Why are some guys clingy, possessive bloodhounds (for sex) one moment then scaredy cats (for commitment) the next?

[DishLady]

Honestly, I don't get it. If a gal gets clingy with a guy folks say she's got "daddy issues" but if a guy get's clingy and possessive with a gal... he's just being a guy.

So what to do with the guy who is super possessive and scares off other guys (cock blocking?) but then turns into a scaredy cat when it comes to asking a gal out or staking his actual claim?

[ericJackson]

Because the thrill of the chase is a fun game, but commitment is an actual full-time job! 😂 A lot of guys want the prize of having a woman, but they get terrified when they realize they actually have to pay the price of loyalty, consistency, and effort to keep her.

[DishLady]

I don't like the "ft job" thought. It's like saying having kids is a ft job. The kid doesn't want to hear that. The same for a relationship, really. And if you love the person you're with it's not "a job".

Yes, the famous "prize" mentality. A guy wants to be around a gal when it's convenient then wants to also vanish when it's convenient. Barbie IN the box, Barbie OUT of the box. (Poor Barbie.)

Yes... terrified. Hmm. It's a shame. I've seen several good relationship fall to the wayside bc the guy is suddenly terrified and chickens out... but riding a motorcycle at breakneck speeds or flying out of a plane are fine. Smh.

[spartan55]

Those are the kind of guys that get laughed at behind their backs.

[DishLady]

Yeah?

[spartan55]

Definitely

[OlderAndWiser]

It is easy to pretend to be a confident man some of the time, but lack of confidence eventually becomes apparent.

[RachyRach]

Sex and commitment aren't the same thing

[Cidknee]

Eeh, it's life. 🤷‍♂️.

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[DishLady]

Me no like...