How to know if a male waiter is attracted to you or just doing his job?

[Anonymous]

Any signs

[Smart_Monk]

A man or a woman can be attracted to a thousand different people. Even if he's attracted doesn't mean he wants to sleep with you, let alone a relationship.

The solution is to keep talking. Because even if he wasn't attracted enough to want anything with you, continuing to talk can change things. It can also give you more clues that he isn't if he isn't. You might need to talk to him for longer to give him substance to become interested in. A 5 minute chat about careers isn't something to build a relationship over.

If you look for signs, you look for signs. Let that sink in. You look for signs a man likes how you look. How much of an accomplishment is it to find a man who likes how you look? ㅤ

[Asker]

My mom asked for his number for me… I was embarrassed and told him he didn’t have to.. he wrote it down and my mom kept it.. I didn’t think much of it… it’s been a few days and I asked my mom for the number.. she says no because she doesn’t like my attitude… I get frustrated and try to look him up myself and I think I find his number on a wedding registry and it looks like him but I’m not sure.. so I ask my mom again for the number and she said she ripped it up and that I need to just focus on myself..

If she felt I needed to work on myself or I wasn’t ready I don’t understand the point of getting his number in the first place.. so I’ll never know.. so I have to move on

[Smart_Monk]

What if your mom found out he is married and that he is willing to cheat, she wants to save you from a cheating husband?

[Asker]

She doesn’t know that because she doesn’t know him he’s just a waiter… I wanted the number to verify if it was him or not. I have a moral compass and don’t need my mother’s permission to talk to someone.

[Smart_Monk]

She might have done an online lookup using his number and found out he is married.

That at least explains her ripping the paper. And sometimes compasses stop working when there is a strong magnetic field nearby, so she's still wishing you best.

[Asker]

No I told her I wasn’t sure that’s why I tried finding him because she wouldn’t give me the number.. either way it isn’t her business

[Iron_Man]

You don’t know unless you drop enough hints for him to ask you out, but you don’t have a lot of time so you gotta move quickly especially if you don’t know him well. So go back in there and make sure he waits on you and drop hints so he can ask you out

[Asker]

True.. he seems like a nice guy. Me and my mom went to a restaurant and at first I didn’t really notice him but he was kind like most waiters are. He was attentive. Even when talking to my mom he looked more at me and made me feel included.. he asked us questions and he told me about himself.. I told him I was doing a career change and I was an art teacher and he did film/ production but he’s doing aviation now and he said he understood me etc.. and he tried to get me some free tickets and asked if we wanted some recommendations… but he was just nice and attentive which are great qualities for a man to have…

[Iron_Man]

That sounds great. What a good experience that you had with your mom and him. I think you have a good chance with this guy. I used to go out with my mom to restaurants all the time once in a while I would get some nice looking waitresses that would give me too much attention that kind of made my mom jealous because she wasn’t giving her the same attention as she did with me.

[Asker]

My mom asked for his number for me… I was embarrassed and told him he didn’t have to.. he wrote it down and my mom kept it.. I didn’t think much of it… it’s been a few days and I asked my mom for the number.. she says no because she doesn’t like my attitude… I get frustrated and try to look him up myself and I think I find his number on a wedding registry and it looks like him but I’m not sure.. so I ask my mom again for the number and she said she ripped it up and that I need to just focus on myself..

If she felt I needed to work on myself or I wasn’t ready I don’t understand the point of getting his number in the first place.. so I’ll never know.. so I have to move on

[Iron_Man]

That’s not a good idea. The guy is probably gonna think you’re not interested. I can’t believe your mother would do that hide his phone number from you all these days. That sounds like my mother she would talk to the girl for me get things going when I was shy

[Asker]

Yeah.. it’s whatever.. he can find someone better if he hasn’t already

[Iron_Man]

I think you need to get that phone number from your mother and call him

[Asker]

My mother flew back home

[Iron_Man]

Call her on the phone she can give it to you

[Iron_Man]

Or go back and talk to that guy again

[Asker]

He’s in a relationship

[Iron_Man]

Ok thanks for telling me

[Asker]

I’m so stupid to have thought he was attracted or it was more

Sorry

[Iron_Man]

Don’t be sorry why are you sorry you had to try if you would like to talk about it more)

[Asker]

Yeah.. I never actually reached out to him I just found out.. maybe I misinterpreted his kindness for something more.

[Iron_Man]

That’s a shame I’m sorry to hear that. I know you must be disappointed.

[Asker]

Yeah lol I guess just because you have things in common with someone and they look at you in a way that makes you feel it’s not always something he’s just a naturally charismatic person

[Iron_Man]

If you want to discuss it more, would you want to talk in the messages because I have to keep searching for your comment it’s more easier to talk in the messages

[David318578]

Fake stories from fake pink accounts are getting odd

[Anonymous]

He's just doing his job

Like the rest of us 😅👀

[slatyb]

Leave your number and see if he calls.

[Anonymous]

So, is it a male waiter today?

[Asker]

A couple days ago

[Asker]

True.. he seems like a nice guy. Me and my mom went to a restaurant and at first I didn’t really notice him but he was kind like most waiters are. He was attentive. Even when talking to my mom he looked more at me and made me feel included.. he asked us questions and he told me about himself.. I told him I was doing a career change and I was an art teacher and he did film/ production but he’s doing aviation now and he said he understood me etc.. and he tried to get me some free tickets and asked if we wanted some recommendations… but he was just nice and attentive which are great qualities for a man to have…

[In_Trance]

Stop posting this crap