Does girlfriend gaining weight mean she is unhappy?

[Anonymous]

I've been with my girlfriend for 5 years now and since we've been together she's has gained 200lbs, is this a sign she wants me to dump her or that she is unhappy with me?

PS weight doesn't bother me I'm just worried she is not happy

[whatsername]

I think she is just comfortable with you and hasn't noticed that she's gaining weight. I don't think she wants to leave you since you've been together for so long, if she did she would have said something. maybe you can just ask her if she is okay or something but don't bring up the weight. As long as the weight doesn't make you want to leave her you should be fine. And if she ever does bring up the weight you could always help her lose it and eat healthy/exercise with her, Just be supportive of whatever decision she makes

[JulieXO]

I don't think you are the reason she is gaining weight. If she didn't want to be with you. she would dump you. It might be work stress or something of that sort. even if her weigh gain doesn't bother you, try and tell her to go to the gym and eat clean. Gaining 200 lbs is surely not good for her health

[Anonymous]

Means either she is comfortable around you enough or sometimes birth control has something to do with it.

My sister & her boyfriend have been going out for 10 years, she's gained quite a bit of weight. She was average before she took the injection but now she's plummeted quite a bit.

[Klaatu51]

200 lbs? OMFG. unless you wanted to type 20 lbs LOL

[kittenforever]

She got lazy because she has a bf now and doesn't have to worry about attracting guys. This tends to happen a lot to women in long term relationships when they realize they don't have to try anymore.

[JulyAndrews]

You see it so many times, but not only in women. I think if you have a partner that regularly hits the gym you won't stay behind. But if your bf or gf doesn't work out, doesn't do much to make him or herself more attractive than the other will behave the same.

It's a two way thing. My ex thought he didn't need to keep himself in shape, he wasn't fat or anything but 90% of men need to workout (they have no natural shape.. square maybe lol?) So I brought it up and he didn't do anything. I was working out at least 4 times a week to keep myself attractive. So that ended. You can't be the only one who does their best to stay attractive for their partner.

[Anonymous]

I remember when I became depressed I started emotionally eating. And I also heard that someone may eat a lot when they are not having lots of sex but I do not think that is true because I do not have a regular sex life and I would be obese by now. However I am borderline 200 I actually lost 5 pounds

[JulyAndrews]

200 pounds? But that's really unhealthy, you should actually be worried, Gaining so much weight in only 5 years...40 pounds a year... wow... and is she in your age group as well?

Have you ever talked to her about it?

[523206720]

Some people lose interest in looking good once they are in a relationship where they think there is no risk of the person breaking up with them or leaving.

[findingdreamland]

There is more than a relationship issue, here. She has gained 200 ibs? And you still wait?
Grab her and take her to the doctor. She might develop some health problems.

[goldenspice]

IF she is happy in the relationship she is likely unhappy with herself. No one lets themselves go and are 100% happy with themselves.

[lovebird321]

Agreed

[been_waiting]

How does someone gain 200 pounds? Something is going on here. Could be medical, or she's depressed, or both

[rt2055]

Quite the opposite actually. She is definitely happy

[goldenspice]

That makes absolutely no sense.