From a guys perspective - what is his behaviour telling you?

[Anonymous]

I had a situationship with a guy a while back. It was really intense but it got to a point where I made the decision to cut him off, for various reasons, and told him not to contact me anymore. He still tried too, - however I ignored his last two flirtatious messages trying to reconnect, after sending me an “apology” which wasn’t really an apology.. about 4 weeks later he got a girlfriend. I also discovered he was also messing this girl around when he was messing me about. However, he had always followed my social media, but he has never once followed her back on any social media. He won’t follow her, won’t post her etc. But during the first few months of his relationship he still followed me and would continue to watch what I was doing. I had already unfollowed him prior to this. Eventually he unfollowed me. But recently I caught him viewing my stories.

I’ve been doing the inner work to heal from the situation because I did really like him however his behaviour is the reason I cut him off in the first place. When I saw him in my story views on Instagram, a year and a half after I cut contact with him, I discovered he is still with his girlfriend, however he still won’t follow her or post her on social media. It’s always her posting him. She follows him and comments on his pictures but he will not follow her back STILL. His Facebook relationship status also says “single”. Can somebody please tell me, from a guys perspective why he is actively checking up on me even though he is in a relationship? And what i’m more curious to ask, is why won’t he follow his partner? He has never had an issue following previous girlfriends in the past, but he will not follow this new girl and they’ve been together over a year.

I know I shouldn’t let it bother me but I’m curious as to what people’s opinions are about his behaviour?

Updates

9 mo

Before anyone say’s it’s childish - I understand some of ya’ll may think that, I’m just curious lol

[spartan55]

So, you are hung up on why he doesn't follow his girlfriend (or whatever). That's about the dumbest thing I've heard today.
You got into a stupid situationship and got what you signed up for. A situationship is just a bougie term for fuck buddy. There is NO COMMITMENT. That, of course is how it played out. Now you are crying the blues like you were his long term girlfriend. Uh, no honey. You got played because you were gullible and easy.

[Asker]

A situationship is leading you on to believe it’s something more. I’m only trying to understand someone’s behaviour who has hurt me. I may have been gullible but I’m not easy

[spartan55]

'understand his behavior'... and how does that help you?
You got used, there is nothing deeper to understand.

[Asker]

I want to know why someone is checking up on me still after all this time. That’s all. Thank you for clarifying that I’m well aware 🤣

[spartan55]

To be nosey? Why does it matter? You are wasting your bandwith on something that doesn't matter. If it's such a problem then block him. We both know you won't do that though. But you'll still complain.

[Asker]

I did today. Just wanted to ask as I was curious, But thank you!

[spartan55]

I think that was the best decision you could make. Best of luck to you.

[Anonymous]

It is weird he has a girlfriend but seems to still show you interest. I had a girl stalk me while she had a boyfriend (I'm clueless and didn't connect the dots at the time). I have been entangled in a situation with a lot of similarities. I would guess he still has some feelings for you.

[Shiprex]

Maybe she doesn't want him following her or he doesn't want her seeing who else he follows.

[Avicenna]

Trying to have his cake and eat it too