I want my boyfriend to have abs?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend Does basketball.. And so cute I just want him to have abs and arm muscle. Reasons why
1- when I feel his stomach from under shirt I don't want him to feel uncomfortable because he knows I like abs
2- I love abs and arm muscle
How do I tell him that tho am I being wrong?

[existing_not_living]

I don't see why abs are so important if you like and care for your boyfriend. You shouldn't want or even think to suggest to change your boyfriend or girlfriend unless it's necessary for their health or something. I would be devastated if my boyfriend (imaginary right now) said something like that to me. I might even consider breaking up with him because I would never want to feel like I had to change my physical appearance just to please them. I want them to like me for me no matter their usual preference.

I think you are in the wrong here. Getting abs isn't exactly that easy. Working out is some tough shit. I would know. I'm actually trying to make an effort to at the moment. I would let your boyfriend come to that conclusion on his own without your suggestion. OR if you suggest it, then you should work out with him yourself. Since he'd be working so hard to please you, then you should do it too.

[LuckyNumber5]

You're 14. Of course you want abs, every pre-pubescent girl wants a boy toy with abs.
Take my advice and preserve his self esteem. Don't ask him. If he plays basketball, wait until Freshman year of highschool. He'll get abs. You'll get boobs and grow a few inches, and maybe learm to love a lot of body types. You both win.

[pr3ttybr0wn]

Don't criticize his looks or tell him to alter his appearance. That will make him feel bad about himself. Think how you'd feel if a guy told you to change your body for him. Either accept him how he is or find someone with abs who may or may not be as good of a boyfriend.

[FakeName123]

Turn the tables around and imagine your boyfriend would tell you he likes bigger / smaller butts/thighs. How would that feel to you?

Personally I think it would be quite hurtful for not desiring for who I am.

[AleDeEurope]

I don't recommend you to do this, cause if you do, he'll have the right to tell you to change something about your appearance, and if he says something you're insecure about, you're gonna regret it.

[Janice25]

Yeah you can't tell him. If anything lead by example with your healthy eating choices, working out, and suggest activities you can do together to get toned (without telling him that's the reason)

Examples: train for an obstacle course marathon, sign up for a weekly boxing class, or join him in the weight room a couple times a week (practice what you preach! )

[Creative_Catbug]

how would you feel if he came over to you and said he wants you to be thinner.. or fatter.. or change any aspect about yourself.

if you are with someone, you are with them... they are not clay for you to mold :/

[Sara413]

Either accept your boyfriend as he is, or move along. Honestly, cut abs aren't all they're cracked up to be. I'd much rather snuggle up to my bf's soft belly.

[SomeoneImportant]

Young relationships lol

Another reason why they mean absolutely nothing.

Just tell him to hit the weight room. You say he already knows you want him to be visibly cut, so there's not much else to be said.

[Stefan1738]

Watch YouTube videos with him of Marc fitt, Jeff seid, and Steve cook. Tell him you want him to be a part of #swoldiernation

[StickStickity13]

What if he told you he wanted you to have larger breast?

[Climber]

Get abs and arm muscle yourself and then he will follow automatically.

[SweetAndSassy14]

But then again why would you change your boyfriend if you love him.. if I was you I would just love him the way he is.. and if he wants to change himself I'll accept it..

[Saydou]

lol you are demanding but just ask him if he could add that

[Zendrya]

You are being shallow

[Jaden69]

you guys are 14, does all that already matter

[Alexious]

Love him for who he is, not who he can be.

[tyrantfuryre]

You're 14, you don't know what you want.

[Nuqood]

She's a woman; She doesn't know what she wants.

[tyrantfuryre]

true. lol