What should I do if I did work on myself with regards to dating but still get men that I'm not interested in despite my effort?

[SeaStorm1]

If I do work on myself when it comes to dating and relationships I still seem to get the same type of men that I'm not interested or attractive that are bad types of men. Same with men that are bullshit. I do reject men that are bad types as well as assholes. Hasn't had sex at all and I'm will be waiting until I find the right person. I'm not attracted to some men that I met through out a social event and only see them as just friends. I had more bad experience with some men that did cheat and one was toxic. I had bad experience with some ex friends that were girls and this did happen in RRL. One cheater did try to ask me out but I said no and I did reject him and. Another cheat tried to ask me out on Instagram and I also rejected him and sent NO. I have been on a couple of dates but they always come back to start again and finding a new person is can be harder than normal. I prefer short men over tall men. I like men that are nerds, gamers, respectful, open communication , honest and just ask questions if they don't know. What should I do if I worked on myself with regards to dating but still get men that I'm not interested in despite my effort?

[NikolaiIvanovB41]

It's hard to say. I think dating has changed so much. Society pushes monogamy as though it is the way humans are supposed to, but a lot of relationships are becoming ploy. Of course, people still demonize it, but more and more people are moving towards it.

Divorces skyrocketing. More and more people are lonely or miserable in relationships. Some of it has to do with following a narrative. You're told from a young age a man and woman are supposed to be married together, period. But humans only became monogamous a few centuries ago. Before, people would just sleep around, but now we are socialized to be in a relationship, and people are struggling with following the narrative.

We're interesting times where people are still pushing for things to stay the same while the world is changing constantly. So I don't know what to tell you. You can keep trying to follow the narrative that you are told or find an alternative way of living for yourself. It's ultimately up to you.

I am not sure what type of guy will make you feel happy.

[coolbreeze]

You can only do the best you can. Eventually you will find a decent man. It will take time to weed out the bad apples.

[Avicenna]

What I don't see is any mention of you approaching the guys you want to date, which would give you a lot of power.

[SeaStorm1]

yep I have approched men before and some did rejected me.

[Avicenna]

Keep trying, there are a surplus of men fitting the description of the guys you like

[SeaStorm1]

I don't like guys with long hair and I see some guys that are gamers or nerds seem to have long hair and same with Some of them with learning disabilities men. I can only date men with a learning disabilities.

[BourbonAndBacon]

Working on yourself has to be continuous. Eventually the right guys will recognize your value. You make your own luck in everything in life and hard work is always rewarded by good luck. Dating is no exception

[Gent207-2]

Interesting

The goal of working on yourself is that in the process of pursuing your goals you find someone doing likewise

[SeaStorm1]

don't really have many goals and i have tried a lots of diffenent things.

[Gent207-2]

Have you tried the Wispher app?

[SeaStorm1]

I can't rember but is was long term go or was simlars

[Twalli]

You can't change who is attracted to you. You attract certain guys, they aren't your type and you aren't the type of guys you like.

[noohair]

Nothing is easy. finding a mate is one of the hardest ones.