Is boyfriend embarrassed of me?

Question

I am 25. And he is a few years older than me. Have been dating him for a year and a half. I don't care about social media, but he has never made a relationship status of us. He has never posted me. And he has posted his exes in the past... one girl he was with for a long time and had a child with her, so I understand. I'm sure they were much closer then than me and him are since we have no kids together. But he had a girlfriend after his child's mother and he posted her too. He claims that he just posted her to make his child's mother mad... but I don't know. When I ask him why he doesn't post about me or at least make a relationship status then he says that he's older now and doesn't want to post all about me in case I break up with him or the relationship fails... he says he's not embarrassed of me and thinks im beautiful but it's hard to believe since he posted his exes. It really makes me feel like he at least thought they were prettier and that I might be a downgrade so he's not nearly as proud to show me off.. and in the year that he's been with me, I have only met his mom once and his brother a couple times. He doesn't want me to hang out with him and his friends, because he claims it's because he doesn't want his friends to take me away from him... but again, he hung out with his other girlfriends with his friends. I'm feeling very self conscious. Does it sound like he's embarrassed of me and thought his exes were prettier or better, therefore he was more proud to show them off?

Anonymous · Answer

Not necessarily. I’ve been w my girl for 17 years, I don’t think I’ve ever posted a pic of us on social media. Hell, it took me years before I changed my relationship status. Which I don’t get why it is such a big deal on social media to women? As for why I don’t post pics of us, because I like my privacy. She does the same w me because she knows I like my privacy.
He may have matured more then what he used to be w his ex. I can understand, I’m not saying I agree w it but yes that may have been true that he posted his other ex online to make his baby’s mother mad. The other reason I don’t post my girl online is because I don’t want my exes looking her up. Not because I’m ashamed of her but because I didn’t want them starting shit w her. I ended up w her because my ex cheated on me while I was overseas, but she claims I cheated first w my current girl which is far from the truth. Plus I have a son w my ex. My ex doesn’t like my girl even though she’s never met her so again I don’t want her snooping around on my girls profile. She’s locked it though, but even then she could go through my son to look at her profile.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

After reading your post your instincts might be on the right track. It is a change in behavior. Still, hard to really say whether entirely true or not but I am
Leaning towards your sense as well. I mean for me, as far as bring a girlfriend around friends and family, that prt wouldn’t phase me at all. Especially bot the part about my friends taking ‘her’ away from me … and my girlfriends are definitely attractive so it isn’t because they are average or whatever. As for the social media aspect, I really cannot speak towards as I do not use social media. I will however note, in modern dating some women find it bizarre that I do not have any. I guess I have no desire to take selfies and post my meals as some form of self ingratiation. But that is just me….

Abbycado · Answer

Why don’t you ask him. Surely you two talk once a month. 🙄

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