How can I can be skinny like my cousin?

[CutiePie001]

My cousin is small framed, (petite frame), 5'5, ruler shaped, small head, naturally skinny, 127lbs. I'm 5'10, large-framed, pear shaped (read huge butt and hips), big head and naturally thick. I really want to be skinny and my cousins wishes she was a little thicker and courier like me and tells me I'm lucky. My mom is also a large-framed thick, curvy woman and the women on my dad's side are thin. I should of took after them.

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Oh and I'm 198lbs but people say I look good and I don't need to lose anymore weight because I'm tall and tall people can carry the weight better than short people. I had to prove that I'm 198lbs.

[EyeSeaYew]

You can't change the fact that you have a larger frame than your cousin and you can't change your bone structure (meaning you're stuck as a pear shape, can't change to a ruler). You could lose weight but you still wouldn't look petite like your cousin.

Just focus on looking YOUR best. Exercise regularly, eat better. Being fit and in shape always looks best no matter what your bone structure or shape is.

Also remember the grass always does look greener on the other side. I'm the same height as your cousin and even thinner and sometimes do wish that my hips rounded out more. On the other hand I have a friend who is bigger than me (but very curvy, like, a true hourglass figure) who regularly complains about her hips. Many people aren't 100% satisfied with their looks but really that's okay, because what is of main importance is who you are on the inside anyway. Your weight could yo-yo up and down but who you are as a person will remain constant.

[CutiePie001]

Yeah. Some thinner girls say they wish they're more filled out like I am and had wide hips. I hate my wide hips and I keep getting male attention sometimes. I don't dress like a tramp. When I wear sweats or exercise pants (not yoga) I get hit on a lot.

[EyeSeaYew]

And that's exactly why some thinner girls would prefer to be a little more filled out lol. When you have a curvier body you can look amazing even in a simple pair of sweats and a well-fitting T-shirt. Whereas when you're thinner sometimes you can feel like you haven't got anything to look at. I can see how constant male attention could get annoying or even make you feel uncomfortable with your body, though. Really there are pros and cons to both sides.

[CutiePie001]

I don't care. I want to be skinny and that's final. I don't know why some girls want to gain weight. Even my skinny cousin wants to gain some weight.

[EyeSeaYew]

Then lose weight. I didn't say you couldn't lose weight. I simply said not to expect to look petite. But you can look thinner if you take the necessary steps to, even if your body has a predisposition to hold on to fat.

[CutiePie001]

Oh okay. Thanks

[spuitkaas]

That's not possible. It has something to do with genes. Apparently, your moms genes were more dominant than your dads.

[CutiePie001]

But it isn't fair. My dad likes thicker, curvier women like my mom so he's pretty lucky. Why did I had to take it from my mom? I love her in all but most of the women on her side of mostly curvy and thick but not all of them.

[spuitkaas]

Life isn't fair. You can loose a lot of weight and look somewhat skinny like, but you'll never be petite. Accept what you can't change.

[CutiePie001]

Hello! Most guys like petite women so that's why I envy petite women and girls.

[spuitkaas]

I wish I was more petite too, I'm on you side, but you can't change your bone structure and where fat takes place on your body. Just not possible.

[CutiePie001]

How tall are you and what's your frame size?

[spuitkaas]

I'm 170 cm (I think 5'7 feet). And I have a cup 70D with pretty big legs and that's the reason I don't fit in many jeans. I don't know my frame size, don't really care either. I just try my best to look good with what I have.

[CutiePie001]

Oh okay

[PsyNoodles]

Here's a 2-step magic trick to losing weight, first you exercise, then you eat, it's that simple!

Anyway lol do you really want to be thinner? I'm into really petite girls like 5'6 max better between 4'11 and 5'3 (and I'm 6'3 I'm not a short guy who feels he has limited options) I just find little girls SO cute. On the other hand most of my guy friends (the straight ones) don't like girls that small or thin, they prefer busty girls who are thick and curvy. So the first thing I would do before anything else is decide if you DO wan't to be thinner and more like her because you might be better off being thick if you're looking for guys <3

Oh and the height thing is fine. 5'10 is still almost a whole half of a foot shorter than me xD And I know I'm not the only guy with my height!

[CutiePie001]

Well you tall guys like the little petite women and that's why I envy petite and average size women because they get the tall and good-looking guys.

[PsyNoodles]

Oh I thought it was shorter guys that liked shorter girls in general cause guys generally want to be at least as tall as their partner if not taller. But that being said it means taller girls kind of have to find taller guys already leaving not much room for the shorter guys. Do tall guys generally like petite girls? It's been my experience that they just don't worry as much about height of their partner but that's all I know xD

[CutiePie001]

Oh okay. Well sorry if I criticized you if I did.

[PsyNoodles]

What?

[Nomad93]

Watch what you are eating go on this site www.myfitnesspal.com and download it or look up the foods you eat and start tracking your meals. Also you can start exercising if you aren't already and do yourself a favor and don't compare yourself to others. Everyone is different it could be because of genetics and or lifestyle that you are as big as you are. I used to be 210 pounds but now I am 173 and way sexier hehe

[he-is-my-everything]

believe me, real guys like curves:) your family is right. but if you really want to lose weight, the most healthy and proper way is to exercise regularly and eat healthy food (as i'm sure you already know). don't starve yourself because it can cause your body to store the energy and the fat because it knows that it'll be hungry for a while and also it always causes weakness and it's really really not the right choice at all. concentrate on the parts of your body that bother you the most and do exercises that strengthen the muscles in that area:) and good posture strenghtens tummy muscles:) (about your butt - guys mostly prefer bigger butts honey so don't worry, you are actually blessed) :) hope this helps:)

[CutiePie001]

That's not true, not all guys like big butts. Although I've seen some men that has girlfriends with large butts. What's so great about it? It sucks. When my cousin and I go out, I get more attention from men than she does. Damn

[HookingSwan]

I take it the question about the Kira's autistic cousin you asked earlier was indeed a troll move or else you wouldn't still be here and concerned about weight issues. Or maybe rippinh someone off doesn't weigh as much in your conscience as it should. Just saying, doesn't make you look good at all.

[PsyNoodles]

Thanks for the heads up on this lol. I sensed troll but I've seen enough questions like this to give this person a chance oh well!

[CutiePie001]

Haha that's so funny.

[CourtJester]

Two things...
Diet: cut out processed carbs/sugar, eat more protein/fiber (veggies/fruits), and be in a caloric deficit
Exercise: Start a resistance/weight training regimen with added cardio.
Just the basics... feel free to ask for the specifics if you want.

[jammasterjay]

You can't change your genetics but you can lean down sensibly. A balanced diet and reasonable caloric deficit combined with exercise is the order of the day.

[dpeguero]

Go on all liquid diet. I swear to you i lost 15 poinds when i broke my jaw in two weeks. I tried as much as possible to get caloric intake and i still lost weight.

[Anonymous]

You can't. It's not in your genes to ever be skinny

[CutiePie001]

What? Why not? I tried to be skinny but my body won't let ne and my hips are STILL huge.

[Opinion Owner]

You're not meant to be super skinny. You take after your mom. Genetics play a huge part in your body type.

[CutiePie001]

That's fucked up! My cousin is skinny and can fit into cute clothes and I get criticized for it.

[Anonymous]

Go on a diet and work out.

[CutiePie001]

What kind of diet?

[Opinion Owner]

Start eating healthy.
No excess sugar
Only whole grains
Drink lots of water
Don't eat late at night
Lean proteins
Fruits (limit the amount)
Vegetables
Make sure to eat breakfast
And most importantly EXERCISE

[CutiePie001]

Thank you so much

[Opinion Owner]

No problem :)
This won't make you petite just thinner. It's not possible to shrink really actually it is just wait till you're 80

[Ihav2fart]

Diet and exercise.

[CutiePie001]

Thanks you

[Ihav2fart]

Cut out useless carbs

[CutiePie001]

Okay thanks