Do men really care less and move on faster in relationships?

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Nikki1989 · Accepted Answer

Yes, that is usually the case. Most men will jump into bed with just about anyone.

Malwi93 · Accepted Answer

yeah thats bc they do in fact care less lol

BCRanger10 · Answer

No.

Men think about things differently than women do. We express our emotions differently and we engage with and resolve things like conflict, loss, grief, separation, and other such things differently than women do. We have a greater ability to separate ourselves emotionally from a given situation and, if you will, "turn it off" or "put it away". That doesn't mean we don't care. It just means that, like I said, we engage with, process, and resolve things differently.

Now having said that, the image here is misleading. First things first. At the church my wife and I go to, there was a young family whose husband and father was killed in a work accident about five years ago. He was only 29 years old, and she had literally just discovered she was pregnant with their fourth child a few days before. About two years ago, she took her kids and moved halfway across the earth to pursue a relationship with a new man, who, like her, is a very devoutly traditional Catholic. They came back to visit recently and from the looks of it, they may get engaged soon. This is all within a five-year time frame here. You're not going to convince me that she didn't love her first husband though. She still posts about him to this day on his birthday, their anniversary, etc.

Which brings me to my second point. After his funeral, my wife and I had a discussion about what were to happen if either of us should die, we'll say, prematurely (accident, crime, sudden and severe illness, etc.). We have each given the other permission to marry again. Granted, we don't need it, because according to Catholic teaching, the marital bond ends when one spouse dies; the other is then free to marry again if they so choose.

Personally, I would get married again. There are emotional reasons, but also practical. On the emotional and spiritual level, quite simply, I like being married. I like having someone to come home to, having emotional and physical intimacy, and having a companion to share my life with. On the practical side, my children are all very young (under 10). I would need someone to help me manage the day-to-day craziness of life. I would need a consistent feminine presence to help my children grow and mature emotionally in the ways that only a woman is truly capable of. I would need someone who could help guide my daughters through the stages of womanhood and to be an example to my son of what a good, happy, and holy marriage looks like and what kind of woman he should pursue if marriage is his calling.

Of course, I wouldn't jump right back into the dating game. And truth be told, I don't care to think too long on this; I really, really do not want to face this. I'd take the appropriate amount of time to allow for grieving and adjusting to the new rhythm of life.

I also realize that this isn't just about death, but still.

So no. Men don't "care less". We just engage with and resolve emotional situations differently.

DishLady · Answer

Depends on the fellow.

One fellow (a family member) had five kids to tend to when he was grieving over the loss of his wife and when God put the right gal in his path he snapped her up. The woman respected the memory of the first wife and thanked her daily for bringing her to this wonderful family, promising to "guard them for you" every year. The fellow passed on about ten or twelve years later, so it was lucky for the kids that God had sent them a sweet and caring stepmom to tend to them. She never remarried.

Another fellow (a friend) lost his wife to terrible traumatic accident and has been living on his own for about ten or fifteen years now. Not that he doesn't try going out from time to time, but the effort is only half-assed. Everyone can see that his heart was buried in the dirt that day.

Every person is different. Some need the companionship. Some just need to clear the pipes out every once in a while. Some need support to run a household.

DragonDan444 · Answer

I think this genuinely depends on the person as well as the reason for a breakup. Someone moving on fast after a breakup can come from a number of reasons, generally jumping straight into a new relationship means they aren’t over the relationship they are trying to prove something to themselves and the other person as well as fill a void. People who are healthy take the time to properly grieve before they find a new person.

Other times someone’s just grieved and move on from a relationship before they were out of it. They were checked out a long time ago but they wanted to make it work. Either because they genuinely thought they were doing the right thing along with all the effort they invested in the relationship to they are just cowardly. Some people will stay in a relationship for a time if it benefits them until they find someone new to jump to.

Another reason is one of the hardest. They just genuinely cannot form normal relationships they may lack empathy as well as the ability to genuinely connect. They may know how to fake it for a while but they weren’t ever really in love.

When it comes to deathI have seen men die serving the county and the wife remarried in a year and men who never remarried. Same for divorce etc It depends on the person. Some people move on faster than others and there’s many factors. I find it concerning when a man or a woman’s immediately with someone new after their spouse dies though very odd. I think it’s normal to eventually want to find someone again but it takes time to heal from something that traumatic.

Anonymous · Answer

Here is the truth to me. For starters no matter what gender, it always depends on the type of relationship and feelings involved. There are sluts and there are man sluts out there (to put it simply). So if your opinions or reservations are based on these people then obviously you are going to think the other gender cares less or moves on faster. In my personal experience as a guy for relationships where proper feelings are involved both process breakups differently. If you are a guy the ‘process’ just simply takes longer (doesn’t mean that you are banished from having sex the next day with someone else 🎯 ‘condolence’s’) and therefore the pain is more drawn out (can and is still as devastating) -guys bottle up emotions-. So no men do not care less or move on quicker if the feelings and relationship were deep (they just don’t give themselves an as hectic detox as girls do). One example that you could understand from visually is of off ‘Snape’ from Harry Potter (yes I know this is a fictional character). This is a prime example of how a guy (written by a female by the way) would process (not healthily by the way and I do understand that Harrys Mother didn’t feel the same way back) feelings if they were deep and real. One more thing this is generally speaking there are cases where it is the other way round but think about this for a moment in the olden days was it more common for the woman to get remarried after her husband died or for the man to get remarried after his wife died (deep down if you think about it and are honest you might break the tie to the answer).

choco-latte · Answer

From what I noticed, once a girl gets into a new relationship and moves she really doesn’t look back and completely forgets her ex. Usually she can think back to her past without even feeling sad by it anymore. By this I mean from normal breakups, not a scenario where her partner dies. But men often still hold some kind of painful feelings about their past relationships even if they have moved on. It doesn’t necessarily mean they still love their ex (again, from a break-up) - most of the time they don’t, but it does mean that the relationship left an impact on their lives. I feel this kind of sentiment is more common among men than women.

Iyaelsorai · Answer

I don't know, I feel like men are more likely to really be in love with a girl, while girls tend to regard their boyfriends more like sidecars or something that can easily be "upgraded" when somebody better comes along. I feel like, by and large, women are a bit more aloof in relationships than men. I suspect it's because women, already being the fairer sex, need men less than men need women to make them happy. On the other hand, though, it is eminently obvious that women tend to be more demisexual than guys, while guys tend to be more sexualizing and objectifying, which would seem to work in the opposite direction regarding which sex moves on faster or cares less..

Friendlybro79 · Answer

I think it's important to recognize all men and all women don't share one level of feelings that can easily be generalized in such a way.

I can't believe the amount of questions on here that are basically asking if a blanket statement can so easily be true as if there is no individual differences to account for.

For 99% of things not all men or women think the same, behave the same, or react the same to any situation. When we start actually think all men are... or all women are... or all of democrats... or all of Republicans... all white people... all black people.. are the same... We really have lost the ability to critically think with nuance.

Curmudgeon · Answer

If that was really true, no one would have written a song like this. Of course, it is about a breakup / divorce rather than a widower, but anyway:

sage2021 · Answer

All I can go by is that my late boyfriend never stopped loving and missing his wife who died after 24 years of marriage.

Even though he and I met 10 years after she died, I always felt that his heart was hers.

She was only 47 when she got sick and passed away in his arms.

MrChinaski · Answer

Yes. Men need companionship more, on average. Possibly because women have stronger friend networks.

RavVid · Answer

There are some, both guys and girls, who have a new boyfriend/girlfriend the next week after breaking up. Others take a long time.

Usually women have lined up the next man before they end a relationship. Most likely they have test driven him as well.

AviatorTom · Answer

That's possible. Women tend to have more emotional involvement in a relationship than men do.

That could go back to basic biology. Men can produce billions of sperm anytime they want (always fertile), while women only have a few days each month to be fertile. Since each human has an innate goal to reproduce and continue the species, women are more picky in choosing a mate than men are, who can play the probability game.

ohsheeT · Answer

Not all men but most men do because they're either angry of the breakup or they want to be jackasses and show the person they broke up with it doesn't matter cuz they can get anybody is what they think but they end up losing in the long run

rachel776 · Answer

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BonzoInBitburg · Answer

You can care deeply and move on fairly quick. It comes down to accepting what has happened and striving to keep moving forward.

Jackblue · Answer

My impression is, it is the opposite at least when there is a breakup. It maybe a little different when one spouse dies. I have read widowed women are less likely to remarry than divorced women.

OneViewpoint · Answer

Nah, it's not a gender thing it's a personality thing combined with opportunity.

HellOnHeels0 · Answer

Here in Greece they expect the widow to remain celibate. After her husband dies. Even if she in her 20s.

canamlusciouslad73 · Answer

Depends on the dude, but we boys' testosterone makes us hunger for another relationship sooner than most lasses, who tend to mourn their lost partner longer.

seth900 · Answer

As a guy i would say it depends... with every girl. iy cam take. more time to heal... but if the girl. rejects the guy and if he feels he was humiliated than it cam take fast to forget about them...

ProbablyClueless · Answer

No... I don't think it's a question of how much we care. There are certainly men who care less though.

RareBreedOfMan · Answer

No, when I love a woman I could never move on after a death or after a break up.

Billlewis · Answer

Oh, I don't think there's any doubt about that.

ChiTown33 · Answer

This is dependent on the person, not gender.

gasman70 · Answer

depends on how much they truly want to invest in the relationship and the maturity of the man.

TonyMetal___1986 · Answer

I can say that this photo is real but back in the 50's or 80's maybe but now, both just don't give a f*ck! 😏

glennos89 · Answer

Totally not woman are much faster getting new relationships

Pretendingtobesweet · Answer

Love is a lie or mental illness. There is no love inside of human’s corrupt heart.

exitseven · Answer

I dont think that this is true. Everyone has different experiences.

loveslongnails · Answer

I don't think they care "less", they just care in a different kind of way.

blackeagle007 · Answer

My late grandfather passed only months after grandmother. I think we take it the hardest because we are not allowed to grieve

AgentG111 · Answer

Depends on the people and how they loved and lived.

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

Nope 👎. Has everything to do with the individual and nothing to do with their gender.

Iwccscg · Answer

No, but we are taught growing up to be tough so we dont show it as much as women do

WhitneySnow · Answer

In general yes, but there are exceptions

LifeHitMeandRan · Answer

I've found the opposite to be true.

bear34 · Answer

I think it's the exact opposite.

Alex-Snow · Answer

I'm sure it happens for some.

LiamJHayden · Answer

It is individual, not by sex.

dudeinohio · Answer

I pretty much move on quickly.

Paige2006 · Answer

I don't think that's true

Pterodon · Answer

No I wouldn’t say that

wkhan_87 · Answer

Not all same... some are more emotional

askingandreplying · Answer

I dont think so

MasterKS · Answer

Yes mostly true.

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