Ex-boyfriend attempted suicide. What now?

[Shygirl901]

I just broke up with my boyfriend two nights ago.

His friend sent me an email yesterday writing that the boyfriend was in the hospital and had tried to kill himself by overdosing on something.

He was verbally, emotionally and mentally abusive towards me. And after we broke up he begged for me not to. He begged for me to text him, or just to call him for a few minutes he "just needs to hear her voice" is what he told his friend. But I could not because I know he would talk me into staying in the relationship.

I think it is all a hoax to get me to feel sorry for him and come back to him. The emails from his friend and the suicide note do not match up... His friend told me I am being a jerk for not talking to him even after I broke his heart and he tried to kill himself.

Do you think I am doing the right thing not talking to him? He was controlling and abusive towards me, and I am sure now had psychological problems.

What if he did just try to commit suicide? I don't believe he did. But if he did I would feel so bad. How do I handle something like this?



I have every right to leave him and not feel guilty... But yet I do, and that was probably his plan with the "almost" suicide.

Updates

+1 y

Heard back from one of his family members. It was all a lie, there was no hospital visit, no attempt at anything other than to get me back.

[Red_Arrow]

If the facts are as you present them (and I believe they are), then it does not matter if he was serious or it was a hoax... If you go back to him the pattern will repeat. If it was a hoax he will do it again to keep you. If it was real, going back to him will just mess with his psych and after you are again abused you will leave and he will be worse that time.

You need to avoid him at all costs. If it was real, he needs counseling and therapy, not you going back. His "friend" should see that also. If it was phony, all the more reason to avoid him.

Avoid him (and his friend).

[Snow123]

^ This exactly. Great answer.

[justanotherguy00001]

"He was controlling and abusive towards me, and I am sure now had psychological problems."

Yeah... I'm thinking that too now..

A almost suicide is probably the most pathetic way to get attention. It basically says, "I value myself so little, I'd give my entire life up if you don't acknowledge me"

If it was a hoax, it's even worse, what do you think will happen if you go back? Rationality?

Sure..

I'm glad you're away from it, stay away from him. That's a bit of advice you should follow.

[Shygirl901]

If I go back it will just get worse. He will know what he can do to get me to stay. And he will know he can get away with anything now. I know I can't go back, and I won't go back... No matter how much he begs.

[Modernman2006]

F*** that guy move on with your life. If he's abusive than he needs to learn the consequences from this.

[justanotherguy00001]

&... that's why if he tries anything else, you get a restraining order.

[Janninblopez]

You don't need to be in a relationship like that. He needs to see a psychologist and you need to stay away from him .. and don't feel guilty about.. let him deal with his own problems

[Shygirl901]

He keeps messaging me. And called me a couple times too...

[Dchrls78104]

@Shygirl901 Psychosis at issue... controlling personality... insecurity and need of urgent help... return to such would be enabling. Individual needs to take responsibility for himself.

[Anonymous]

Change your number if he is calling you and texting you. That would relief you a little. And it's not your fault dear. He is just trying to get your attention. Let him be . :)

[Guysensei]

rather than asking total strangers for their 2 cents, go FIND OUT the truth. This is a stupid way to decide what to do in a possibly very serious situation (someone attempting to commit suicide).

[Shygirl901]

I am doing my best to find out the truth. Unfortunately I have minimal contact info for his family members. I didn't even know most of thier names.

[WoIIie]

You don't deserve to be dragged into this mess. He's your ex, not your boyfriend.

[iXenomorph]

I'm guessing your ex was lacking a little in the testicle department.

[Shygirl901]

Yep, to bad it took me 9 monuhs of my life to realize it.

[GymStatus]

Yep that is all on him... He needs to get over this. This is just another control tactic... I say run lol

[GymStatus]

I saw that you updated the question... Remember I called it 8 days ago. I told you to run lol. I know 2 stories like this in real life to people I know. One guy did kill him self. Did he get the woman that he wanted in the end... no. The other woman ended up leaving he man who was jumping in the hopsital on purpose... People like that are nuts...

[pandaninja]

send him a "dont worry you'll get it right next time" card