Is it normal to get along with guys but clash with most women?

[Anonymous]

I don't know why but I noticed that women are rude, mean and lack respect for boundaries.

That's my experience with them.

I don't have these issues with guys. I also don't really start it with these women and don't really retaliate necessarily either but this is what I noticed.

[stalk-stopper]

If anyone hasn't guessed my experience, it is that i internally always felt freightened and offended by every single thing every single day of my life that i remember. That doesn't mean that people are scary or treat me poorly. Nor am i a total loser who grew up in a cave. But i was repeatedly frightened as a kid and forced into total stillness instead of processing grief, while my caretaker was gone. Till this day i am afraid of the word "goodbye" because that's when bad things happened, and i am actually offended super easily, but i brace my stomach when i want to gasp out of fear, fully believing that that's what every strong man does. People like me don't go to therapy until we are already resolved. And if you force it then the therapist is also a threat. And did you know that 40% of all adults have a aimilar childhood trauma? We 40% are basically all huge toddlers. What are the chances you are one of us 40% and percrive threats in friendly women?

[Anonymous]

Boom goes the dynamite! You’re correct. Women are catty. A lot of them cause the most trouble. I work in a field that’s dominated by maybe 90% women. Never have trouble w the men. Men just work, do what they’re supposed to do then move on. The ones I will say we tend to have issues w as far as men are the gay ones. Not all, but those are the men who are likely to give men orobkems in addition to the women.

[Asker]

I don't get it then why do people say men are so bad and patriarchal?

[Opinion Owner]

What do you mean as far as men are so patriarchal?

[Asker]

Like in my life I mainly see the people causing trouble are the women.

So I'm confused as to how men get the bad reputation they do when women are the real culprits.

I'm not talking about truly evil men I'm talking about the average joe. Causing no trouble etc.

[Opinion Owner]

I see. Well you ever notice who the ones are that are giving men that reputation? A lot of women. A lot of women can’t see that they’re the problem. Trust me I’ve really looked at men and women, relationships, things like that. I’ve always adored women. But as I’ve gotten older I’ve realized that women are the more difficult ones. When a man calls her out for her actions she labels him a narcissist. A lot of women call men narcissist as a matter of fact, even on this platform but they haven’t the slightest clue what the definition of a narcissist is. As a matter of fact diagnosing someone as a narcissist is a very hard thing to do. But yes it’s women who are the ones who are saying all these things about men. Not to say some men. Don’t say things about women. Even in relationships domestic violence is highest among lesbians compared to homosexual and heterosexual relationships. I believe the lowest domestic violence is in homosexual relationships, meaning men-on-men.

[choco-latte]

I’ve noticed that too sometimes but it’s not the case always or even most of the time. There are still plenty of normal women that are easy to get along with in my experience.

[Nikki1989]

Normal for some of us. I am the same with men in the real world, not so much online. The ones I come across online are mostly nutters.

[lilBigPotato]

Guys are more chill and easier to get along with. One of the reasons I have more male than female friends.

[jahaims]

If you clash with most of one specific gender you have an internal issue

[Asker]

I did consider this too.

That am I the problem?

However if i was the problem I'd have some of the same issues with men at some point.

And it circles back to what I was saying above - women lack respect for boundaries.

I don't know how to explain it

[Justme1993]

Honestly your not the first woman to be like that my mom when she just started dating ny dad hung out with him and his friends a lot because the women would just gossip

[spartan55]

Ah... you're one of those...ugh...🙄