Why are the men on this site in particular so antagonistic towards dark skinned women?

[Here_We_Go_Again]

I'm a dark skinned woman myself and I understand that men have a biological bias towards empathizing with, prioritizing, and wanting to be with light-skinned women more (Which is why I basically don't care about relationships now and working on my looks to appease men in that way anymore - I do it for myself now)

I just don't understand why the men here in particular go out their way to behave in inhumane and kind of harassing ways towards dark skinned women - Because it's like we understand that you guys don't like us and that you would rather kind of the world just exist in this bubble of dark skinned men, light skinned men, and light skinned woman only - but we're are here and stuck with you guys sadly

so if you don't have anything nice to say the least you could do is just go about ignoring our existence like you've been doing instead of just trying to terrorize us.

By the way you guys can't gaslight or coerce me out of claiming your biased because the OK cupid data spoke enough about you guys and your biases for itself

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@rigmarole

Since you blocked me I'll respond here.

I never said you couldn't share your opinion i'm just wondering why you have to have share the most hateful antagonistic and disgusting opinion you can possibly share.

Like you don't have to jump to the lhighest evel of hatred and spitefulness you have Every time you interact with a dark woman - I've had plenty of guys in the past just treat me with basic human respect and say Oh well black women aren't my type but I'm sure you'll find someon

[ohsheeT]

well I am sorry that you feel that you are treated this way I believe it's totally wrong

I myself look at things a lot different every summer I go out and I spend the weekends out at the lake I'm always in the sun I want a tan because it makes me feel good it makes me look good

but I don't understand about people is I'm able to do this because of the way that I was made I'm able to do this because my body will adapt to protect my self protect my skin my body it will adapt and that's the way we are all made

are loving God made it so no matter what part of this planet we lived on with the harsh crazy conditions that we might be experiencing he made it so our bodies would adapt so thousands and thousands of years ago our ancestors live where they live their bodies adapted to the climate to the extreme conditions we are all the same except for there's ignorant people out there that are lazy and would rather be followers and not do their own homework so I'm sorry that you have to go through this I'm sorry that you're made to feel like you have to go through this but in the long run you will come out ahead because people that hate and that are ignorant will have to come back and do it all again they judge so they will be judged

[JacobJordan]

Fascinating generalization especially given that almost no one says anything regarding dark skinned women unless directly asked and when they answer they answer quite politely. So which men are you targeting with your statement? So far not a single man on this post has been remotely antagonistic. Perhaps the problem is that they aren't saying "oh I love black women" and for you anyone not saying that is being "antagonistic"? Really not sure how to help you here as I have read a heck of a lot of comments on topics regarding dark skinned women and haven't seen any that are antagonistic.

[Booklover_90]

People are big and bold behind a screen. Unfortunately, racism and prejudice are still a problem. Before you get upset, please know that I’m black. Anyway, I’ve learned to ignore stupid people.

[laly520]

I haven't ever noticed any of em treat black women differently

[Here_We_Go_Again]

I mean that would make sense if you're not a black woman - you probably just dont notice

[laly520]

not really
I do notice if there is anything new or off

[Here_We_Go_Again]

I would say otherwise - But that's OKI think it's normal not to notice snag remarks especially when they're not directed at you.

It's just not your range of care or focus you know?

[laly520]

I am a girls girl n would stand up for any girl no matter what so I would for sure notice if there was anything that isn't ok

[Here_We_Go_Again]

Right definitely but of course we all have things that were just not as devoted to and so they tend to slip over our heads.

And if something or some cause isn't the first thing on your priority list it's natural you to not really notice if things go awry over in that area - And again that's perfectly fine, I just don't want us pretending like there isn't a difference in treatment just because you feel like you haven't noticed that

[yepdonethat]

Well, being honest about your preference, WHICH IS NATURAL AND NOT SOMETHING YOU CONTROL, is one thing. Being rude, cruel, and antagonistic is another thing. I for one am not attracted to dark skinned women, naturally. I naturally am aroused by White, Latina, or Asian. But like African dark and features, no, it's just natural. I am pretty open minded too and I actually tried to get into African and African American women, nope. Didn't happen. Nothing societal about it either as I was raised in a very diverse area. I am naturally attracted to those three.

[Here_We_Go_Again]

I mean if that's your natural preference that's perfectly fine.

But can I also note how there's also this pride that a lot of men have on here to loudly assert how dark skinned women from their preferences?

And again I'm not trying to shame you for your natural attraction but the same time don't you think it's weird how you guys kind of have a joy out of NOT being attracted to dark skinned women.

Why would like with the way you talk about it and discuss it you treat it as if it's almost something to celebrate something that every man should take pride in,

[Here_We_Go_Again]

* Instead of it just being a preference.

(And again not shaming you for who you're attracted to I just don't know why you're so happy and gleeful to say that you don't like dark skinned woman or to tell your peers that you don't like dark skinned woman)

[Here_We_Go_Again]

(This is a duplicate I'm just correcting some voice type mistakes)

*I mean if that's your natural preference that's perfectly fine.

But can I also note how there's also this pride that a lot of men have on here to loudly assert how dark skinned women are excluded from their preferences?

And again I'm not trying to shame you for your natural attraction but at the same time don't you think it's weird how you guys kind of have a joy out of NOT being attracted to dark skinned women?

like with the way you talk about it and discuss it you treat it as if it's almost something to celebrate something that every man should take pride in.

[yepdonethat]

Yeah this is what I thought about you. You are thin skinned. And you can not accept the preferences of others. I was honest with you. Not rude. Not antagonistic. But you found rudeness and something to complain about, didn't you? LOL. I think the problem is you, not others. I got that feeling about you and then when I was honest and not rude, you found something to complain about. I think you are emotionally disturbed by lighter skinned guys rejecting you. I have seen this before. I think you like light skinned guys. I think you like white dudes. But because you did not have as much success with them, you are angry. It's very clear in your response. You are the one who is antagonistic or a troll.

[Here_We_Go_Again]

I'm sorry if you thought that I was implying that you were rude and antagonistic I would say that you were respectful too.

All I was simply asking is haven't you noticed that there's almost a pride that certain men take in excluding dark skinned women from from their preferences? And again with this I'm not implying that you HAVE to be attracted to dark skinned women.

But what I'm saying is there's a difference between simply just not liking dark skinned woman and then celebrating and cheering for your male friends when they say that dark skinned woman aren't their type

[Here_We_Go_Again]

Also I wouldn't say that I'm being angry or aggressive with you I actually feel like you're being that way towards me and I'm sorry if I'm sparking some sort of defensiveness on your end by asking these questions but I think it's actually something that we should think about deeply.

I mean I'm familiar with a lot of men from my childhood who have been peer pressured and kind of bullied into not liking dark skinned girls even if they do have a natural attraction to them and so you kind of have to wonder whether some of these guys are really just not attracted to dark skinned women or whether it's like a nature versus nurture situation.

[yepdonethat]

Yeah again. You are really obsessed with being liked by light skinned or white dudes, it's easy to see. You just need to focus on what YOU have and WHO likes YOU. You know there are light skinned and white dudes that like dark women right? Maybe instead of trying to force your world view on others and their rights, you could spend more time trying to find a guy that likes you. Spend your time and resources finding the guy you like and likes you, instead of trying to appear scholarly, but angry on here. I can see you a mile a way.

[Here_We_Go_Again]

Honestly I think it's weird how you would steer the conversation in that direction given how we were never talking about my personal preferences and dating but rather just in general how men generally seemed to celebrate not liking dark skinned women in their peer groups.

I really think it's weird how you're trying to spin this to make it seem as if I'm insecure when reality you're just not answering my question the way it was asked - this was never a personal discussion and I'm not insecure as a dark skinned woman even though you want to make me feel that way>

All I asked you is what was your opinion on why you think certain men are proud and cheerful to tell their male friends that they don't like dark skinned woman this didn't have anything to do with white men or black men Hispanic men Etcetera - it was just a question

[Here_We_Go_Again]

And even though your previous responses were respectful and seemed to be more nice and generous I can tell that you're kind of getting more antagonistic and defensive the more we go down so I just want to again remind you that I'm not shaming you for your preferences and you're perfectly okay being attracted to whatever you're attracted to there's just this question that I'm asking you of why do you think people are celebrating not liking dark skinned woman as if it was a trophy or A badge of honor or something?

[yepdonethat]

Yeah, so I think you are either a troll or you have some severe emotional problems. If you are a troll, that's your fault. To be honest, you are probably not even dark skinned or black. Probably some gay white dude who is a SJW. LOL. However, if these are real posts and responses, it would be cruel for me to continue, because you do have emotional damage and I can only encourage you to do something new or to ask for help. Otherwise, your other responses will just get a repeat message. Anyway it goes, troll or you have problems, this conversation is going nowhere.

[Here_We_Go_Again]

I think it's weird how you're trying to gaslight me too because I'm clearly not a troll and I clearly don't have emotional problems - In fact I've been really nice to you during this whole conversation even though now you're kind of not being so nice to me.

I'm just wondering if you're actually going to answer my question or are you now trying to devolve into proving my point in the post above which is being antagonistic towards me and trying to terrorize me for seemingly no reason?

[yepdonethat]

Repeat.

[Here_We_Go_Again]

Repeat.

[yepdonethat]

Here we go again.

[HawkPerception]

I wouldn't call myself light skinned. I'm brown/tan. However, I do have a bias towards black women as I have bias on any race. I find that black women tend to be more aggressive, loud, obnoxious, weigh more and be overweight, and be materialistic and entitled. That does not go for all black women, but from my observations, it seems to run in their culture. I know an extremely quiet, shy, and soft spoken black girl that I would've potentially dated if she wasn't overweight.

I also have a bias towards other races that I won't mention unless someone asks me lol. Again these are just generalizations and not everyone that is classified in those races fits those generalizations. But they are true for the most part and I see it often enough.

[rigmarole]

If you ask about your looks, people are going to answer. It's an opinion site where questions are posed and people share their opinions. If you can't take harsh criticism about being dark skinned, then make a new account and stop telling people you are dark skinned. Center your questions around other topics than your race/skin color/victimhood complex. If you bring that garbage to the conversation, you're going to get opinions on it.

[Here_We_Go_Again]

ok but why do you have to be so antagonistic and hateful with your response?

Is really the only response you can give something so hateful and cruel and just mean or nothing at all?

Like if the only thing you can say out your mouth is that you think that dark skinned woman look like apes or something like that then it really just puts your mindset into question do you understand?

[rigmarole]

If you think me telling you that people have a right to share their opinion on an opinion site is hateful then you're not fit to live in this world. I have no sympathy for you whatsoever because you refuse to acknowledge reality.

[Drew-1990]

I don't see that here at all, or at least I never witnessed it myself. I'm white and I have no issues with dark skin girls. Heck lots of times I find them attracted.

[exitseven]

Don't lump everyone together. Not everyone is like that. I have no reason not to think that you are a nice, kind person.

[LiamJHayden]

Which men? Most of us care about the type of person she is, not how melanin anhanced or deprived she is.

[CozyCoffin]

I haven't witnessed that. I've been on and off of this site for ten years.

[sirderpsalot123]

Most of them are probably trolling. Just block/report them.

[dudeinohio]

I'll always be nice to dark skinned women. I love them.

[Summeroflove]

They are just trolls. Ignore them.

[Here_We_Go_Again]

I'm not a troll i'm just trying to figure out why you guys like to hate on dark skinned women so much.

Like we get you guys don't want us to exist and like you would rather the planet just not have dark skinned women on it -

[Here_We_Go_Again]

* But why do you feel the need to be actively antagonistic towards us and terrorize us as well

[Billlewis]

Yes, ma'am, I just started following you and I'd like to invite you to follow me as well, if that's alright. Thank you very much.

[Summeroflove]

I’m not saying you’re a troll. I’m saying the guys saying that atr teolls

[Summeroflove]

Because they’re trolls. That’s why they antagonize people.

[Here_We_Go_Again]

I just got blocked by the other person for asking him why he has to Respond to dark women with the deepest level of hatred he has possible?

He claimed that he was sharing his opinion but all I asked him is that why do you have to share the most vile and disgusting pinion you can possibly share just to hurt that dark woman's feelings - And then he blocked me so that I couldn't respond to him

[Billlewis]

That's terrible.

[Summeroflove]

Yes. They’re trolls. They can’t back up the things they say. They just block people as a means to get the last word and create a echo chamber.

[Billlewis]

That's an excellent question.

[noohair]

Sorry, I follow Dr King. Content of character.

[AngryCarl]

I didn't think I was.

[Anonymous]

I don’t know why

[BarryLiverstone]

They are beautiful