Am I falling in love with my best guy-friend?

[Anonymous]

Soo I have a friend who I've known for five years. It was complicated from the start, but we never dated, hooked up or kissed. We always stayed in the friend zone. But I don't know- lateley I seem to really love him. I mean I always like being with him and we both have fun. But I feel like I don't know his feelings and I don't know mine too. I won't do anything to show him (NEVER), I'm just really confused. I mean his the only guy who i don't mind being with like my man or just like my friend. I don't mind seeing him with others too, but if he ever told me he wanted me us something more i wouldn't have a problem with that. It's so weird I know... Please help it drives me crazy!

[tarekitsme]

as a guy, i was there and still << maybe not sure though << her best friend , a very close friend to her and yesterday she did even confess to me that she was so confused to choose between me and her ex < she chose her ex though << the thing i can tell you about your story is i think 5 years are more than enough to know if he has some feelings towards you like more than a friendly feelings from a friend or not , it is so hard sometimes to differ and control the feelings you may and develop for a friend specially for the opposite sex , my advice give yourself more time to understand more your feelings for him , you really dont wanna ruin your friendship.
i wish i could help

Bet Regards

[Asker]

I know about that but it's not like we are hanging out every day. And besides he was in a relationship with my older sister like 4 years ago for like a month. But they are great no problem or anything. And the year he eventually got with my sister, was the year he met me and he always talked to me, even more to me than my sister with who he was together.

[tarekitsme]

first of all , thanks for taking time and reading my comment , all what i can tell you and from my personal experience : we fell in love me and my best friend , even we just met like 3 months but because of her ex ,, our relation didn't see the light ,,, but even though we stay as best friends but deep down i am being torn apart every night ,, she chose to get back to her ex and she's trying to act like she doesn't feel a thing for even i know she's just pretending ,,, it is hard when feelings start to be developed ,, all what i can say to you be careful so none of you get hurt ,, it is really hard ,, i am suffering right now and it is freaking hurts ,,,, if you know what i mean and feel

Best Regards

[acka72]

Flirt with him a bit and make it obvious without saying a Word that you are attracted to him. If he is attracted he will make more moves if not he'll stay friends. Also go on dates and introduce him to other guys and see how he reacts. If he starts talking shit about the guys you are dating, he more tan likely has feelings for you. Men are retarded when it comes to their own feelings so sometimes they need to see a Little competition to be aware that they are into you.

[Asker]

I've talked about others with him and he just seems to change the subject. Besides we don't really talk about stuff like that. Like he is not the one I'll talk about my day, my datesa nd so on. We talk more about sex, flirting, joking and stuff like that

[acka72]

Hmmm interesting. If he changes subject, more than likely he is into you and he doesn't want to hear about your dates. I'd say flirt with him, you won't regret.