Do guys even feel bad for ghosting a girl after taking her virginity?

[Anonymous]

Last year a guy ghosted me after he took my virginity. Granted we didn’t know each other well, I regret it in hindsight because I wanted it to be more special. But I still see him around quite a bit, he looks at me like he hates me or something. I became extremely attached after, tried to stay in contact but he wouldn’t reply. it broke my heart if I’m being honest and I’ve still not gotten over it. I feel like if it was the other way around and someone was obsessed with me because I’d taken their virginity then I would at least have the respect to be friends with that person. I think the reason I haven’t been able to get over it is because I haven’t confronted him with how sad and angry I feel because he knowingly took my virginity with no intention of getting to know me further. but he’s gonna think I’m some crazy person and probably gonna embarrass myself further, since everyone already seems to know about it and probably thinks I’m a slut. I just want to talk to him but he’s such a significant person in my life and I mean nothing to him. He’s probably gonna try get a restraining order lol but I just want him to care at least a little bit.

[Shiprex]

This is a sad story, I am sorry you were treated like that. I think this dude is immature and unable to show proper respect or care about others.

When I lost my virginity it was the girl who approached me and made it clear she was into getting physical. So we went back to her sisters and got on with it. Next few days I tried to contact her but she wasn't interested although didn't realise it was my first time (and second) so I feel for you and can empathise but it's unfortunate that there are people who just want to fk around and use people for their own gratification.

My advice would be to try to see the good in you that shines out like a beacon and treat this boy with nonchalant abandon as if he doesn't exist.

[ChicoFromThe305]

You got played, quite common nowadays, you should've been more aware of the signs that were more than likely there, there's nothing you can do now, just move on, there's nothing he has that will benefit you

[Asker]

Well I was blacked out drunk so, not on my best decision making behaviour

[Anonymous]

You have to make peace with your choices. Losing it to him wasn’t the best choice but at the time it was what you wanted and what felt right. You can drive yourself crazy thinking of all the things you could’ve done different, like getting to know him better beforehand or even being in a relationship with the person you lost it to at the very least. But it was just a hookup for him, and there was no real connection with him to incite this regret you want him to feel. He’s a jerk who will get his karma, but you also made a poor choice in judgment and you have to accept this. So you can move on.

[Simslover92]

I'm so sorry girly. This happened to me when I was 21. Lost my vCard to a guy who slept with me a few more times before ghosting me. Took me almost 8 years to get over him. I definitely feel your pain. It truly sucks. But hopefully it doesn't take you as long as it took me to get over him.

[Asker]

8 YEARS… nooooooo

[Asker]

Why did it take so long (no offence)

[Simslover92]

Because I was so hung up over him. I slept with him more than once so I really thought that we would be something. And once he ghosted, my heart broke.

[Berethor]

He don't feel bad, he used you, should waited until marriage, you become damaged goods.

[Asker]

I was blacked out drunk and taken advantage of

[On_cloud_wine]

I’m sure to some extent but you move too fast and spread your legs open to someone, they feel less guilty

[On_cloud_wine]

They don’t think your wifey material, just a fun fast fling and they lose interest fast if that’s how they feel about you

[BaronVonBarron]

That is why people should not sleep with random people. Sex is something significant. Current culture is lying to us about it.

[jahaims]

The kind of guy that does that obviously doesn't care

[Anonymous]

He’s an asshole , but sadly that’s most men in today’s world

[ImalwaysrightOK]

Another one who gave it up to some loser.

[loveyouoak]

If you still love him I hope he gives you a chance

[Anonymous]

If the girl has no value, being ghosted is good.