Is walking a date to men now?

[Anonymous]

Do men think asking a girl for a walk is a date? This guy is fifty and I’m almost 30.

[HollyK21]

I mean a date is what you make it, and if his focus is on chatting without much distraction then that’s fine. There are other ways to do this though, like coffee, cafe, someplace with a low amount of foot traffic. Sometimes it’s more comfortable to meet for the first time in that sort of setting anyway vs out at some park or street with not many people around depending on where it’s at. I’d rather save the walk for after the date.

[Asker]

Yeah I think it’s low pressure FOR HIM to say we can walk… but it also doesn’t sound enticing to me. Because I barely know him so what would we talk about on said walk.

[HollyK21]

No I definitely agree! Everyone’s different but I personally would prefer an ice breaker before going on a walk.

[jazzy34]

A date can be anything. You don’t have to always go to a restaurant or a movie as a date. Don’t be so high maintenance that going for a walk as a date is beneath you.

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

Age racket says (36-45) - are you almost 30 going backwards or per leg?

Anyway, if they guy is 50 it could be a date idea for him - in some 5-10 years you can take him out on morning strolls feeding ducks and getting his newspapers. You know, like the Romanian caretaker we paid for my grandad. Only difference you'll be doing that for free.

[Asker]

Eyero

[Asker]

Roll

[ProbablyClueless]

It really depends on the situation, but I generally don't think of a walk as a date. We might go for a walk as part of a date, but that's generally not going to be the main activity.

[Asker]

That’s why I’m confused why a guy said take me on a walk

[ProbablyClueless]

Is this a first date? Or maybe just a chance to see you on his break?

[Asker]

I’ve barely ever spoken to this man but he is more acquainted with my parent.
So yeah it would be the first “date” although I don't know if you’d call a walk a date.

[ProbablyClueless]

Maybe he’s thinking that going for a walk would keep things lower pressure because he’s friends with your parent?

I don’t think it’s necessarily bad to go for a walk date, but there should be some kind of explanation for it.

[Asker]

Haha yeah he should explain more. But I’m guessing he probably never will. It will be awkward if I ever run into him again.

Maybe you’re right he’s too scared to do a real date because he knows my parent.

[ProbablyClueless]

Oh… why would it be awkward? Have you already turned him down or something?

Is there a reason you wouldn’t just ask for clarity?

[Asker]

I’m very shy honestly. I could not confront him and ask anything like that. If he brought it up I might say yes or I’ll think about it but I’m still on the fence about the walking thing.

It would be awkward because I’d feel awkward I guess knowing he might be attracted or have feelings I have no idea but yeah, I wouldn’t want to have an awkward convo.

[ProbablyClueless]

You could try asking him if he would be interested in getting a cup of coffee instead? That’s really low stress and a bit more “date-y”

[Asker]

I’d prefer dinner if he’s gonna ask m on a date at all. I also wouldn’t suggest anything , believe it’s his job

[ProbablyClueless]

Why on Earth wouldn’t you suggest something if you wanted to go out on a date with him? That’s basic participation.

But I guess that kinda raises the question of whether he’s even asking you out on a date then. Do you know that he’s intending this to be a date?

[Asker]

Uhm he wants to go out or go walking with me… I thought I said the whole time here that going on a walk doesn’t sound like a date.

[ProbablyClueless]

The way I was interpreting things, I thought the reason you were confused was because it seemed like he was intending this to be a date, but then he asked you to go walking with him, which you found confusing because you don’t think of going on a walk as a date.

That’s why I was asking if you knew that he was actually intending the walk to be a date.

[sirderpsalot123]

I wouldn't go too crazy for a first date, but I'd do a little more than taking her on a walk.

[Asker]

Yeah that’s why I’m confused why he can’t offer anything better

[Staximus]

Maybe if it's walking around a cool place and stop somewhere for some food or drinks. It definitely gives you time to talk and get to know each other

[Asker]

He didn’t say stop or eat. He said walk which is boring.