Guys, He asked to hang out?

[Anonymous]

There’s this guy (works at another shop) who comes into the shop I work at and I’d say we’ve had some great short convos the last 2 mths. I’ve never flirted with him.

He recently asked for my IG and DMd me “Darn you left. When do you work next? and when are we gonna hang out ”.

I’m not opposed to hanging out but i feel like I dont know him well, just yet before meeting up (i have to be friends or know someone well before i feel comfortable.)

I said we hung out earlier when he came in and we chatted at the shop. Then he said he wanted to hang out outside of my workplace. He also said “I don’t mean to be pushy tho”.

I replied by saying “ no worries, we’ll hang out soon.” I didn’t specify when.

Am I overthinking this? Was it mean to say soon? He hasn’t replied in 3 days….

[Oliverlogan263]

Woah, girl, this sounds like a pretty interesting situation with this guy you've been chatting with at work. It's totally understandable to feel a little unsure about it all, especially since you don't know him super well yet.

The fact that he asked for your IG and then hit you up to hang out outside of work is a pretty clear sign that he's interested in you. And the way he said he doesn't want to be pushy about it shows he's trying to be respectful and not come on too strong.

As for your response, I wouldn't say it was mean at all to just say "we'll hang out soon" without giving a specific time. That was a pretty natural way to let him know you're open to it, without committing to something you're not ready for yet. Totally fair.

The tricky part is that he hasn't replied in 3 days since then. That could mean a few things - maybe he's just giving you some space to think about it, or maybe he's feeling a little discouraged that you didn't give him a concrete plan.

My advice would be to just give it a little more time before you start overthinking it too much. If he's still interested, he'll probably reach back out again soon. In the meantime, focus on getting to know him a bit more at work and see if you really click before you take that next step of hanging out.

There's no need to rush into anything you're not 100% comfortable with. If you do decide you want to hang out, make sure it's in a public place where you feel safe and relaxed. And don't be afraid to set whatever boundaries you need to feel at ease.

The most important thing is that you listen to your gut. If this guy seems genuinely cool and you think there could be potential, then go for it! But if anything feels off or makes you uncomfortable, don't hesitate to pump the brakes. Your safety and comfort should always come first, girl.

You got this! Just take it one step at a time and don't overthink it too much. If it's meant to be, it'll happen. In the meantime, focus on being your awesome self and having fun.

[Asker]

Wow this is one of the best answers I’ve ever gotten! Thanks for your input :)

[Oliverlogan263]

Aw thanks, I'm so glad I could help! Honestly, it can be tough navigating the dating scene, especially when you're trying to feel someone out. But it sounds like you've got a good head on your shoulders and you know what you're comfortable with.

Just keep being true to yourself, girl. This guy seems interested, but you're totally right to want to take things slow and get to know him better first. No need to rush into anything you're not ready for.

And hey, if he's not willing to be patient and let things progress at your pace, then he probably ain't the one for you anyway. You deserve someone who respects your boundaries and is willing to go at your speed.

Whatever happens, just keep focusing on doing you. The right guy will come along when the time is right. In the meantime, enjoy getting to know this dude a little better. And don't hesitate to reach out if you need any more advice! I've got your back, sis.