Why would a man behave this way?

[Anon98]

Ok so there’s this man at work that’s kind of cute and i feel like he’s playing games with me. We were working together for 6 months and i had a boyfriend when i met him. He would always hold eye contact with me even when talking to other people, he would get up in my personal space when talking to me, mirror me if we were in the same room and even if he was far away and saw me in the hallway he would turn around so he wouldn’t be standing with his back towards me. I wasn’t interesed then. Then i broke up with my boyfriend because i wasn’t happy with him and all these things my coworker did slowly made me interested in him so i showed him a few signs that i’m interested like touching him on the back when passing him by and i even followed him on instagram but he didn't follow me back. On his last day at work we both had the night shift together and it was really quiet and boring and i was alone so i called him if he wants to hang out, but he said he’s tired and wants to sleep. So the next day in the evening he sent me a follow request from his second instagram account but deleted the request a minute later. So i wrote him on instagram why did he delete his request and i wrote that i don’t bite. He didn’t answer. So i unfollowed his first instagram account and forgot about him. Well this Friday we had a work party and he was there. And since he was always kind of ignoring me before, i was ignoring him the whole night, didn’t even look at him. Then i went to the bar to get a beer and when i turned around he was behind me. He said hey and i just walked passed him, then he said hey again so i stopped and said hi back and he put his arms out and hugged me and we talked for a little. What kind of game is that? He shows interest, when i show it back he ignores me, when i ignore him he wants to talk to me and hug me? Why would someone do that? Sorry for the long story and thanks for all the answers.

[darealmvp2015]

The best answer here is that if he was aware that you’re now single, and he has actual interest in a relationship with you (not just hooking up with you or something) then he would not be trying to play weird games like he is.


Truth be told the games he’s playing don’t even really make any sense at all, but if I were you I wouldn’t worry too much about that. It seems like the better alternative would be to simply find a person who has the emotional and mental maturity to be able to not make you try to interpret their odd games to find out if they want to be with you.


However, if you’re completely enamored, for whatever reason, with this guy then you’re probably going to need to just tell him you need to talk to him, and when you get him to agree, be straight up. Tell him how you feel, what your perception of his actions have been, and that you just need to know where everything stands between you two. Make sure to tell him that you’re not asking for any commitment or anything official from him, but you just need to know whether or not you should be wasting time and energy, especially if he has no interest.

[spartan55]

Uh... aside from asking him to hang out where did you show interest? You don't give any real convincing evidence that he is interested in you. He makes eye contact? Come on. Was he aware you had a boyfriend before?

[Baseballgem4for4]

dont waste your time with him. he's either not interested in you or any relationship, I dont know which but he's a waste of time.