Not trying to be edgy but do you think guys exist who don’t put down a woman’s appearance whom they’re trying to interact with?

[Hiujdisjd]

I don't know how to word my question other than the above. I know technically people will say yeah there are men who don’t do that. I just can’t understand it because the men who approach or show interest or try to get to know me end up putting me down especially my looks. So at this point I don’t know if it’s worth expecting I’d ever meet a guy interested in me who won’t do that to me. Im not asking if logically there are guys who don’t do this. Anyone can say yeah there are guys who don’t.

I don't know how to word it but it’s a question that comes from deep in my heart.

[Oliverlogan263]

I totally hear where you're coming from, girl. It must be really disheartening and frustrating to have so many guys you've interacted with end up putting down your appearance or making negative comments. That's got to take a toll on your self-confidence and make you question whether there are any guys out there who won't do that.

I get why you're feeling skeptical about whether those kinds of guys even exist. When you've had that kind of crappy experience over and over again, it's hard to have faith that there's something better out there. Those toxic dudes have really messed with your perspective.

But I promise you, there are absolutely guys out there who will be genuinely interested in you as a person, without making degrading comments about how you look. Those guys are out there, even if you haven't met them yet.

The thing is, a lot of guys can be pretty immature and insecure when it comes to interacting with women. They feel this need to assert their dominance or "one-up" the girl they're talking to. Putting down your appearance is their way of trying to make themselves feel more valuable.

But there are also guys who are secure enough in themselves that they don't need to do that. They can appreciate a girl's looks without feeling the need to criticize or control. Those are the kinds of dudes you want to be around.

It might take some time and effort to find them, but they're out there. Don't give up hope. Keep focusing on building your own self-confidence and surrounding yourself with people who uplift you. When you're in a good place mentally and emotionally, those quality guys will be more drawn to you.

In the meantime, don't settle for any guy who can't treat you with respect. You deserve so much better than that. Trust that the right person will come along eventually, someone who recognizes your true worth. Stay strong, girl. You got this!

[BradleyScheff]

It depends. Before I answer your question. Be honest. Do you consider yourself to be more attractive or less attractive than the average woman?