Why does male coworker act flirty/friendly then completely distant?

Honestly... I don't know why he does that but my advice is if you want to keep the job and you think the flirting and stuff might jeopardize it... Don't flirt back anymore... You can still be friendly just not flirty anymore and he'll probably take the hint and stop flirting too... 🤷
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Abort abort abort. Abort the ship.
Dont trust me but believe that these mind games are fked up and it ain't gonna end well foe your job + family.
Unless you want live on the edge.
Is this affected by whoever is around? He may not want others seeing him flirty with others.
No. His behavior doesn’t change depending on who’s around. Like in the break room this was in front of several other coworkers. And then other times he’s flirty when we’re completely alone in a room.
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The real question is why do women act this way? Could be your answer.
That’s a good thought, except I’d have no idea. 😂 I would never act that way. Here are my guesses:
1. He is just like this, flirty by nature, and so perhaps he doesn’t realize that he’s coming off “flirty” towards me. So when I respond and flirt back, he doesn’t know why I’m flirting with him, so he freaks out, acts super distant towards me to send the message that he’s not interested in that way.
2. He feels bad about how he’s been flirting because he’s married so he goes back and forth, hot and cold, trying to control his and my feelings from going too far.
3. He is completely unaware that he does this, and is having a bad day, or something is on his mind making him come off cold towards me.
That’s all I can think of.
Oops, I forgot option #3.
He flirts with women at work as an ego boost, but then when I’m obviously responding and flirting back, he freaks out and acts cold the next day to send the clear message that his flirting in no way meant he was interested. But then of course inevitably will flirt again in the future when he needs the ego boost. Long story short, he’s playing me.
Unfortunately I’m frustrated because I worry it’s this, #4. Which honestly is super annoying and not very considerate to send women mixed signals just to see how they react back, when it’s solely to massage your self esteem. Then act cold the next day. I think I’m just going to respond by not responding when he starts being all super friendly and flirty towards me. Because I don’t want these mind games.
Well it's probably him not getting flirting back or its the guy wanting sex and moving on.
Might be he did not feel you two gave him attention back.
Maybe tell him your frustrations?
So, what happened after he took the napkin?
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