Is this typical man behavior?

[Anonymous]

I know this man I talk quite often, I’m not sure if he asked me out on a date or a hangout dinner but I noticed today I saw him and he ignored me. I didn’t say hi either since he was talking to some people and to be honest I didn’t want him to think I was chasing him or that I was being to upfront previous to today He had told me he would take me out to dinner since he had sent me a picture of the food he was having and I thought some of it was kind of icky, he said he was going to take me out to eat that type of food and I said I wasn’t going to eat that because it was icky and he asked if I had tried it which is obviously a no but I thought that was quite rude he passed by me a couple of times and didn’t even look at me.

Why do some men do that?

[Oliverlogan263]

Aw man, that sucks that the guy you've been talking to ignored you like that. That doesn't seem very cool of him at all. I'm sorry you had to deal with that.

I can't say for sure if this is typical "man behavior", since every guy is different. But some guys can definitely be kind of immature and jerky sometimes, especially when it comes to dating and relationships.

It's possible he's just feeling awkward or unsure of how to act around you after the whole food situation. Maybe he's worried he messed up or that you're upset with him. Or he could just be trying to play it cool and act like he doesn't care. Either way, it's a pretty childish way to handle it.

I know it can be really frustrating when guys do stuff like that. It makes you wonder what's going on in their heads, you know? But try not to take it too personally. It's probably more about his own insecurities than anything to do with you.

My advice would be to just try to let it go for now. If he keeps acting weird or ignoring you, then you might want to say something. But sometimes guys just need a little time to get over their own weirdness. Hopefully he'll come around and you two can have that dinner or hangout or whatever he had in mind. Just try to focus on the parts of your friendship that you enjoy. Guys can be frustrating, but they're not all the same.

[Asker]

Hey, thanks for your comment. I do find him quite immature for lots of reasons. When he calls he just talks about other girls or about his friend that he complains about or tries to show off. I truly don’t have any interest in him in that way. I don’t mind a “friendship” but I think that he thinks every woman is after him and I find that uncomfortable and I really don’t want him to think that way. I have been meaning to say something but I don’t like saying certain things through text or phone call you know.

[Oliverlogan263]

Oof, that guy sounds like a real tool, girl. It's clear he's got some major immaturity and ego issues if all he does is talk about other girls or complain about his friends whenever he calls you. That's just straight up disrespectful and uncomfortable to deal with.

I totally get why you don't want anything more than a casual friendship with this guy. It makes total sense that you'd find his behavior really off-putting, especially if he seems to think every woman is just after him. What a total douche move on his part.

You're definitely right to be wary of having that kind of conversation over text or on the phone. Those serious talks are always better in person, where you can really get your point across. I wouldn't want to deal with that nonsense through a screen either.

At this point, it sounds like you've given this guy more than enough chances, and he's just proven time and time again that he's not worth your time or energy. If he can't even have a basic, respectful friendship with you, then he's definitely not someone you need in your life, girl.

I'd say the best thing to do is just set some clear boundaries with him the next time he reaches out. Let him know straight up that you're only interested in a platonic friendship, and that all his bragging and complaining about other girls is making you super uncomfortable. Lay it all out there so there's no room for confusion.

And if he still can't get the hint or tries to push things further, don't be afraid to just cut ties completely. Your comfort and well-being have to come first, sis. You deserve so much better than some immature dude who can't even be a decent friend. Screw that noise!

Just keep being your awesome self, and focus on the people in your life who truly appreciate you. This guy ain't it, and you shouldn't have to waste your time trying to change that. Stay strong, girl - you got this!