How to get a guy to ask you out and ft you?

[CAPLOVE]

I have been talking to this guy for more than 3 weeks now. We have been texting back and forth a lot and sometimes it's super flirty. Last week we finally FaceTimed and after he said let's ft again sometime but he's never asked again. Why do you think that is? He is younger than me so before he got his license I mentioned him taking me for a drive but now that he has his license he never brought it up. What do u think he's thinking? And why do you think he hasn't asked me out? It's both of our breaks this week so we're both free

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I rlly like this guy so I rlly wanna go out with him. Also i though he liked me cause he was the first to reach out by dming me and its was the week before hoco. But he did go with someone else. How would Ik if he has a girlfriend?

[Summeroflove]

It’s pretty simple you just ask him out. You can’t make somebody do anything but you can take initiative and ask yourself.

If you like him and you feel he likes you back. Stop wasting time waiting for him because more times then not when people play the waiting game waiting the other out. Eventually somebody moves on and you wonder what happened. Why he's with another girl and it’s just a whole process.

The thought of rejection is scary and it’s possible. But even the worst case scenario if it happens. You’re not wasting your time and know you can grieve and move on. Instead of wasting time on someone whose never going to ask you out anyways.

So my suggestion. See if he wants to grab coffee and see how it goes. If he says yes either it will go great and you go on a second date and if you’re not meant to be. Again you’re not wasting your time or his… You can respectfully go your separate ways.

[CAPLOVE]

I've already said maybe you can take me for a drive sometime like multiple times so I don't know. I don't want to seem clingy.

[Summeroflove]

Be direct. Being direct isn’t being clingy. Showing interest is normal…. Being obsessive is not taking no for a answer.

If you’re direct and don’t get a clear answer. Then the balls in his court

[CAPLOVE]

Ok, so what do I say then?

[Summeroflove]

Just tell him you like him and want to know if he wants to grab coffee and chat

[CAPLOVE]

Thank you. This helps a lot. We did hang out and it went super well but it's gonna be a while before the second date cause we both got finals coming up.

[Summeroflove]

You’re welcome and move at a comfortable pace for both of you

[Oliverskier]

A lot of guys just don’t FaceTime. It’s the same way girls send videos of them talking while most guys send snaps with text. All things considered tho if u like him u should make the move he’s probably just an idiot like most of us.

[CAPLOVE]

Funny thing is right after I asked this he asked to facetime lol. And we talked for 3 hours. I've already said maybe you can take me for a drive sometime like multiple times so I don't know. I don't want to seem clingy.

[Oliverskier]

Ya i get not wanting to seem clibgy but u might as well go for it more if he won't that way you know its moving forward or there's nothing

[CAPLOVE]

I get that but I rlly don't want to mess this up

[CindyRuns]

Let me give you a better idea... ASK HIM OUT !!!

It's the 21st century now... you don't need to wait for him !!!

About 12 years ago, I asked a certain guy out... and... 18 months later, we got married... and still are happily married with two beautiful daughters !!!

Go for it girl !!!

[CAPLOVE]

I've already said maybe you can take me for a drive sometime like multiple times so I don't know. I don't want to seem clingy.

Omg that's amazing!!!

[itsannalee]

What is ft? Feet?
Or is that new slang? I guess i’m too old to understand 😂

[Oliverskier]

I think it’s FaceTime

[CAPLOVE]

It's facetime lol

[Finchie40]

Ask him out and FaceTime him, you don’t need to wait for him to ask you out

[CAPLOVE]

I've already said maybe you can take me for a drive sometime like multiple times so I don't know. I don't want to seem clingy.

Funny thing is right after I asked this he asked to facetime and we facetimed for like 3 hours. It'd been 5 weeks I just don't get why he won't ask me out

[Finchie40]

It sounds like he is probably seeing someone else if that’s the case , when a guy really likes a girl , he will invest a lot of his time into her , so if he isn’t doing that to you , he is doing it to someone else

[CAPLOVE]

I agree. How do I figure out if he is?

[Tarifa]

Take the lead. He might be unsure, nervous, a bit shy, or all of that at the same time.

[CAPLOVE]

I've already said maybe you can take me for a drive sometime like multiple times so I don't know. I don't want to seem clingy.

[Iron_Man]

You have to be yourself. It’s up to him to make the decision.

[Founding_Daddy]

ft you?
feet? :O

[CAPLOVE]

Face time

[Founding_Daddy]

Haha, OH! So no feet?
do you mind if I ask you for some advice? :)

[CAPLOVE]

sure, about what