I started this job 4 years ago.
This man was my manager when I first started so we became friendly but I got a promotion about 2 years ago and now work along side him.
When I switched jobs me and him always got on great and we became quite close. I never know if he is flirting with me or just being nice. He is very outgoing so hard to tell. He messages me a lot, likes my photos, gives me compliments on my looks and jokes around with me at work. He can be quite touchy like we always seem to touch hands when talking or if I’m showing him something at work….. but this man is 50 and I just turned 30.
Anywayyy this woman at work who is also 50 dated this man 6 years ago for less than a year. She doesn’t know I know about them.
I’ve worked with her for 2 years now and she has started to act weird with me.
She constantly asks me if I’m seeing anyone. She tells me I look nice sometimes, or that I look too glamorous for work and asks why I make such an effort.
She’s asked me things like if I had to sleep with someone at work who would it be.
She got angry with me because I got to do some jobs that she usually does.
If she sees me and him talking she sometimes asks me what we were talking about.
She asked me to go on a hike with her so I did and she constantly talked about this man the whole time…
She makes rude comments about me in meetings in front of everyone but tries to joke like she makes fun of me for being quiet or that I make too much effort with my appearance.
Then she texts me at night apologising for being rude and it just keeps going on and on.
I’ve tried to distance myself from the man as I obviously get that she must still have feelings for him and I don’t think he’s trying to make her jealous as he’s actually in a relationship with someone else LOL.
When me and this man talk, he only talks to me if we are on our own. He will come and see me when everyone else is gone.
I’ve tried to distance myself from them both but don’t know what to do.
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This is hard cause you don't want to be in the middle.
Your the same rank as him right?
Talk with HR then get recordings on your phone of her! They can do something about her being so mean and rude!
However they might not be able to do anything about him but your the same rank so maybe transfer one of you two!
Went though this at work where the doctor was a rude flirt and loved dating all the girls at work! His 2 exes were so jealous but never got that I hated him. He likes me and flirted!
Talk with HR and they solved it moving the 2 nurses and firing one the doctor got transfered and got sensitivity training... next he got fired when the next women reported him.
Your not alone a lot of us face this at work! Do what ever is in your power! Even if that means just becoming friends with those in HR.
Thank you for your helpful advice!
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