What does he mean when he says life was hard and complicated back then?

[Anonymous]

girl had a boyfriend. The guy liked her and he and the girl worked together. The guy was moved to another city. When they messaged each other recently he wrote ‘life seemed hard and complicated back then…’

like that what’s he really mean or saying to her?

[Anonymous]

I think he might be indirectly saying that he had feelings for her back then but the circumstances made it difficult to act on them. She had a boyfriend, they worked together, and then he was moved to another city. Perhaps he felt the timing was wrong or that getting involved would only complicate things. It could also be a way of looking back and wondering what might have happened if things had been different. I wouldn't assume he was in love with her, but I do think there's possibly something unspoken behind that comment. I'd be curious to know what he says if she asks him what he means by complicated.

[Asker]

Thanks for your input. Yep I think you have some great points there.. she’s tempted to ask about the complicated.: but not sure it it’s pushing it.. he seemed to answer a bit cryptic but not sure why..

[WhitneySnow]

He was upset that you had a boyfriend while you and he worked together

[Asker]

You reckon? Is that why he says hard and complicated? Do you think he associates her with it.: so not necessarily positive memories

[WhitneySnow]

Well, he wishes she would’ve gone out with him when they worked together

[RavVid]

It could be he frequently got erections over her and either possible locations for quickies were complicated to get to quickly or else it was complicated to find somewhere for a quickie.

[Anonymous]

He wanted her but couldn't at the time.

[Asker]

So do you think that says depth of feelings back then or no? I mean the fact he associates it with hard and complicated

[Opinion Owner]

It's hard to say for sure, but he obviously still thinks about you.

[Asker]

Why do you say that?

[Opinion Owner]

He messaged her. I'd only contact or whatever a girl I have romantic feelings for.

[Asker]

But she initiated the message, she reconnected with him and that was his reply

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe he was going through personal issues that clouded his judgment.

[Asker]

Clouded his judgement how do?

[Opinion Owner]

It could be a variety of things. Maybe he had a worse image of himself during his issues.

[BROWNSUGGA65]

that he had a lot of other things going on with whatever and now he’s mature enough to be in a relationship

[Asker]

Do you think it’s just related to other things in his life or to do with girl too?

[Abbycado]

Can’t post this just once?

[Asker]

Yeah that was an error, only meant to submit it once but wifi timed out and then ended up twoce

[Iron_Man]

it means he had a hard time

[Asker]

With what though? Life in general to to do with her… she had just said she felt it too so..

[Iron_Man]

It could have meant she was difficult back them to deal with

[Iron_Man]

Then

[Asker]

Yeah it’s a bit cryptic

[Iron_Man]

Yeah girl