How are men supposed to reject women?

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A woman can brutally reject a man and he just goes off and finds a different woman. But if a woman is attracted to a man, keeps wanting to talk to him, trying to insinuate herself into his life. I don't think a man is allowed to just brutally reject her. I guess ignore the shit out of her is appropriate. If she keeps bothering him he's not allowed to just tell her to piss off though. At least I don't think. What is he supposed to do to get rid of her?

4ngelic · Accepted Answer

most women dont reject men brutally unless they think they're being creepy or predatorial. and even then a lot still try to be nice so the dudes dont get mad.

personally if i was a man and a woman that wasn't my type hit on me, i'd nicely tell her that i have a girlfriend (even if it's not true). if she insisted and said she didn't care or wants to get to know me in case i break up, i'd tell her i'm loyal and i dont believe in cheating. that should do it. i might use a different excuse to let them down , if there's something apparent i can use that wouldn't make them mad. like let's say a 40yo woman hits on me, i'd tell her i'm sorry but i prefer girls my age. if they said it's not a big deal and they're better than girls my age or something, i'd double down. all the while being polite. that's what i do with dudes anyways, i'm scared of just telling them i'm not interested.

if the woman isn't just hitting on you but has feelings and confesses, it can be more delicate if you're single at least. just lie and say you have a girlfriend in that case, or say you're getting to know someone, or you like someone else already. you can tell her you're not at all interested in dating right now (regardless if it's true) and make that really clear to her. if there's something about them, like her age, that you can use as a justification to not date them that won't upset them really, use that. if she doesn't seem to be the person to take things too personally, you could be more honest but be careful about how you say it, or people might think you're mean (if they're around or she goes crying to people after). like lets say a woman is fat, you could carefully and kindly tell her you're not really into thicker women. she should get the message and leave you alone without making any trouble if you're nice about it.

Amy_Mi · Accepted Answer

With respect, not ego.

Rejection doesn’t have to bruise dignity, it can reflect it.

Be clear, be kind, and don’t sugarcoat what you’ve already decided.

A man shows his true character not in how he wins a woman, but in how he lets her down.

Don’t ghost, don’t play cold, don’t leave her guessing.

Honesty delivered with empathy is rare and that’s what separates a gentleman from a boy who just avoids discomfort.

So reject her with grace, not guilt.

Because real men don’t humiliate, they handle.

RavVid · Accepted Answer

Rejecting a woman will be taken as meaning she is ugly and not worthy of your cum.

It is not going to be taken well at all. Basically you are right; you are not allowed to call a woman ugly in effect.

Recently I was at a street cafe and a street prostitute was being very persistent in trying to make a sale. I don't know why she had left the street walkers street but anyway she had and I was by myself so she targeted me.

I could have truthfully said she was as ugly as all hell because she was. Not merely excessively obese. But I just said I was spoken for. She took it as meaning I had a girlfriend and after trying "she won't know" left me alone.

I used the phrase in the sense I was spoken for by my self respect. So I wasn't exactly lying. :)

I think a girlfriend and in reverse a boyfriend is the kindly way to reject some one.

Purpleronnie · Accepted Answer

Well I treat women how I’d like to be treated in that sense.

If a woman brutally rejects me , I tend to smile and think … “ I dodged a bullet” because it’s just vile behavior , so I actually really appreciate women showing me their true colors.

I tell her the truth , respectfully , but firmly leaving no room for her to think I’m playing games.

Screenwriter · Answer

I don't think there's any excuse to reject someone brutually whether it's from a woman to a man, or man to woman or any combination.

Tell someone straightforwardly you aren't interested and thank them for their friendship and time. Don't say "let's be friends," because you don't want to be friends with someone you've rejected. Let's face that one.

If the person wants to be friends, tell them, just as straightforwardly, that won't work. And say good-bye.

If they keep pestering you, block them and don't respond to any contacts. Sometimes a nice rejection doesn't hit home and you have to be more insistent and, sometimes, a little brutal.

Finchie40 · Answer

Just decline and tell her sorry, you aren’t my type , but thank you for noticing me , I am flattered , I am not rude or disrespectful when I reject a girl whatsoever because I put myself in her shoes and think how how nervous or shy she more
Than likely is , so no reason to be rude from the start , the only time rude and mean is appropriate is if they don’t take No as an answer, I can’t stand people that overlook respectful

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

There is no acceptable way for a man to reject a woman. If a woman likes you, you’re supposed to give of yourself completely until you die or she’s done with you. This is why any and all standards and expectations men might have for women are all but universally characterized as misogynistic.

Anonymous · Answer

"A woman can brutally reject a man and he goes off and finds a different woman"

After he murders the rejector. Never reject a man when no one is around, talk him after until you're in a safe environment to say "no thanks", golden rule for women.

Zionne · Answer

It’s definitely a tricky balance. A man can be clear and firm without being cruel, something like calmly setting boundaries, keeping communication short, and not entertaining mixed signals. Respect and consistency usually make the message clear without unnecessary drama.

236color · Answer

I would say you should reject a woman you're not interested in the same way you'd want a woman to reject you. "I'm sorry, no thank you." Being rejected is never fun, but there is no reason to make it worse by being cruel.

Feltonstar · Answer

Ooft, I wish some of the men who brutally rejected me thought this lol.

I mean I'd say something like 'Sarah, whilst I appreciate that you've been brave in pursuing me and think that's really cool, I have to be honest with you. I don't see you in that way. And I don't want to end up feeling annoyed or put out by you. I'm sure that would also make you sad too right? So respectfully, can you maybe back off. Appreciate it. All the best -John'.

Rachel256 · Answer

I don’t think there’s any specific right or wrong way. In early stages it’s easy; just say I don’t feel a connection. Or don’t say anything. I think it’s up to both sides to stay grounded and decide for themselves is this working for me AND is the other side reciprocating. Even though women claim to want honesty, do we really…?

Logankeith · Answer

Men are supposed to be honest and forthcoming. Not hard to ask for, however most are unable. Men should be able to share their interests, goals, thoughts and if not aligned for the present and future life progression, firmly and respectfully decline based on a factual basis.

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

Ignore her. I once had an old broad nearly follow me into the London, Ont., Bus Depot boys' room. (I was 21, she was 49.) I remained there for about twenty minutes before she left.

Anonymous · Answer

A man rejected me yesterday and i liked the way he did it. He told me he wants to video call & i might be his type or not. Then it turned out i wasn't his type he just texted me “sorry i dont think we are a match” and i respected the honesty & the way he did it!😅

bunnyboo24 · Answer

Free choice. You deside how. But most mature people wanna be nice

Genie23 · Answer

Just tell her you don't see her that way. It's honest... on point and not very brutal.

djmzes · Answer

The same way a woman is supposed to reject a man, with honesty and compassion and understanding and parts way in dignity.

aceleon · Answer

how is he not allowed. fuck off, i'm not interested, end of the debate. as easy as this.

RandomGirl42 · Answer

Well, u could hand me a 100 dollar bill and say, "Here, ok, look. I am PAYING you to leave me alone." I might get that hint.

Flower7 · Answer

I don’t know what you mean by “allowed to”. Nothing is stopping a guy from telling a woman that he’s not interested.

snermcger · Answer

"I'm Gay."

I mean I'm not gay. But if you're built like a Volkswagen Bus I might as well be and it is the nicest way to set that tug boat back out into the harbor.

"Oh, how sweet, I'm really flattered Elsie, but...

BlondieGirl_ · Answer

Turn her down. Say no thank you. Ignoring is not an answer and is in incredibly psychologically cruel.

boundless · Answer

Fart in her mouth... While she's puking all over the sidewalk make your escape...

Noredcarpet · Answer

Be as clear as possible as early as you can.

sage2021 · Answer

Tell her that you have a girlfriend., so you're already taken.

AngryCarl2 · Answer

If you have a pet rabbit that you care about I'd suggest you let her down gently, while being careful to give her no encouragement whatsoever. #fatalattraction

beenherebefore · Answer

Just say I’m not interested or I don’t want to lead you on.

Texaskid1 · Answer

Just tell them you have no money. That will scare them off quicker than sunlight to a vampire.

DrPepper12 · Answer

Like this:

MrChinaski · Answer

Open the car door? Sorry. I'm a sucker for a cheap joke.

Anonymous · Answer

who said you can’t just tell her to piss off? Ignoring consent is a red flag and it’s reasonable to tell them to piss off

exitseven · Answer

I have only had to do this a couple of times. I just tried to be nice about it.

Likes2drive · Answer

Just tell her that you’re flattered that she is interested in you but you’re not interested or lie and say you have a girlfriend

MJVillarama · Answer

Simple is best: ‘I’m flattered, but I’m not interested.’ Done.

Anonymous · Answer

Slowly and painfully. Women reject men about 10 times more then men reject women. So a man should aspire to make it 10 times more painful to her.

Anonymous · Answer

I just say no I'm sorry, but thank you, when I reject a man.

DovaahKiittyLady · Answer

Just tell them straight forward, you are not into them and keep it at that. I don't see a point in waisting anyones time

stayorgo · Answer

Hey simple , remind them you picked THE BEAR REMEMBERB

Butterfly38142 · Answer

Do you know that men reject women solely for their looks and also do it more brutally?

Anonymous · Answer

Tell her that you consider her just a friend.

Anonymous · Answer

Im no expert but i know one thing. We are not supposed to do it like how most Women reject us Men.

OneViewpoint · Answer

Politely. Gently. Like a gentleman.

On_cloud_wine · Answer

Be brutal, be honest. That’s how I like it

Staximus · Answer

You tell her to take a hike

noohair · Answer

Just say no...

Anonymous · Answer

Tell her that you are gay works

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