I apologised to him, he blocked me again?

[KezHarris]

I did some really impulsive bad things because of untreated adhd — I wasn’t even aware at the time what I was dealing with.

I’ve messed up a relationship with a previous mentor because of it. We ended up having sex and then I got worried he was taking advantage of me — I am really not sure — but he went a bit strange on me. Then I cut him off, said I don’t want him to contact me again and told a few people what happened because it felt weird and I wasn’t sure whether I was being manipulated.

Now with adhd meds, I can regulate my emotions better and see things more clearly, I think he was a good mentor and I feel fondly towards him — I feel like I was the one who messed up through impulsive actions.

i apologised to him today and he blocked me. I feel awful but it’s stopped those spiralling thoughts. I guess he doesn’t want anything to do with me, which is fair enough.

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1 y

Well tbh, he went around telling people about the sex with me — including my current lecturer — then my current lecturer was looking at me like a piece of meat. I remember why I cut him off now, just that these emotions suck. I felt like I was in love with this lecturer and he treated me like dirt. I actually think he needed to apologise to me, but I was also at fault because I should have asked him what he told them before blocking him.

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1 y

He messaged me back saying it’s fine and to work on feeling better… hmm.. I’ll see how this goes. I can’t tell whether he’s blocked me on text so not sure if he blocked me after he sent that.

[thegreenyogi]

It's difficult for a person who doesn't have adhd to deal with a person who does have it because our brains are wired differently so I can only speak from experience. I was in a relationship with a person who suffered from adhd and it lasted 3 years. In the end I decided to let him go. And when he came back and wanted to talk I said no and blocked him. Even if we are people without mental health issues we get hurt too and we tend to think it's best to cut ties completely and it's what has happened in your situation.

[thegreenyogi]

Thank you!

[MLGbreezy]

No I think you were right to block him but I also think you guys shouldn’t have engaged in that kind of relationship to begin with he’s your teacher you guys are most definitely not supposed to be having sex.


All these teachers nowadays fucking there students instead of teaching them. Where was this when I was in school.

[Blunky]

You're ruminating, a big part of ADHD. Some people are more understanding of mental health issues. He's not one of them. You're much better off without him and your mental health will thank you later.

[KezHarris]

Thanks

[Blunky]

You're welcome, and hang tough. Your mental health always comes first.

[KezHarris]

Oh god that’s what he said to me when I told him I was struggling!

[Blunky]

Hmm, so no follow through huh. It's easy for people to act like they care in the moment. I unfortunately had to do this many times as a paramedic, though that's a wildly different situation. Take it as a win that you were the one to reach out and try to fix something you felt guilty about. That takes character and the ones that matter will appreciate it.

[KezHarris]

Thank you!!

[Friendlybro79]

Glad you got medicine for your ADHD. I hope things get better.

[Jennz6]

Kez, don’t worry he’s not worth it

[KezHarris]

Thank you

[Jennz6]

@KezHarris
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