I feel like my boyfriend is far too friendly and nice to pretty women at work, how can I get him to see it this way?

[Anonymous]

Before he and I got together officially he talked to other women at work. He really just flirted a lot. He had a couple numbers but it never went outside of work with them. Only with me. We got close outside of work hours. We clicked. He asked me to be his girlfriend. He did a girlfriend proposal and everything. Though we ended up being together I find it that he’s still too nice to the pretty women he attempted to talk to before we became a couple. This one chick/co worker he’s always saying “Goodmorning” to and prolonging conversation with her. He and I work in separate departments but I pay attention a lot. I won’t be messy and say anything at work but it just seems odd to me.

[Anonymous]

So he can’t say good morning or talk to his coworkers? Is he supposed to be ignoring them? I don’t know what you want him to do and I don’t know what you expected of a man you knew was the type to flirt around at work and that’s even how he ended up with you? You expected that he would stop all sorts of interaction with the rest of the office? For the future you should keep in mind that what you’re seeing is likely what you’re getting and how he met you is likely how he’ll meet someone else. So if you see him being a player, toxic, lazy, gamer or what not that’s likely what you get. And if you met by him approaching you, him föirting with you at work, him slidinc into your dms, him cheating on someone with you or whatever that’s likely how he’ll meet his potential next woman.

[Anonymous]

You literally already saw for yourself who he was and chose to date him anyway, what did you expect? For him to change who he is as a person for you? You should’ve never dated someone who’s as big a flirt as him if you’re this jealous and insecure of a woman.

[Opinion Owner]

On top of that I wouldn’t even say what he’s doing lately is flirting it’s like you don’t want him to maintain the friendships he had before you at all just because it’s with pretty women. They were around first and they’re his coworkers, stop acting like such an immature, jealous baby. It looks bad on you.

[Asker]

Everything isn’t being jealous of insecure. Every feeling doesn’t need or have a name. I’m not jealous because nothing in me feels the need to go after the other pretty women and compete so that he won’t want them. I’m worried is all. As secure as I am, I have doubt. I’m human. Everything isn’t so black and white. Some things are complex especially considering the few details I gave. You can’t say what it is I’m truly feeling.

[Opinion Owner]

Obviously EVERYTHING isn’t being insecure or jealous, and obviously I am not speaking on how you feel. BUT, in what world is it NOT insecure when you don’t want him to talk to women for longer than “hi and bye” just because they’re pretty? In what world does a woman who isn’t jealous, ask for that?

I’m human too last time I checked and my man can talk to whoever he wants, I don’t worry about him getting snatched up or distracted by other women because I KNOW he’s all about me. I’m not threatened by any woman who was around before me because I’m secure. Can you say the same? Nope, you have doubts, and that is literally insecure. Check your definitions and reflect on your actions.

[Opinion Owner]

If you want to continue justifying and being in denial about this jealous behavior, go right on ahead but honey you’re gonna lose you’re man. His female friends wouldn’t be the ones potentially giving him ultimatums or making him feel guilty for being anything other than himself — YOU are.

He’s not going to pick the person who pushes him towards ruining friendships or making it awkward for himself on their behalf. He’s just not. So keep on, please keep asking for ways to suggest him be less friendly with his friends so he can go vent to them and they can say exactly what I’m saying — you’re being insecure. Drive that wedge if you wanna.

[Asker]

Do you even have a man?

[Opinion Owner]

I’m engaged! Maybe one day you’ll be able to relate if you stop acting like such a jealous bitch😘

[Opinion Owner]

Wait I already said I have a man! Lol learn to slow down and read dopey😭💀

[Asker]

Lmaoo you engaged but somehow on a site like this? Okayyy

[Asker]

Oh I read it. That don’t mean I believe it.

[Opinion Owner]

Who asked you to believe it? I swear I could never in my life give any less of a fuck what someone like YOU thinks. Why would I ever take advice from you anyway? You’re insecure and jealous as shit if I ever acted like you I’d never have a long term relationship. Fuck no. What man wants a woman who bitches about the friends he ALREADY HAD? You’re gonna push him right into their arms and it’ll be alllll your fault but please! Continue being straight up WEIRD.

[Opinion Owner]

And what does being on a social app have to do with being engaged? Should people in relationships not use social media because they’re in relationships? You literally sound dumber by the second like that’s was so stupid to say lol.

[Asker]

This is not a normal social media app and surely isn’t one most people know about. If we talking about Facebook, IG, X that’s different. For an engaged woman you sure have a lot of time on your hands to answer random questions from strangers Lmaoo

[Asker]

You steady responding though even though you don’t care Lmaoo

[Asker]

You don’t even know me outside this post. I could be trolling and bored lmaoo

[Asker]

You’re the one yelling out insults in caps to a stranger on online. That would make you the weird one Lmaoo

[Opinion Owner]

You’re really fcking weird for that bro lol it doesn’t matter WHAT app I’m using, am I not supposed to have free time outside of my relationship? Since you are (allegedly) in a relationship, why are you here responding? Shouldn’t you have NO free time on your hands? Lmaooo you’re a fool.

Yelling? I’m sorry smooth brain, do you see the ability to italicize words in responses? Exactly, you can’t. The capital words are for EMPHASIS. Not yelling. You seem pretty bored and miserable, hating on beautiful women at work, you have no response to anything I’ve said about your jealousy/insecurity except excuses and insults lol that’s how you know you’re wrong.☺️

[slatyb]

You need to get over this unless he is giving them attention away from work.

[spartan55]

You think it's odd that he talks to his coworkers? Ooookay...

[Anonymous]

Saying goodmirning to someone is flirting?

They are stuck in the same space for at least 8 hours, of course they're gonna talk to each other.

[Asker]

Even so, I don’t believe in a man ever just harmlessly talking or simply being friendly with pretty women. Even if the excuse is that they see each other 8 hours out of a day. He doesn’t talk to/chat with every one he works with. Especially considering where we work, it doesn’t require it. It’s not your average suit wearing 9-5.

[Opinion Owner]

Break up with him, then. You're being ridiculous.