Do standards get lower as people age?

[Anonymous]

Do standards get lower as people get older?
Or not?

Because I usually see older people flirting with people not all that attractive... Or people who look older?

No one needs to get offended. ✋😒

[becca123]

Well. I am uniquely qualified to answer this :)

Contrary to what I am reading here, my standards as well as those of my friends have gotten HIGHER. We no longer "need" to be with anyone and have narrowed down exactly what we want; we are willing to hold out for it. Men my age seek deeper things as do women.

I could get many more online dates but I am much pickier now. Even a drop dead gorgeous guy will get "nexted" if he doesn't meet my needs in his profile. Younger me would have jumped at the chance to be with him. My standards are higher, deeper and more complex than they were when I was younger.

[yaddayaddayadda02]

This exactly.

[Red_Arrow]

Great explanation and exactly correct!

[UberTroll]

My standards have only gotten higher as I've gotten older. I've gotten way more picky about the guys I'd be willing to date but that's only regarding personality. I got sucked in by an asshole and I learned a lot from that experience. However, my standards on looks haven't changed at all. I've always wanted someone who I found at least somewhat attractive and that hasn't changed.

[Illusive_Man]

Honestly , I got a feeling people settle for something less as they age.
Stability becomes a larger and larger factor in their consideration.

Call my judgmental but sometimes I wonder why did some of the most beautiful women in my neighborhood marry some of the least... eye pleasing man around , but hey I don't know , maybe they are funny or confident or whatever , or maybe it's just a practical joke for their children lol

[Red_Arrow]

Women raise their standards about stability as they grow older. They look for guys with confidence and humor. They want a man who wants kids and will treat them well. Etc., Etc. In other words, they raise their standards and stop settling for less. Just the opposite of what you concluded, even though you used the same requirements.

[Klaatu51]

yes since their attractiveness has faded away as well...

[Findingmyway]

No standards go up.. We have learned even more so that appearance is not everything. My guy is very simple and an average joe. Because SO many other things about him are so attractive it makes him very desirable to me. What you view as attractive may not be to someone else. sex appeal is not just body image. His appearance absolutely matters but its much more then that.

[Red_Arrow]

You have discovered the things that are important. Women looking for something better in men should take everything you said to heart. Thank you for expressing it so well.

[Laura1995]

Yes, because the older you are, the wiser. And you start to realize that looks aren't everything, unlike most people.
What's unattractive to you might be attractive to others :)

[Ibokan18]

yes it does, because you will realise that being picky isn't a smart choice..

[StickStickity13]

No, they just change. Looks are like 25% of the equation.

[TheWiseOwl]

Not in my case they have gotten higher.

[Ihav2fart]

Not really, I'm about the same as when I was 18.

[Bandit74]

Usually yes

[Anonymous]

I think so.

[GoldCobra]

Yes
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