Why is it when I start to text a guy with interest in a romantic or flirty way, he starts to ghost me?

[Anonymous]

So basically when I’m super nice and flirty to a guy I’m attracted to, he starts to pull away and then stops contact with me. Is it because I’ve shown that I’m too easy to get? Do guys like girls that don’t seem interested in them? Is it about getting a challenge for the guy to have interest? How can I change up my game? Should I be distant to guys I like in order for them to chase me? How does a male’s mind work? How can I get them to be interested in me long term? Should I not send photos that are suggestive? Thanks

[Anonymous]

Because he's not interested in you.

Why is it that women seem to think showing interest in a guy should mean he automatically must be interested in her.

I see this a lot. Women say they won't approach or take the initiative with guys because they tried it and it didn't work out well. Sorry ladies, but you are not entitled to not be rejected. Can you imagine if guys had the same reaction to rejection? The human race would have gone extinct long ago.

[Asker]

What about appearance wise? Does looking “hot” attract more men? And how does a girl know if a guy is really into her?

[Opinion Owner]

Looking "hot" is subjective. One person's hot is another person's slutty, and which bucket a man falls into tells you what kind of man he is. If you want to attract a quality man, don't go for the type who likes the slutty look.

As far as knowing if a man is into you, consider how he treats you. Does he prioritize you wants and needs? Do he do things to try to make you happy? Or is he selfish and hangs out with his friends more than with you?

[Asker]

Thanks for the info! Very helpful points.

[ChicoFromThe305]

What do you say that you consider flirting cause people react to things differently but if this is the reaction you always get then it's gotta be something to do with what you say.

[Asker]

I say some sexual things sometimes. Is that bad?

[ChicoFromThe305]

If they are looking for something serious and you said something that might ruin that first impression and it was too soon then there's a decent possibility

[WhitneySnow]

Do not send suggestive photos until you guys have started messing around irl. That’s the surest way to get ghosted.

[Asker]

Why is that?

[WhitneySnow]

Not sure. But it is. So don’t do it if you want a guy to be serious about you.

[Asker]

Are you talking from personal experience?

[WhitneySnow]

Friends experience. Several friends.

[Asker]

You don’t know the reason why so I don’t know how to understand you. Plus some guys actively ask for those photos. They always ask me first

[WhitneySnow]

Tell them no. Not until we’re in a serious relationship.

Trust me. This is the exact reason why all these guys are ghosting you.

[Asker]

Well is it cause it makes me seem slutty?

[WhitneySnow]

Yeah basically

[Anonymous]

You probably come off as easy. Most guys don't want that in a serious relationship.

[Asker]

So guys like women that act like they’re not Interested? So should I play hard to get?

[Opinion Owner]

No. Tone it down.

[spartan55]

It's because you are doing it by text.

[moneymagnet24]

Romantic text make us bored...

[Asker]

How so? Should a girl act distant instead?

[moneymagnet24]

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