Is it weird that a guy that approached me on the street for the 1st time asked to workout together?

[Anonymous]

So I had an encounter with this guy I met on the street one day. I just left a shop and I was walking along the sidewalk to get to my car and I was stopped by a man. I assumed he was going to ask me for directions since he started off by explaining how he just moved into the area, but he then asked for my number and told me that I was beautiful (and even went on to compliment my hair). I was a little shocked because I wasn’t expecting it, and I was dressed pretty casual. He was also with his friend who mainly stood off to the side on his phone, waiting for him. I’m a little shy and reserved so I wasn’t as open and initially tried to decline. He succeeded in keeping the conversation going and we did talk for a few minutes. He was actually a very nice and respectful guy, but I thought the situation was a little weird because his friend was just standing there; i’m not sure if this is actually weird or not as I haven’t had many guys approach me on the street like that before. He also said that we could work out together which I found odd, since I don’t even know this man. I would have expected lunch, dinner, or the movies but working out? I wondered if he was implying that I was fat but I didn’t ask. One thing I will say is that he was very muscular and looked like he worked out a lot. I eventually ended up not giving him my number although he tried. When I talked to my friend about it she said that I was overreacting and should have given him my number. Was I overreacting? I just felt like the situation felt weird.

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I forgot to mention that I was wearing a mask when he approached me which kinda made me suspicious because I don’t think you can tell if someone is attractive when wearing a mask?

[Anonymous]

Well... you just got asked out cold. I use to ask out women like that in the past when I actually dated before I became jaded with women. Anyways. You have to think of it like this.

You’re a total complete stranger to him. It’s a big, big world with a lot of people, and chances are good that if he did not talk to you that he would never see you again. I think this is the thing women really don’t get about the whole process. If you see someone out who is really beautiful you’ll probably never see them again. It takes a lot of courage to ask out a stranger—A LOT of guys don’t have the guts to do it, fewer have the social skills to pull it off, and even less manage to actually get a number.

Him talking about working out together was very sly lol. It was his way of hitting on you (suggesting that you “look” like you’re already in shape, so you must work out) and it also feels a little less serious than a dinner date, or meeting at a club or bar for drinks. We’re just gonna get a workout in! No pressure or possibility of sex right? 🙄😂 He was masking his intentions by making his advances all innocent looking lol.

It certainly confused you. Got you thinking. And you probably even considered it for a brief moment. Well played on his part.

Oh. His friend being there by the way, not a big deal. He was probably out with his buddy and saw you and decided to holler at you. Like I said, it’s about opportunity, striking while the iron is hot.

Guys will ask you out no matter how you look. Seriously. Women can make the bare ass minimum effort on their appearance and guys will still ask them out. I could work out like a madman and diet for months and put on my best clothes and maybe MAYBE one person would tell me I look nice. It’s ridiculous.

[Asker]

Thanks for the detailed reply! Your response makes sense and explains why he mentioned working out lol. Now I don't really know which to believe, because some others are saying it was weird and that he's creepy.

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe he’s also looking for a girlfriend who works out that he can work out with. Some people are into that.

[Asker]

One of my friends said the same thing actually. Plus he looked like a guy that works out a lot.

[kespethdude]

Run. Run far away. But get his picture and report him to the authorities first. This guy reeks of Stalker.

[Asker]

May I ask what makes you think so? I’ve gotten a few similar replies from others and only one in support.

[Buntyp]

If it was weird for you, then it's weird. The way you've described it, I would also have found that weird, especially that he seemed to not give you any time at all to respond as you might have wished to, but just kept the conversation going. Seems more like a monologue than a dialogue.
Your friend should be so generous with you giving out your number--I don't think. Giving away personal access info to complete strangers is never a good plan.
One more thing: Working out is a frequently used euphemism for having sex. Keep that in mind if the invitation is repeated. I don't want to come across like a ranting old grandma but it's better to be cautious about strange encounters with strangers.

[SueShe]

No, your reaction was the only correct one. You should not even have let yourself into the conversation with this total stranger.

The fact that there was another man next to him leads me to believe that they attempted to get more private information about you and perhaps even your address. I would imagine that they were into possibly breaking into your place or something even worse.

What makes me suspicious of something foul is the fact that he insisted in you giving your number. Those thugs are trying all the possible tricks, including giving fake compliments in an attempt to persuade their victims to either give them their phone number or even take them to their home.

[Asker]

Thanks for responding! I actually didn’t feel like I was in any danger. I probably should have mentioned that we crossed paths as I was walking by and he was coming out of a store with his friend. It was coincidental. He didn’t cross any boundaries and just attempted a conversation. I’m not used to getting approached on the street so I wasn’t sure what’s normal or not

[SueShe]

The important is that you kept your distance and did not reveal anything.

Too many scammers and perverts rely on tricks to lure their victims. Keep safe!

[ImNoOne111]

Well, it sort of was weird. Work out is a risky choice

[spartan55]

You sound like a whole lotta fun... 😂 😂 😂 😂

[Asker]

What are you implying? I explained in my original post that I’m a little shy and I’ve never been asked by a random guy to workout before.

[randomcuriousdude]

Could be schizophrenic or just a creep.

[Avicenna]

Very weird

[In_Trance]

That's a little odd

[Asker]

I thought so at first, I wasn't sure if it was normal for guys to ask a girl they just met to workout together.