My guy friend just asked me to be his valentine? How do I explain that I just want to be friends?

[Anonymous]

Okay so I got something in the mail from him which was very sweet of him. He sent my a box of chocolate and a note asking me to be his Valentines.
I don’t know if it’s a Valentine as a friend or romantically.
I texted him, “Thank you for the gift but you asked me to be your Valentine. As in a friend or like more than a friend.

Then he texted, “More than a friend. I want you to be my girl and you’re the only girl I’ll ever love.”

Thats very sweet but the I just don’t see him the same way and I’ve explained that I just see him as a friend. I told him that like years ago and he stopped asking. We have known each other since we were 8 and now 29. Almost 30.
We’re both autistic and I don’t think he gets the hint. Even though I bluntly said we are just friends.

I texted him “I prefer the friend Valentine….”

he didn’t text back

[HollyK21]

I literally told you a few days ago that that’s why he asked what your favorite flower and chocolate were, and you gaslit me, saying that you’ve already told him no year after year. I don’t know how much clearer you need him to be about the fact that he doesn’t want to be just your friend. You should really stop coming here complaining about an issue that you refuse to resolve.

[OlderAndWiser]

He just doesn't get it. . . but neither do you.

Telling him that you are not attracted to him won't make his feelings go away. He can't reach for a switch and turn them off. Remaining in a friendship with him will be torture for him. You need to tell him goodbye, even if he begs you to remain as a friend. . . because he will ALWAYS want more than that.

[jahaims]

You aren't going to be able to be friends anymore