How do you improve your self-esteem?

[summerlove91]

[Aizou]

Here, read this:
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a7708-trick-your-brain-gain-better-self-esteem

In short, it's all about tricking yourself..
you see, the human mind is really prone to trickery
it believes what it's told.

Just how you may get in a bad mood, when people say mean things
it can also be the other way around.

It doesn't even have to be other people, you can do it all by yourself
if you continuously keep praising/complimenting yourself, your brain
will eventually start believing it as well.

You don't have to get in any awkward situations either by being loud
it can all happen silently inside your head.

As long as you keep seeing the positive things in yourself
instead of the negatives, you will eventually begin to see
a positive change. ^.^

[abzence]

I guess one step is to realize that it shouldn't come from others. Your value as a human being is not decided by other people. Stop relying on external things to feel valuable.

When you start to reach the point where you realize that you are the same person regardless if other people call you fat, ugly, stupid or strange. The moment you don't let others define who you are is the moment you can really grow.

[summerlove91]

I agree. But how do you get that way and not care what people think of you?

[abzence]

You get that way by caring more about what you think about you.
You can still care about what other people think about you. It's nice to be liked. But that doesn't mean that you should go out of your way to be liked and lose yourself in the process.

This is an inner process.
You need to ask yourself questions like why the opinions of others about you is important to you. You need to look inside more than you look outside because you will never find "you" out there.

[summerlove91]

Thanks!

[MamuraDaiki]

Wear pretty dress or outfit, wear perfume because if you smell nice people will compliment you and ask what your perfume is and that helps you build your confidence and self-esteem and also study hard or do good in school if you're a student

[ahdellee]

Makeup, dressup, working out, doing well in school :D

[watcher617x]

I talk to you of course :)

a big part of it is choosing your company well. don't stick around people who pull you down

chemically working out helps a lot

doing something you enjoy, doing something special for yourself, the list could go on for ages.

treat yourself well!

[Anonymous]

My method was to achieve difficult things and subject myself to trials.

[smahala1991]

I seek advice from others

[medical2523]

I dont honestly it just stays the same