Why does he stare at me this way?

[Anonymous]

I noticed one of classmates has been starring at me but he doesn’t say anything. He’s actually a tall, quiet, and macho guy with good physique who’s married in his 30s. But lately I noticed he will stare at me across the room or by some of my movements such as yesterday when all I did was turned my body to my right on my seat because I was thinking of getting up… he would looked over right away and it shook me where I felt awkward. It confuses me. The last time I said hi to him and told him he did a good job on his presentation. He responded but he doesn’t keep the engagement going. So it doesn’t make me feel like he stared because he wants to talk to me.

[Dboy97]

It sounds to me like he likes you/finds you attractive, but has no intention of acting on it due to being married. When I was with my ex this happened twice over a period of 8 years. Both were situations where I had a coworker who I found extremely attractive. I would catch myself looking at them without even realizing it. It was impossible not to interact with them due to the work environment and they were both very receptive and friendly with me. One definitely liked me back. However, I am not the type to cheat, and to me even entertaining it in my head is cheating. So, consciously I would look away, and avoid interactions where possible. But I would still catch myself looking and I’m sure they did to. I would honestly just leave it be and pay it no mind.

[Asker]

Honestly, when I made this question, it was really hard to believe what you mentioned because it did not make any sense to me since he would stare but keep his distance yet lights up if I do talk to him. But couple weeks ago, he started bantering with me. It felt really natural and fun, it made me realized I never knew his personality because maybe he was holding back all this time and how he is reserve & polite with everyone else.. but he only picks on me and make jokes that will get a reaction out of me. It actually made me noticed him now, especially because I ask chatgpt and it literally gave me the same explanation as you did. Can I ask how did you knew the girl liked you back? I don't know if he knows I like him since it was pretty obvious all this time I really liked this other guy that we both know.

[Anonymous]

It's impossible to know definitively why your classmate stares at you without more information or direct communication. His behavior could stem from a variety of reasons, including simple observation, a distracted gaze, or even a subconscious reaction to your movements. Given his quiet demeanor and lack of sustained engagement after your greeting, it's less likely to be an overt attempt to initiate conversation. However, the fact that you feel uncomfortable suggests his staring is noticeable and potentially disruptive, and it may be worth considering if you want to address it directly or simply try to ignore it.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Cause he likes what he see but he's shy