I’ve lost all interest in dating—how do I handle men who keep pursuing me?

[Anonymous]

Yes , I lost interest in dating and love 15 years ago, but I have men trying to pressure me to date them - has anyone reached this place and what did you do? Yes , I've told these men I'm not seeking anything, but they still chase

[Anonymous]

Yes. I've always been an odd duck. I was never big into dating to begin with. But around 30 I dedicated myself fully to my finances, so women had to GO.😆 But this didn't stop women from hitting on me. Luckily I'm a guy, and guys get hit on by women far less then women get hit on by men. And women take the hint much better. The women that pursued me did pursued me strongly. But what was she going to do? Physically force me to date her. My take on this is you don't owe them ANYTHING. But just be sure you're doing NOTHING to lead them on. Because they don't deserve that either. Beyond that it's not your problem, it's theirs. Be firm if not borderline rude if the situation calls for it.

[Asker]

I don't go out on dates or have sex with these men - we do nothing

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, I really don't care.😆 You asked, I answered. Some women were aggressive with me. Guess what, some guys are going to be aggressive with you. No stopping that entirely. I suppose you could stop showering. Etc.😆

[ammar12343]

Understandable. My wife gets insecure when I’m around women sometimes and I tell her I have no desire or time to even think about cheating lol. It’s absolutely true as well. My marriage is kind of in the shit right now but I’m really putting everything I have into building my career. I’m getting into rooms with people that I never thought I would. These days I don’t even have time to take a shit. The consequence of you not dating is a lot of loneliness though. Id maybe ask yourself 5 whys. Why do I not want to date? Because it’s exhausting. Why is it exhausting? Because … etc. It’s worth it to find somebody. Don’t mind the red pill guys. They have very limited experience with women and/or are traumatized by some succubus who fucked them over and never got over it.

[Asker]

Dating has been complicated and toxic and trying to weed through the dating pool is becoming a job when you're trying to avoid red pill men.. you have to factor in compatibility and standards... A lot of men are red pill full of misogyny, sexism, etc... These red pill guys are traumatizing women bad

[Asker]

Std rates are up due to hook up culture during the pandemic.. a woman like myself can't risk that especially when I'm CELIBATE.. shorter term dating ain't safe

[CriminallyInsane]

What a nice problem I'd love to have. I swear when I am in a relationship, guys come up to me all the time and now that I've been single for a month or however long, not once since then. The universe hates me 😂

[Asker]

It's been 15 years since a relationship and I don't want what's out here

[HollyBug]

It's interesting 🤣 universe trying you hard for cheating huh dıd you evr cheat?

[CriminallyInsane]

@HollyBug I don't cheat on anyone

[HollyBug]

Whats your horoscope?

[Asker]

I can send these guys your way 😜... I just want peace

[HollyBug]

Lol 🤣🤣🤣

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Just shut it down. If they keep pushing, tell them you own a gun

[Asker]

I do own a gun and don't want to go that route

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Men are stupid, you have to go to extremes a lot

[Asker]

I know right.. I gotta make sure my cc is up to date

[Asker]

I refuse to give up my peace and freedom for another man - that traumatized me

[Asker]

They traumatized me

[Anonymous]

in this crazy society I don't blame you for losing interest in dating too many crazy people. but if you are very attractive guys are always going to chase after you

[Asker]

It's all day and everyday - it's a nope 🪢 rope

[Asker]

15 years single and would like to stay single

[Iron_Man]

Just say no sex until marriage problem solved take a break from dating

[Asker]

This is no break I'm done dating indefinitely

[Asker]

I have been celibate, but not until marriage - no going back to dating

[Iron_Man]

You don’t mean it you’re just upset you’ll be OK take a year or two off

[Asker]

I've been intentionally single 15 years and still counting - this is no break or coming from a place of anger / I'm done dating

[Asker]

I don't want anything to do with dating out here

[Iron_Man]

I’m very sorry to hear that. Why have you been single for so long?

[Asker]

I'm at peace single and happier not partnered to anyone

[Asker]

By choice - realizing that dating isn't worth the headache or unnecessary stress .. I'm in my career and getting ready to buy my home 🏡

[Asker]

This is what single by choice looks like

[Asker]

Not enough men just boys /I'm good out here

[Iron_Man]

I can completely understand what you’re talking about. You just have to find the right man.. congratulations on getting your house soon. That’s excellent. What a great goal you’re about to accomplish.

[Asker]

I'm not interested in finding the right man- I gave up on that 15 years

[Iron_Man]

I’m sorry

[Asker]

I get my home that it / I'll focus on my career and children - be at peace ✌🏽

[Iron_Man]

But how are you gonna have children if you don’t want a man but I’m happy you have a home soon

[Asker]

I'm not having anymore children - that ended 15 years ago when I stopped dating men at 27

[Iron_Man]

Oh, so you have children then OK

[abc3643]

Tell them you are a lesbian or used to be a man.

[Asker]

That doesn't work - I just avoid men for my own peace of mind and safety

[Asker]

I no longer have faith or hope in men anymore

[abc3643]

So, you've joined the "womanosphere". ;)

[Asker]

No I've joined WGTOW And have been on this journey 15 years now

[Asker]

I don't want access to men while walking away from them

[abc3643]

"WGTOW", that's basically what I just said. "MGTOW" is part of the "manosphere".

[Asker]

Manosphere guys are involuntary CELIBATE and I made the choice to be CELIBATE and single intentionally.. they still want women. Women like me don't want men at all

[Asker]

I'm purposely avoiding relationships and dating

[Asker]

Having a man isn't the end all to all to happiness, nor a family, or having sex

[abc3643]

I agree. I haven't had a man or had sex with one either, and I'm not losing sleep over it.

[abc3643]

NO. You are wrong about the Manosphere. You are confusing INCELs (the involuntarily celibate) with MGTOWS, many of whom were not involuntarily celibate but chose not to deal with the bullshit of women and relationships. BOTH are part of the Manosphere. MGTOWs and WGTOWs are pretty much the same thing.

[Asker]

Are men really going there on way - same guys moaning online about they can't get a woman? Hence male loneliness EPIDEMIC.. I've been on this journey for two decades.. I understand the nature of men , self preservation of bodily authority, and women's rights

[Asker]

Autonomy for women and their rights

[ShadyPants]

It's okay to ask to be let alone.

[ponderingpaul]

Tell them you have an incurable std.

[Asker]

They don't care

[Asker]

I just avoid men nowm

[Asker]

Now or try too

[HollyBug]

When you had date last time

[LC75LC71]

Sure dude..

[Asker]

Whose a dude? Grow up

[LC75LC71]

Post as you are.

[Asker]

Why it won't change how I feel that I'm not interested in dating or anything ( no I'm not gay )

[LC75LC71]

Haha nobody asked. And funny enough nobody else has answered this shitty question..

[Asker]

Who cares 😂.. shrug 😑

[Asker]

It's the internet 🛜

[Asker]

You're the only one bothered though lol

[LC75LC71]

Why reply 3 times? Put it all in one fucking reply! Women...

[Anonymous]

And we found another one who hit the wall.

[Asker]

I haven't dated since my ex in the 2000s and divorced him.. stop listening to red pill content

[Asker]

I've been intentionally staying single to avoid you toxic men.. refusing to date and staying CELIBATE

[Opinion Owner]

Lmao. Pathetic. And child, I've been married for 13 years.

Not everything in your life is the fault of men. The moment you see that is the moment you will actually grow up. Stop with the "I'm a victim" bullshit.

[Asker]

Not once did I blame men - I said after my divorce I wasn't putting myself back out here that's called self preservation and peace of mind

[Asker]

Idc about marriage either been there and done that - not interested in giving up my freedom or space for a man

[Asker]

You're married why are you in a single women's business 🤔 .. go be with your wife and be happy 😂

[Asker]

Nope it's a never ever ever ever with you men