My mom ruined my view on my body?

[Anonymous]

I used to he happy with myself, I didn't compare myself to anyone because I was comfortable with who I was. That all changed when my mom told me I should lose weight so I don't get even fatter then I already was. I was so hurt by this comment and I tried do hard to eat healthier just so she would accept me. However, in doing this I fell away from who I was. I became bulimic and tried so hard to be thin. I was constantly comparing myself to everyone and I was lowering my once great self confidence. My mom found out I was bulimic and I promised I wouldn't do it again. I thought I wasn't fat at 5'1 and 113 pounds at 15 but she always looks at me in a way that makes me feel like I am. She will also say things like I shouldn't wear shorts that show my thighs or tops that show my stomach and then I become extremely depressed and starve myself or cut myself ( I've only cut myself 4 times) I want to be like I used to be where it didn't matter to me but now that my mom has said things about my weight I don't think I can go back. I think part if it can be that she doesn't want me to be like her because she is a little bigger but I just want to be happy again. I want to love myself and I want people to love me ( for example boys that only like thin girls)

[soneoak]

Sounds like you've got Paranoid subtype of schizophreniform disorders.

The issue stems from an overactive part of your brain that constantly repeats crappy memories, and interpret benign behaviours as aggressive ones. Usually, it associates them to previous REAL behaviours that were crappy before, even though the present behaviour doesn't carry the same weight.

Psychiatrist might help with some medications. Or your mom might already be on some medications that cause her to have a very lousy affect (facial expression) that makes it look like she's criticising everything all the time, even though she may not be. *But if she is, well sucks to be her.

Bulimia tends to be a symptom rather than a condition of its own, so attempting to force feed doesn't help the individual overcome the issues underlying it.

So it is both my lady, your brain is more sensitive to certain criticisms, especially from people that it associates with that are supposed to know what they are doing. Also, your mom isn't perfect, or even great, she's just normal (meaning she's full of flaws and has some positives, just like other people).

No blame there, just a thing you're born with. (this brain type also works well when the parent is 'perfect' or something, apparently, it amplifies any bullshit compliments you get from them and you become the other spectrum of ultra spoilt and borderline psychopathic)

[Mesonfielde]

Your BMI is 21.3 at 5'1" with 113 lbs.

That's normal (healthy)

You honestly shouldn't feel bad about yourself. The only thing worth feeling bad about is having an eating disorder, so you should probably stop doing that and instead love your body for what it is. Your mother is incorrect, you're probably pretty damn hot and I approve of your current physique.

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... yeah, I know, I know, under 18 tag, she'd be legal in my country so no sweat :p

[PinkSnowConez]

CHRIS HANSEN LOL

[Asker]

hahaha! Thanks so much though, I am getting help with my disorder.

[Anonymous]

Normally my mom also ask me to lose weight and stuff and always fussing me to go to the gym, but I just ignore them, cause if I m happy I with my body y should care about how other thinks even if that person were to be my mom, because ultimately I know my body better that anyone, even more than my mommy as I m the one who is living in it not her! If she doesn't like then it her problem. But then my mom is very contradicting as she is always complying about I how I don't eat enough and etc. but the thing is if u r happy with then nothing else should matter and ur will just have to learn to live with it. So be urself and be happy, eat a lot, have fun a lot, and just enjoy urself and enjoy life!

[jackyct]

i dont know why parents would fucking do that. my mother used to be like this too and thinking back its just ridiculous. why would parents pick on their children unless they're unhealthy fat? maybe she's just being a bitch cause she's old. just let her talk shit.

[Orchidfur]

I struggle with myself a lot also. I am 157cm and 43kg but I always want to be less... it started a few months ago at just wanting to be 45kg, but now I want to be 40kg... maybe even 39kg... and thats bad... I think I am more BDD than anorexic. But jusy remember. Eating disorders are very visible disorders. And BDD isn't from someone else, BDD is from your head there is physically nothing wrong with you. It all comes from your head. I struggle too but I know what healthy is...

[Mesonfielde]

Holy shit that's crazy thin. Wtf.

[Orchidfur]

I think it started because I was always the slim one and when I found friends slimmer than myself I needed to be the slim one... But dont worry I already vowed to myself I wouldn't go under 40kg. I was only around 46kg naturally so it isn't that bad.

[sammy_31]

Sounds like your mom was jealous of you or something that is very rude. I am 116 and 5'1 and don't let people tell me what mom body should look like. My mom will say things like you're getting thinner well no shit I'm eating better and working out. I don't try to be a smartass with my mom and I respect her and all but its my body. Please don't let others tell you what you should look like. It happens often in families which sucks but overcome that chapter in your life hun, chin up.

[SomethingWicked]

Dude, your mother has issues, she's now passed those issues onto you, when there was probably nothing to be concerned about.

Maybe try some therapy for self esteem issues, ask your mother to attend therapy for her own issues too.

[soccerchick4eva]

I think a lot of mums do this -.- my mum used to always pester me , so just ignore her and keep going on with your life and doing what you do, cause you're healthy ! :)

[Jersey1]

Check your BMI, is she right? If so, she is just trying to help. If not, tell her your BMI is fine. If you don't know what that is, do a search on it, it is Body Mass Index.

[AdamThomas]

Your Mum is an idiot. 113lbs at 5'1" is a good weight.