Autism is very misunderstood. Depending on the severity of the case it could have little effect on ones romantic capabilities so I wouldn't instantly say no but it depends on the persons stability and control. Autistic people can be very smart but they can also be childish or irritable both thing most people can't handle. It depends on the case.
autism is just something the sufferer has to live with and something the friends and family of the sufferer have to work with to understand... it isn't anyones fault. and yes i would. my mom is autistic and i feel sad for her because no guy understands her and her autism... yet she is beautiful, successful, and smart. its a prison in the mind and seeing it first hand with my mother makes me not view it as anything other than somehting the person needs to work om to overcome. the sufferer probably has trouble with communication and they should surround themselves with people who are patient and kind.
hers was developed after birth. she had a tough child hood and has been on hefty amounts if adhd medication throughout her life. i do not suffer from autism which god bless i dont- but i have recieved my fair share of mental illness- bulimia nervosa. which is a different struggle in itself!
It's just a thing you deal with. It's clearly an impairment to communication with others. I think any high functioning autistic who was honest would admit that.
I would not have a relationship with an autistic person. The core symptom of autism is impaired communication and empathy, which are the critical elements of a relationship. Most people with autism need care as well. I don't think it's right to start a relationship in the role of caregiver.
I have a developmental disability on which a full diagnosis has never been reached, but it's v possible it could be autism. Either way I have a lot of overlap with it symptomatically a la stimming, OCD, a predilection towards being overwhelmed by noises or people, etc. Many of the girls in my circle have autism, and I think I'd match well w/ an autistic partner :)
I worked with special needs for 4 years, I think its a terrible thing. There are some who can make it through, but there are severe kids with it who have it as a curse, a prison of the mind, etc. Some kids can talk, some kids can do sign language, others don't understand anything. Autism is very broad, and would I have a relationship? Depends, but I'm not necessarily looking for an autistic girlfriend.
People with Autism are Extremely intelligent people. They are gifted in being exceptionally talented in certain skills and what they lack uncertain understandings they overly-compensate for in other areas. Some of the smartest people to have walked this Earth have been Autistic.
If you love the person that should not matter. a partner must ba able to understand depedning on the severity of the Autism that certain things may be uncomfortable and take time. Like for some it could be sensory issue where kissing may take a while, other sex, others going to loud places like concerts may be out. Just depends, The most common thing i think would be that the person with autism should let his/her partner know that they dont get body language, or sarcasm easily so they may get upset if u say something sarcastic b/c they think ur being true/ and saying methinks mean.
As for the experience part I have an ASD , aspergers and i am going to be a moderate autism special ed teacher after i graduate college in May! if it is a strength ir curse depends on the person.. me i think it is a strength it helped me have a great work ethic and im compasionate= good teacher. other it may be harder /less of a benifit. all depedns on the attitude!
I get sarcasm. My major aspergers obsessions are stories for the most part though. I learn a lot of from fiction and comedians. I still don't understand a lot of body language though. Even if I can pick up on some of it, it's like I don't have any body language. I also don't know how to sound sincere when I mean something. I could tell a girl "I really like you" but it won't sound real. It will sound rehearsed and memorized.
It sounds like you may be a level 4 which is the mildest form of Autism (aspergers). As for the not sounding sincer, maybe make sure to tell the girl look I have Aspergers (autism) and this means i have some difficulty with social skills like body language. Tell them they will need to be patient with you on some things, but in return you promise to love them whole heartradly. Something like that. If its tone of voice that meks u seem insincer e use actions. buy flowers, send a chochlate bunch of strawberries etc .
I perceive Autism as just a condition that a regular human being is suffering from. Yes I have had experience with it. My father works for the ARC, Associated Retarded Citizens, and every single one of them is so nice to me. Sadly I still would not date/marry someone with autism even if they were attractive, smart, attentive, or loving. The reason for that is just personal preference. It's a disability and nothing more It's really how bad of the autism that person has that really determines that.
Well I guess it depends what kind it is to be fair the whole social thing would not be an issue for me considering I am not social myself. The people I have seen with it in high school and middle school were seen as outcasts and I went to a high school with about 2,000 students in it. They were made fun of a lot in school and the school I went to was a public school and was supposedly considered the top 5 best school in the state or people just ignored them. I am aware that not all of them are quote on quote stupid as a matter of fact there have been famous intelligent people with autism, but unfortunately its like unless people with autism really prove themselves by doing something really successful they have that stigmatism.
Autism just makes people different, not weird. I have no issues with people with Autism. My little brother is a Aspie. My family suspects I'm one too but it's harder to catch in girls. Yes it can make you blunt but at least you're honest. I never saw any purpose in sugar coating things.
For him it is an impairment. His abilities to communicate and socialize are significantly impaired. They gradually improve and we really don't know where he will end up.
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It's both a disability and a strength it means being different and thinking differently and being judged for it. It means having a lot of difficulty understanding social situations and reading peoples body language and tone of voice. It's stressful and scary being the odd one out who doesn't get the social cues. A lot of people on the autism scale also have anxiety or depression things like that. But we can be loyal to the end and very caring friends if you don't give up on us because of the bad days.
Autistic people are usuall very smart and friendly to a fault. I have met several and have gotten to know a few over the years. These people are not the type of people that want to be treated any differently than you or I. While they do have an mental disorder they are far from being considered as retarded ( I am in no way using that term in a harmful manner or as a insult ) . I do not think I would be prepared to have a relationship as they do require a lot of extra attention and care.
I think autism can make it hard to uphold relationships and socialize with people but it can also give you a very unique viewpoint and make you pretty creative. I think autism is what you make of it like anything else. If you let it hold you back and you give up on things then it's certainly a disability. However, you can also embrace your uniqueness and use it to your advantage. If it was somebody like the latter type then I certainly wouldn't let their autism keep me from dating them.
I would, but only if they're the "innocent" kind of autistic that doesn't want/expect sex in any way, at least not at first.
This is legitimate, by the way, this isn't me just giving a pity answer like 80% of the women answering this question because they don't want to seem un-PC.
This is probably going to make someone really mad, but "autism" seems to be this decade's "ADD/ADHD", the hottest special snowflake condition everyone is trying to get themselves or their children diagnosed with. It's over-diagnosed and it's not difficult to research or fake the symptoms so it's easy for people who want to get out of working for a living to sit at home doing jack shit on government benefits.
People just can't accept that they are just intelligent but lazy underachievers, rude and obnoxious shitheads, or over-analyze everything someone says to them as a personal remark.
Noooo...
You have a "rare" (1 in 68 people in most recent estimates, a 23% increase from just a couple years before) medical condition that mimics the symptoms of being a social and academic outcast! And even better, there are no pharmaceutical treatment options, so give this to your employer and tell them to fuck off with their two week's notice!
In case anyone is still bothering to read my offensive and judgmental tirade, you might find this mildly amusing. I just took an autism test for shits and giggles. I answered as honestly as I could (it's difficult to resist the temptation to manipulate the results)
You scored a total of 34 If you scored... Then... 34 & up Autism likely 30 - 33 Possible autism 0 - 29 No autism
"Based upon your responses to this autism screening measure, it appears that you are likely suffering from an autism spectrum disorder, or Asperger's disorder. People who score similarly often qualify for a diagnosis of autism or Asperger's."
Austism is a wide sprectrum and, as such, a rather generalistic term. Some forms---some INDIVIDUALS---are a lot higher functioning than others. Asperger's is an especially high functioning form typically only affecting minor things like communicative skills and to a degree social skills, both of which can be learned.
It really depends on the severity. i know someone with autism who is in his late 20s but is like 3 year old with severe mental issues. i have a friend whos son is autistic and he is quite normal. if i weren't married sure i think could date someone with autism but as i said it depends on the severity.
Autism is a hard thing to describe some people have it bad others don't. I have aspergers which is in that family and it affected me as a kid bit I grew. out of most of my old ways.
People with these disorders tend to have social issues but are geniuses. Like eitstein.
People who have it but are not bad with it would be more trustworty because they tend to lie less and find meeting new people stressful so would rather stay with you than start sleeping around because they would find it too stressful plus would hate lying to you and would buckl under the regret straight away. But they tend to get use to their lifestyle and hates change.
So getting them to go out to parties or changing your lifestyle would be very hard.
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Autism is very misunderstood. Depending on the severity of the case it could have little effect on ones romantic capabilities so I wouldn't instantly say no but it depends on the persons stability and control. Autistic people can be very smart but they can also be childish or irritable both thing most people can't handle. It depends on the case.
I don't see it as a curse. I think the individuals who are Autistic are very unique people and very talented and intelligent too!
Very good answer.
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autism is just something the sufferer has to live with and something the friends and family of the sufferer have to work with to understand... it isn't anyones fault. and yes i would. my mom is autistic and i feel sad for her because no guy understands her and her autism... yet she is beautiful, successful, and smart. its a prison in the mind and seeing it first hand with my mother makes me not view it as anything other than somehting the person needs to work om to overcome. the sufferer probably has trouble with communication and they should surround themselves with people who are patient and kind.
Surprised you don't have it. I do, my dad does, and my son does. My sisters probably do too, but to a different degree
hers was developed after birth. she had a tough child hood and has been on hefty amounts if adhd medication throughout her life. i do not suffer from autism which god bless i dont- but i have recieved my fair share of mental illness- bulimia nervosa. which is a different struggle in itself!
I knew some autistic kids when I was a teenager.
It's just a thing you deal with. It's clearly an impairment to communication with others. I think any high functioning autistic who was honest would admit that.
I would not have a relationship with an autistic person. The core symptom of autism is impaired communication and empathy, which are the critical elements of a relationship. Most people with autism need care as well. I don't think it's right to start a relationship in the role of caregiver.
I have a developmental disability on which a full diagnosis has never been reached, but it's v possible it could be autism. Either way I have a lot of overlap with it symptomatically a la stimming, OCD, a predilection towards being overwhelmed by noises or people, etc. Many of the girls in my circle have autism, and I think I'd match well w/ an autistic partner :)
I worked with special needs for 4 years, I think its a terrible thing. There are some who can make it through, but there are severe kids with it who have it as a curse, a prison of the mind, etc. Some kids can talk, some kids can do sign language, others don't understand anything. Autism is very broad, and would I have a relationship? Depends, but I'm not necessarily looking for an autistic girlfriend.
People with Autism are Extremely intelligent people. They are gifted in being exceptionally talented in certain skills and what they lack uncertain understandings they overly-compensate for in other areas. Some of the smartest people to have walked this Earth have been Autistic.
You madam, get a cookie
Why thank you :)
If you love the person that should not matter. a partner must ba able to understand depedning on the severity of the Autism that certain things may be uncomfortable and take time. Like for some it could be sensory issue where kissing may take a while, other sex, others going to loud places like concerts may be out. Just depends, The most common thing i think would be that the person with autism should let his/her partner know that they dont get body language, or sarcasm easily so they may get upset if u say something sarcastic b/c they think ur being true/ and saying methinks mean.
As for the experience part I have an ASD , aspergers and i am going to be a moderate autism special ed teacher after i graduate college in May! if it is a strength ir curse depends on the person.. me i think it is a strength it helped me have a great work ethic and im compasionate= good teacher. other it may be harder /less of a benifit. all depedns on the attitude!
I get sarcasm. My major aspergers obsessions are stories for the most part though. I learn a lot of from fiction and comedians. I still don't understand a lot of body language though. Even if I can pick up on some of it, it's like I don't have any body language. I also don't know how to sound sincere when I mean something. I could tell a girl "I really like you" but it won't sound real. It will sound rehearsed and memorized.
It sounds like you may be a level 4 which is the mildest form of Autism (aspergers). As for the not sounding sincer, maybe make sure to tell the girl look I have Aspergers (autism) and this means i have some difficulty with social skills like body language. Tell them they will need to be patient with you on some things, but in return you promise to love them whole heartradly. Something like that. If its tone of voice that meks u seem insincer e use actions. buy flowers, send a chochlate bunch of strawberries etc .
I perceive Autism as just a condition that a regular human being is suffering from.
Yes I have had experience with it. My father works for the ARC, Associated Retarded Citizens, and every single one of them is so nice to me.
Sadly I still would not date/marry someone with autism even if they were attractive, smart, attentive, or loving. The reason for that is just personal preference.
It's a disability and nothing more
It's really how bad of the autism that person has that really determines that.
Well I guess it depends what kind it is to be fair the whole social thing would not be an issue for me considering I am not social myself. The people I have seen with it in high school and middle school were seen as outcasts and I went to a high school with about 2,000 students in it. They were made fun of a lot in school and the school I went to was a public school and was supposedly considered the top 5 best school in the state or people just ignored them. I am aware that not all of them are quote on quote stupid as a matter of fact there have been famous intelligent people with autism, but unfortunately its like unless people with autism really prove themselves by doing something really successful they have that stigmatism.
Autism just makes people different, not weird. I have no issues with people with Autism. My little brother is a Aspie. My family suspects I'm one too but it's harder to catch in girls. Yes it can make you blunt but at least you're honest. I never saw any purpose in sugar coating things.
My son has autism. Not aspergers.
He's affectionate and cheerful.
For him it is an impairment. His abilities to communicate and socialize are significantly impaired. They gradually improve and we really don't know where he will end up.
It's both a disability and a strength it means being different and thinking differently and being judged for it. It means having a lot of difficulty understanding social situations and reading peoples body language and tone of voice. It's stressful and scary being the odd one out who doesn't get the social cues. A lot of people on the autism scale also have anxiety or depression things like that. But we can be loyal to the end and very caring friends if you don't give up on us because of the bad days.
Autistic people are usuall very smart and friendly to a fault. I have met several and have gotten to know a few over the years. These people are not the type of people that want to be treated any differently than you or I. While they do have an mental disorder they are far from being considered as retarded ( I am in no way using that term in a harmful manner or as a insult ) . I do not think I would be prepared to have a relationship as they do require a lot of extra attention and care.
I think autism can make it hard to uphold relationships and socialize with people but it can also give you a very unique viewpoint and make you pretty creative. I think autism is what you make of it like anything else. If you let it hold you back and you give up on things then it's certainly a disability. However, you can also embrace your uniqueness and use it to your advantage. If it was somebody like the latter type then I certainly wouldn't let their autism keep me from dating them.
I would, but only if they're the "innocent" kind of autistic that doesn't want/expect sex in any way, at least not at first.
This is legitimate, by the way, this isn't me just giving a pity answer like 80% of the women answering this question because they don't want to seem un-PC.
This is probably going to make someone really mad, but "autism" seems to be this decade's "ADD/ADHD", the hottest special snowflake condition everyone is trying to get themselves or their children diagnosed with. It's over-diagnosed and it's not difficult to research or fake the symptoms so it's easy for people who want to get out of working for a living to sit at home doing jack shit on government benefits.
People just can't accept that they are just intelligent but lazy underachievers, rude and obnoxious shitheads, or over-analyze everything someone says to them as a personal remark.
Noooo...
You have a "rare" (1 in 68 people in most recent estimates, a 23% increase from just a couple years before) medical condition that mimics the symptoms of being a social and academic outcast! And even better, there are no pharmaceutical treatment options, so give this to your employer and tell them to fuck off with their two week's notice!
In case anyone is still bothering to read my offensive and judgmental tirade, you might find this mildly amusing. I just took an autism test for shits and giggles. I answered as honestly as I could (it's difficult to resist the temptation to manipulate the results)
You scored a total of 34
If you scored...
Then...
34 & up Autism likely
30 - 33 Possible autism
0 - 29 No autism
"Based upon your responses to this autism screening measure, it appears that you are likely suffering from an autism spectrum disorder, or Asperger's disorder. People who score similarly often qualify for a diagnosis of autism or Asperger's."
LOL
Austism is a wide sprectrum and, as such, a rather generalistic term. Some forms---some INDIVIDUALS---are a lot higher functioning than others. Asperger's is an especially high functioning form typically only affecting minor things like communicative skills and to a degree social skills, both of which can be learned.
So it depends 100% on the individual.
It really depends on the severity. i know someone with autism who is in his late 20s but is like 3 year old with severe mental issues. i have a friend whos son is autistic and he is quite normal. if i weren't married sure i think could date someone with autism but as i said it depends on the severity.
Autism is a hard thing to describe some people have it bad others don't. I have aspergers which is in that family and it affected me as a kid bit I grew. out of most of my old ways.
People with these disorders tend to have social issues but are geniuses. Like eitstein.
People who have it but are not bad with it would be more trustworty because they tend to lie less and find meeting new people stressful so would rather stay with you than start sleeping around because they would find it too stressful plus would hate lying to you and would buckl under the regret straight away. But they tend to get use to their lifestyle and hates change.
So getting them to go out to parties or changing your lifestyle would be very hard.