Is my coworker gay and I’m making him uncomfortable or he thinks I misinterpreted his actions? Why is he more reserved with me?

[Anonymous]

Me and him had a lot in common blah blah blah I mentioned we did because there were a lot of coincidences…

I noticed he seems to open up with other coworkers a bit.. laughing but with me it’s up and down and I have to initiate most times. For example: I said good morning one day and he initiated it the next

I don’t know what’s going on but I feel like things are a tad awkward. He is a bit reserved or something I don't know

he dresses clean, skinny and has a nerdy/ slight feminine voice but it still has bass

he's heavily into sports and is a sports commentator so he’s not that shy

how to not make things uncomfortable

Gay and reserved

Just naturally reserved

Comment something else

Possibly gay and self conscious

[Finchie40]

Maybe he assumes you are coming on to him , which he doesn’t want you to get the wrong impression, he doesn’t dislike you , he just isn’t into you that way. Unfortunately a lot of men and women assume the opposite sex is flirting with them , when really they aren’t , it happens a lot. I am a a social person and I enjoy mingling with people, I’m not really shy , I just like socializing , a lot of times when I socialize with girls’ in a friendly way , a lot of them assume I am flirting with them when really I’m not. so the same thing happens with girls’ when she socializes in a friendly way with a guy , he might automatically assume you are flirting with him and showing interest in him. So it just goes to show not everyone is use to socializing , so they just assume you are
Flirting with them , when really you aren’t’ why I always say a female knows pretty Much what another females’ intentions are , just like a male knows what another males’ intentions are. There have been times when a girl was talking to me in a friendly way and I had no clue she was flirting with me until one of my girl friends’ told me she was , I would be dumbfounded and say No she isn’t, she is just being friendly , and then she would say look how she comes close to you and look at her body language when she is around you. She likes you , so i took my girl friends’ word and asked the girl for her phone number and she instantly gave it to me. So again it shows how guys’ and girls’ are different when it comes to flirting or being friendly

[Asker]

I never flirted with him. I don’t even know how to flirt

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

The only discomfort seems to be yours because you don’t have any open approval with this guy. If he doesn’t like you, you can’t force him to nor can you change his mind just because you want him to. There’s also nothing in your description of him that indicates he’s gay aside from your own biases. Maybe your homophobia is so blatant that he doesn’t like you so he avoids you, even though he’s straight.

[Anonymous]

Just talk to him and try to get him to open up.

He isn’t gay until proven otherwise like he says it openly on his own.