then I brokeup dated other guys but couldn’t fall in love. But with this guy when I started talking I instantly felt like he’s the one to spend my rest of the life with. He told me damn date me I wanna be your last and he said how he doesn’t want women to come in between his success and all that. But then I started texting him like everyday but he didn’t give the same energy. When I asked him he said as he is in US now and he hasn’t met me he can’t be serious on Instagram so he wants to propose me in person when to comes to India where I live. I was like okay fine I’ll wait but then after few days we didn’t talk but he came in between and we kind of had flirtatious talk yk kinda sexual and it turned us both on. He is Indian too. He told me that my way of looking into it is being together during hard times and when during good times do whatever you want. It all started when he jokingly told me that I should date someone for time pass as Im single I was like I can’t date a guy and just dump him. He was like why not its fun! And I jokingly said that I’ll date you. He said no I’m a very bad guy you’ll leave me in 2 days I said haha let’s try and we started acting like husband and wife and started discussing how we would treat each other if we were a couple and yeah after that infatuation liking all that happened. And he was like damn I’m getting obsessed with you. And he was like I am tempted to ask you out. And he said jokes apart, Date me I wanna be your last. I was like are you serious? He said yes. Before him asking me out we were so good friends we used to talk a lot be it serious or some funny topic. We shared everything and he also said he wants to spend every hour on text everyday when he was in India. But now its changed. Before asking me out he also sent his shirtless workout pic and his food pics which he cooked. Now we don’t talk been 5 days. Should I call him?
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the thing is he told me he’ll never cheat on me when I asked him why has he become distant suddenly has someone else come into your life he was like no I my bad habits are drinking smoking yes but Ill never cheat you don’t need to worry about that. Then I told him that how much I miss our old conversations he said awww that’s cute. I told him I feel that something has changed between us. He said no I don’t think so👀.
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Because see personally if I like a person and If I say these things to a person I want that person fr and would do anything to keep them. I’ll text everyday not because I don’t want them to feel bad but because I would love texting or talking to them. And if I have no interest I wouldn’t entertain someone for like 11-12 months just to end us up dating and then just become distant when that person actually starts liking me back.
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Hmm, it sounds like he is very serious about you although there are some things that make it also seem that he is not. Not talking for five days is not good but in America you are expected to work long hours. So maybe he is working a lot and/or sick. There is no reason that you can't call him whenever you want. I'm curious what your long term plans are. Are you moving to the United States or is he moving back?
Actually I did ask and he replied that he can’t be serious on Instagram and he wants to propose me in person. He said he wants to at least meet me in person before making it official. I said okay. But then we didn’t text and he suddenly started being flirty and calling me baby and all that. And then again when I initiated. His replies were kinda dry.
I can also say that just after he asked me out I said yes we had a good convo and he said now he has to go to work. After that I started being clingy. I was texting a lot. Sending him 5-6 reels with gm gn messages. And maybe he didn’t like that. It was like he had also told me that he doesn’t like women coming in between his success. But I clearly wasn’t. I was just happy and excited.
I am moving to US for my MBA. But there’s till 4-5 years for that.
Yeah, that woman coming in between his success is a red flag. I totally understand that you are just cheering him on and supporting him but for some reason he doesn't understand that. I would appreciate all of those good morning and good night messages. I'm not sure why he is being weird about that. It sounds like he is conflicted between his work and his relationship with you. It's almost like he is worried that he can't give his full time attention to work if he has a girlfriend. So, have you two ever met in person?
Exactly! He said we have never met in person. I should at least meet you once before making it official. I was like umm okay. I got hurt yes but then few days later he texted saying heyyyy I missed you baby Im sorry I was occupied with so much now I’ll keep texting you everyday and disturb you more. And we kinda had flirty chat but then when I texted next day after that his replies were dry. And then after 2-3 days again he says he misses me and flirts. Etc
Ooh a lot can happen in 4 to 5 years. Do you have plans to see him in person?
He said he’ll visit India next year and we can meet by then
Hmm, it is hard to know someone for real until you meet with them and live with them. Four to five years to get together seems like a long time to me. I would probably not be exclusive but I don't think I would say that to him either. You don't want to waste five years of your life and realize that he is nothing like he is online.
Does he like me?
Oh, good luck. I hope he is the same way in person than he is online.
It sounds like he likes you but he also hates you for interfering with his work.
Also he isn’t working he’s studying for his masters and we are just in early 20s
I open netflix where I was sharing his account and seems like he removed my account from there
I don't know why he hates me so much when all I wanted was to love and care for him
Yeah, I don't know either. But he has said that he is afraid that a woman might get in the way of his work. I think that is ridiculous. I rather be with a woman than be at work anytime.
So he called me and he told me he loves me and he misses me but he was drunk and we sexted the next day I sent him my pic saw that he was online but didn’t read my text for hours
Yeah I don't know. Actions speak louder than words. I would not put my life on hold for five years for this guy. If he really wants you, you will know it.
This is all so fucking weird. Have you even met in person?
Do you even know this guy? When did you see him last?