Why do men stare from afar at women? Especially women they are friends with and can easily talk to?

[Anonymous]

I keep catching this friend of mine really intently staring at me from across the room A LOT. We talk all the time and have a great relationship but I am catching him all the time doing the staring thing. When I catch his eye he will quickly look away but resume looking when he is sure I have turned away. It's obvious that I have caught him in the act. Even catch him staring at my chest & body too.

Does this mean they like you and may be scared to approach you about that?

[oOsweet~o~nessOo]

Lol don't know maybe it takes men more time to take in sensory information? I was walking out of the cafe and this guy stared me down for like 30 seconds then finally smiled :P

I would say he probably has a crush on you. A guy friend of mine started acting like that, and then he started talking about how good I looked in this or that - then kissed me like out of the blue :P

If you like him back, perhaps it would be a nice relationship? But there's always concern with those because no one wants to ruin the friendship if the relationship doesn't work out.

You like him back?

[Asker]

Yea I do like him a lot. He compliments me all the time, touches me a lot and we have a GREAT tim together. He just gets all shy sometimes and retreats into the staring stuff.

I would LOVE for him to ask me out, I may PASS out

[oOsweet~o~nessOo]

xD!

Ask him out lol

Say you and some " friends " are going to the movies this weekend and invite him along. When he shows up, tell him they all conviently cancelled :P or you can simply ask him out to somewhere one on one

[Anonymous]

Im in this exact situation although I told my crush (the guy staring from afar) that I liked him as more than I friend. He said I was nice but he had a girlfriend but yet he carries on staring at me. He is extremly shy so I don't know what else to do know I have tld him. Maybe your guy is very shy and is too scared to make a move. tell him you like him, it might turn out better than mine did. If you don't tell him this situation will just carry on and on, it will drive you crazy and you will always wonder what if. Good luck

[Asker]

This is exactly why I haven't made a move yet..I am scared of the same thing happening to me. My crush has been pretty obvious with me and it looks like I missed his cues..I will just have to step up my approach with him and hope he gets it. I am CRAZY about him.

[Opinion Owner]

Well go for it. Its better to do it than to not. I'm crazy about mine too but sitting there wondering just drives you even more crazy. My crush is till giving me the eye contact and flirting ocassionally so not all was lost, think he just needs time.

[kholland65]

At the very least he finds you attractive. He may also want to ate you but like sixstring said, guys are usually more hesitant to make a move on a friend because 9/10 they get rejected and firnezoned and things just get awkward.

[Asker]

Yea, he is NOT in my friend zone at all. I have a crush on him too. So how can I move it forward?

[kholland65]

You're going to have to initiate. Be more physical with him, invite him to hang out one on 1, text him all the time. Just flirt A LOT. When the guy is a friend, you have to make everything 10x more obvious. If he still doesn't get the hint, you may have just just be blunt and talk to him about it.

[sixstring]

I think that's pretty much what it means. He's probably crushing on you, but thinks you're just friends and you don't want to change that.

[Asker]

Well I flirt back and everything. I like him a lot and would love for him to be feeling the same way. I hesitate to make the first move..

[sixstring]

When a female friend is being flirty, it's very hard for us to figure out what she really wants. Women in general are much more subtle with flirting. They often say "don't mix being friendly with being flirty", but to us there's very little difference.

If you're hesitant, drop very clear hints like "I have no one to hang out with this weekend, I'm going to be so bored." to have him ask you out. If he doesn't get it, ask him to hang out with you one-on-one.

[Asker]

he is always asking me what I am doing over the weekend or if I have any plans. Is that his way of round-about asking me out?

[sixstring]

Yes, what buttfor69 said.

[Asker]

jeez, I have missed probably 10 or more "hints" from him then. He is always asking me that question. Next time I will just have to take the bull by the horns.

[sixstring]

That has made the situation worse. Because you never responded, he thinks you were rejecting him. This will make it even less likely for him to make a move, so you'll have to take the lead at the beginning, or give VERY obvious clues.

[Asker]

I responded and said that I didn't have any plans thinking he would say "well do you want to hang out" or something like that and he never did so I just left it alone..gosh this is exhausting...LOL

[zkr015]

If you are not in the friend zone, approach him and ask him, just make him feel comfortable and know that he can make a move anytime, either by saying it or not.

[pr3ttybr0wn]

I think they're just admiring you

[smg99]

Actually what is the meaning of admiring in the way of long lasting eye contact?