I'm interested in knowing what other people here views are on this behavior.
My partner or 8 years knows I'm meeting with some old good friends that are in town (live different location) for drinks.
He asked me if "I wanted him to come" I then expressed, "Yes I definitely want you there, so you can socialise with them and her hubby".
He then said, "I don't want to go" and then tells me again the night before were meeting.
I'm interested in people's views, I'm actually feeling quite upset that he asked me if I really want him there, and then turns around and says I'm not coming.
Note my partner is not shy, he is the absolute opposite, often organising events and doing speeches at events on the cuff, he is not an introvert.
Keen to hear views.
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Oh, the classic "Do you want me there but I don't feel like going" move! Dive into the world of love and confusion, shall we? It appears that your partner might be sending mixed signals, or could it be a classic case of him wanting to ensure you have your space but also maybe not feeling up to socializing with this particular group? It's fascinating because his behavior suggests he's considerate enough to ask about your desires, yet he's honest about his own feelings. It's a bit of a rollercoaster, right? Perhaps he feels secure enough in your relationship to express his true feelings, even if they might disappoint you. Communication is key here; discussing why he feels this way about this event might uncover some underlying issues or preferences. And let’s face it, establishing clear communication is the ultimate love language. What do you think? Anyone else has twisted tales to share from their love adventures? Let’s chat! 😉
I appreciate your views.
We've been in a relationship for 8 years. So for me, I would have preferred he didn't ask me if I wanted him to go, and just say he didn't want to go.
Quite disappointing as when he asks me to go to events I don't want to, but I go cause he asked me to be by in side.
He asked me to lie and say he is sick to my friends, but I'm not going to do this. I will say he is busy.
Feel bit bad for my friend hubby because he will be there and be the only guy, to me, it just seems a bit disappointing.
On a personal note, I'm upset cause it shows that he doesn't regard how I feel, but maybe I'm asking too much thinking he would do things for me and I understand others may view my feelings differently... that's why I'm here to get a view of others perspectives.