Girls do I deserve to be single for the rest of my life?

[Anonymous]

I admit that I am completely broken. I am a 27 year old virgin. With no confidence at all. I have no idea how to talk to girls. I don't blame women at all for my failures. You have every right to reject me. Do I deserve to be single until I die single for my pathetic lack of self esteem? I won't judge.

[Deepgirl13]

deffinately not. you deserve to be happy just like anyone else. there is always someone out there for everyone. it may take time to find them but trust me its worth the wait.all you have to do is be patient. and once they come along they will love you for everything that makes you u. and if they don't they aren't the one for u. just stay strong and live and love your life. they will come sooner or later.

by the way, good job still being a virgin. it takes reel courage to be someone like that. I'm proud of you for waiting for the right person to give all you have to them. I hope to be as strong as u. :)

[CMeow]

Being a virgin at 27 doesn't make you a coward, as you had called yourself in a comment. There is nothing wrong with that, it just means you haven't had the right opportunity. Despite whatever flaws you do have, there is someone who will accept you, you just need to believe in that, and show confidence... even if you have to fake confidence, try to present yourself as someone who is happy with who they are. It will make women think you are worth getting to know, and things could progress from there. Don't be too hard on yourself, and take some risks! Ask a girl out on a casual date!

[india101]

Do you care more about losing your virginity or having a relationship? If it's the first, you can have a hooker to help you with that. If it's a relationship, have a little more confidence. There's a saying that in order to feel happy in a relationhip, you first need to feel happy being single. If not, then that means all of your happiness will depend on that other person, and that's not fair to that person. Go do something that you have wanted to do very much (climb moutains, sky dive, go knitting). Go find something to do with your life that will make you look at life differently.

[Kileykitty]

To think like this is very self defeating.

You need to focus on the positive, maybe a hobby or skill that you're particularly good at. Take pride in what you do! Maybe try out some new things, change up your routine a bit...maybe take more walks outside? Take up biking or jogging? Something that makes you feel good about yourself.

Try changing up your look a little bit. Try out a new haircut, maybe change your wardrobe a bit.

As far as the virginity goes, don't sweat it. What does age have anything to do with that? Our society puts a pressure on people to be sexually experienced by a certain age, but the important part is to not let it phase you...27 is so young, and you have a long time left for everything else. Plus, you can boast being completely STD free when you do get down and dirty, so that's a plus.

[alchemy12]

Absolutely not. We're all flawed in some way but that doesn't mean we don't deserve love.

Low self-esteem is challenging and makes things difficult but the good news is that it can be overcome. You're still young so that's good but if you want a better life you'll have to work at fixing it. It will be hard but it's totally doable.

[Annabeth101]

You will find someone out there, trust me

. I can't talk to guys either, so your not alone. Also, don't worry about the whole virginity thing. It just means you've waited a bit longer, which shows that your responsible enough to wait for the right person. I think that's a lot more respectful than banging a girl at the age of sixteen, eighteen, or even twenty.

And no, no one deserves that. Maybe you could take a charismatic class, or do something you love. Just get up and have some fun. What do you have to lose? If your confidence is as lacking as you say it is, then you've got nothing to lose.

[Anonymous]

You deserve to go to a mental health professional and sort yourself out. Nobody can fix you, man. You've gotta learn how to fix yourself. I struggle with self hate and low self esteem, too. I'm not saying this out of spite, but out of tough love. Do work.

[smilebeautiful]

No, of course you don't deserve to. But what you need? Some confidence. You sound like a sweet guy, just put yourself out there more and work on your self esteem.

[Anonymous]

You'll find someone and just because you're a virgin doesn't mean you can't have that sort of intimate relationship with a girl. You need to stop thinking you just need to f*** women, as if you do just come across as that which I'm sure is not your intention then you will not really have women lining up at your door especially if they believe sex is your only intention.

[Enideqa]

You know what, don't focus on the virginity thing. Maybe talk to someone, even a counsellor to help build you back up. You have to work on yourself, build up your self esteem, self image and then get out there and have some fun.

[nerfetiti]

You need to find yourself a good life coach and a councillor or therapist to deal with your issues what ever they might be and gain yourself worth again

[FlyingTurtle]

No way do you deserve that. Bro, you need to talk to a life coach or something. Get help. You can't live like this.

[britannny]

No, you don't "deserve" to.

[Asker]

I'm such a Coward though. Still a virgin at 27.

[Anonymous]

It's funny how "I'm a virgin" comes up before anything else at all, as if that is your biggest priority in life right now lol

[brii68]

No you don't deserve to be single. You will find someone someday that will appreciate you and accept you for who you are.

[txgirl35]

Work on yourself first and she'll come later on when you least expect it!