How do I regain my self-esteem after being rejected so much?

[Anonymous]

I'm 24, been rejected so many times. I've only "dated" guys from online dating site and I've messaged a lot of guys on there only to get no reply. No dates in college from guys asking me out there, only had my first kiss with a random dude at a club at 23.

I feel so unworthy and undatable to go out and try again. I feel like there's no way any guy would want to date me. I've lowered my standards too and that has not worked either to going out with guys I'm not even attracted to you inside or out and sometimes both.

My friends are telling me to try again and go out and go to singles events, join co-ed groups etc. because maybe real-life will be better. I've had rejection in real life, guys giving me their numbers and then not replying when I msged them or ditching me after making out with me at a club.

How do I regain confidence in this area?

[martyfellow]

Drop online dating, and follow your friends' advice, meet people in more everyday-life situations rather than at temples of shallow people such as clubs. Instead, join clubs for outdoor activities or things you are actually INTERESTED IN, aside from any romantic potential!

The good ones are out there; don't waste any time on the others.

[landlet]

well if you're not ready to compromise... not much you can do but hope

consider changing your target demographic from clubbers to more of the "library" types, sure they might look like ugly dorks now but imagine them behind the wheel of a merc in the future

[slackercruster]

Your friends told you right. Let see your pix. PM me with it or tell me to come back here if you post it or I won't see it. The pix is the acid test as to if looks are an issue.

Are you ugly?

Are you an anorexic?

Are you a fat blimp that needs to carry her gut around in a wheelbarrow?

Without pix no one has a clue. I've seen some very ugly women married. But without the pix, nothing concrete can be said. I won't waste any more time until I have more information on you. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

You need to realize having a woman in your life is not the ultimate key to happiness. The ultimate key to happiness is having friends and family that care about you, and you having a job that supports yourself. Women are just a bonus don't make it seem like you can't live without a woman.

Besides women always talk about how they don't need men.

[silvernblackattk]

You seem like a really sweet girl, dont give up hope, im going through the same thing as you.. Do you flirt when you go out? I hope everything works out for you.. Tell yourself every morning you're awesome and that you are worth it. Good luck xx

[silvernblackattk]

I forgot one more thing, think of something that makes you smile and you will feel more confident, also accept yourself and love yourself because if you dont nobody else will.. I learned that lesson the hard way

[badger25]

Wow are you a girl version of me!!! I feel like I suck at dating, I haven't kissed anyone lately and I'm just not sure what it is.

[koko124]

Work on your appearance if you can.

Develop a sense of inner peace and satisfaction.