Are my male best friends in love with me?

[MissPiggy2398]

Firstly id like to say im married and both these guys are aware of this. I want to know others opinions because people at work say stuff and I didn't believe it to begin with but over the years im starting to think there behaviour is strange. They might just love me as a friend but it could be something else.

I met Johnny 4 years ago. He was apart of a friend group i was in but fell apart due to falling outs. Me and Johnny stuck together. Johnny has a lot if mental health issues and struggles a lot with being autistic and poor. a lot of people judge him too quickly and don't understand him like i do as to why we have a very special relationship because I have the patients and understanding not a lot of others do with him because im high masking myself and came from a poor family growing up.

Whenever he has episodes I seem to be the only one who can get through to him mainly because im honest with him and dont baby him. I've threatened no contact before if he didn't take his medication and he said that really scared him. We have a sibling like relationship but I can never fully trust men.

Then came Peter. Peter is a friend of Johnny's and he had a crush on me before knowing me. Johnny told him I was a lot older then him and getting married and peter backed off and went on to date another girl. I later got to know peter and I actually really got on well with him because he understood Johnny too and could relate with me. Peter is very sweet and funny and i enjoy his company as a friend.

He recently broke up with his girlfriend and I've been a shoulder for him to cry on. I've spoken to him in the past about him having a crush on me before he was very embarrassed and I told him I didn't care as long as its in the past.

Johnny is trying to get peter to date again after his break up and peter keeps saying he likes blonde girls and he likes this girl called Rebecca. I constantly get asked if Rebecca is my sister because we look so alike.

I don't want to be that girl.

Updates

7 mo

I don't want to be that girl thinks everyone fancies her but I don't always trust men and I don't know if i should back off a little from being as close friends with them

[Finchie40]

Some opposite sex friends’ can want more than just friendship , unfortunately it happens more than we think it does. Even if you already have a partner , some opposite sex friends’ don’t give a shit , they will still flirt with you or joke with you , hoping to have a chance with you. It clearly sounds like your opposite sex friends’ wouldn’t hesitate to have a chance with you, but since you are married , they are somewhat being respectful to you for that reason , but if you flirted back with them and hinted that you are interested in them that way , I guarantee they would be all about it and not hesitate. Some of my girl friends’ that I was just friends’ with wanted more than just friendship , even though I was already in a relationship with a girl , they didn’t care and eventually tried making a move on me, telling me they would be a better girlfriend to me over my current partner. Unfortunately friends’ can interfere in your relationship without you realizing they are , , so if your male friends’ are investing a lot of their time into you , that may mean they want more than just friendship with you. Why I tell people all the time that are in relationships to never prioritize your friends’ over your partner , because some friends’ can easily interfere in your relationship and add fire to your relationship as well, especially if your partner is seeing things that you aren’t seeing, especially with opposite sex friends’ The truth is guys’ Know Guys’ and Girls’ know Girls’ , so if your partner isn’t happy about one of your opposite sex friendships , it’s not because he is insecure , it’s because he knows what that motherfucker is trying to do , and you are blind to it because you think oh he is just a friend , that is nice to me , not realizing it’s a friend that wants to bend you over. Why I no longer invest a lot of time into opposite sex friends’ when I am in a relationship with a girl , out of respect for her and I

[jahaims]

I don't think Johnny is into you like that at all but its hard to say for the other guy. I don't know if this helps you at all but I am Autistic as well and seem to be able to maintain platonic relationships with females easily compared to allistic males.

[Anonymous]

Nice use of AI right here.

[MissPiggy2398]

Lol thank you I dont use AI... my spellings and grammar is usually shit so saying that is actually a compliment to me 🤣

[qwerty2469]

Lol. Maybe the gay one

[Danny_dan92]

Yes. Goodnight

[In_Trance]

Probably not

[Anonymous]

Yeah it seems so