How do you know if a guy actually likes you or just wants the attention?

[Anonymous]

If a guy doesn’t really like you, why would he seek your attention?

[YourExLover69]

Signs He Likes You

1. *Consistent Effort*: He makes an effort to spend time with you, listen to you, and show interest in your life.
2. *Genuine Interest*: He asks meaningful questions, remembers important details, and shows genuine curiosity about your thoughts and feelings.
3. *Body Language*: He maintains eye contact, leans in when talking to you, and uses open and relaxed body language.
4. *Support and Encouragement*: He offers support, encouragement, and celebrates your successes.
5. *Vulnerability*: He opens up to you, shares his feelings, and is willing to be vulnerable.

Signs He Just Wants Your Attention
1. *Inconsistent Behavior*: He only reaches out sporadically or when it's convenient for him.
2. *Superficial Conversations*: He only talks about surface-level topics or tries to impress you with his accomplishments.
3. *Flirting with Others*: He flirts with other people in front of you or doesn't respect your boundaries.
4. *Lack of Follow-Through*: He makes promises or plans but doesn't follow through.
5. *Only Reaches Out for Physical Affection*: He only initiates contact when he wants physical affection or intimacy.

Red Flags
1. *Disrespect*: He disrespects your boundaries, opinions, or feelings.
2. *Manipulation*: He tries to manipulate or guilt-trip you into doing something.
3. *Inconsistency*: He frequently changes his plans, feelings, or intentions.
4. *Lack of Communication*: He doesn't communicate openly or honestly with you.

Trust Your Instincts
1. *Pay Attention to Your Gut*: If you feel like something is off or doesn't feel right, trust your instincts.
2. *Communicate Openly*: Talk to him about your feelings, concerns, and boundaries.
3. *Set Boundaries*: Establish clear boundaries and expectations for the relationship.
4. *Observe His Actions*: Watch how he treats you and others, and observe whether his actions align with his words.

[Asker]

Great thanks and why would a guy do this just to get your attention, purely just an ego boost or he likes you but is unsure? Wouldn’t you have to be attractive for the ego boost?

[Silver158]

I agree with you on these buuuut Some of these could be circumstantial. Like the guy may not want to show too much interest in a workplace environment (or may not get the opportunity to because he's working).

For example. these two would be more appropriate in the workplace due to work commitments and appropriate behaviour policies to an extent

*Inconsistent Behavior*: He only reaches out sporadically or when it's convenient for him.
*Superficial Conversations*: He only talks about surface-level topics or tries to impress you with his accomplishments

[DishLady]

MHO...

[Asker]

@Silver158 interesting you say that, because yes we are in the workplace. So you think he’d tone down potentially liking me because of coming across unprofessional etc?

[Silver158]

Maybe. Try and get him outside of work, ask him to lunch or something and see if it changes anything

[EzraIsShy76028]

Well I imagine if a guy actually likes you he would try to get to know you better, have full conversations, etc. Whereas if he just wanted attention he would just make superficial comments. As for why a guy would seek your attention if he doesn't like you, maybe he just wants a quick fuck but not a real relationship.

[DishLady]

Honestly, that's a question I asked myself over the past week or so. A guy physically chased me down to ask for a second chance with me after saying he wasn't available, blah blah blah... but tbh I think he was just missing the attention.

HE LIKES ME
You'll know if a guy wants to be with you because he makes an effort to be with you. He'll call and text and chat you up regularly. He'll compliment you in a genuine and caring way and make you feel... precious. (Not "like a queen" the way some girls talk about on here, but special compared to how he treats other gals.)

You'll know he likes you when he actually wants your input about things and cares to share things with you, etc. Guys don't open up very easily, so when a guy does this it's usually not just for attention.

If a guy's tagged as "a player" and then suddenly seems like he has no game, turns away from the very idea of other girls (even if a pile of very attractive girls are right there and ripe for the picking) ... and only has eyes for you... and is suddenly able to set his phone down to hang with you... it's not just for attention, it's the real deal.

HE LIKES ME NOTYou can tell a guy's just looking for attention when he's talking to you but also scrolling on his phone or looking around for his friends or seems edgy.

You can tell a guy's just looking for attention when you only get intermittent calls/texts (or texts at very odd times of the day when most people are asleep).

If the guy is a player and you see he's saying hi to every passing/moving thing then he's just an attention hog and not someone you really need to be around.

[alice55]

Well guys begin to like a woman after some months of talking / fucking her usually so if you're just flirting it's just for the attention and he's most likely talking to other women or trying to hit on multiple others women (even if nobody respond to him).

[Finchie40]

He will invest a lot of his time into you , and look forward to hearing from you or seeing you as much as possible. He pretty much makes you his priority and tries to make plans with you as soon as possible. He is very attentive to you and loves being with you and loves talking to you , he won’t go days, without communicating with you , if he does? Then he will tell you the reason why, because he doesn’t want you thinking he doesn’t care about you. You won’t even have to ask that question because he will automatically tell you why and apologize for not reaching out to you sooner. If he doesn’t tell you why? , then that’s a red flag you should consider a red flag , if he isn’t being honest and upfront with you. That pretty much means he only likes the convenience of you when it’s convenient for him. Don’t fall for that shit whatsoever.

[Anonymous]

Maybe you just make him really anxious, and he doesn't know what to do.

[Asker]

How do you mean?

[Opinion Owner]

He likes you, but you make him really shy.

[Asker]

Ah right, yeah that could definitely be a possibly thinking about it. Thank you

[Rosexøxø]

If he doesn’t have any other priorities it’s probably attention they want, or something they feel they need, or feel they lack.

works for ladies too.

[NicholasRedone]

👀 LOL
Try asking that of the handful of more of women who, and they are good looking to reasonably attractive, stared at me over the years unblinking 👀 👁️

🙂😋♀️

[OneViewpoint]

Maybe he doesn't want the attention but he doesn't want to tell you that. Maybe he's just being nice / social.

[dustybiker2]

Some people are social.

Just ask them "Are you hitting on me?" And smile. It's not difficult.

[SeriouslyNotSerious]

If a guy likes you, you wouldn't have to ask. They're very obvious when they do.

[Nikki1989]

They ALL want the attention, so how can we know?

[GAGsucksballs89170]

He wants to actually be around you

Think about the same thing you want, when you like a guy, you never say no to being around him, right?

[GlowUpGirly5]

You wouldn't be asking us this question. Come on use your brain

[Anonymous]

The same way you tell if a woman likes you or just wants the attention.

[nawtee_me]

Ask him…. Communication is the key….

[Shy_Steve]

When he is Confident and Flirting.

[Crazzyyworld]

He shows his dick to you

[Anonymous]

He likes you

[Asker]

But what about if you pick up signs, you tell him you like him and he doesn’t respond, but he keeps acting nice and involved?

[Opinion Owner]

U told him I liked him and he didn't respond seems strange?

[Asker]

Yes but shamefully in an email. Eeks! I know not ideal.

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe he never read it

[Asker]

Yes maybe

[Maria0002]

He’ll actually listen to you.

[NicholasRedone]

There's nothing worse than a woman who doesn't listen. Lol. There's been times I've asked any attractive woman to do something for me and they'll mini roll their eyes and go to their offsider less appealing female "can you for him" and then walk off - like what am I chopped liver the expression hahahaha 😂🤣

[jahaims]

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