Having poor self confidence seems to be quite normal in today's society where we value looks and attractiveness dangerously high. This has lead to a society with photoshop, impossible body ideals and people needing the confirmation of others to feel happy about themselves. We have apps like tinder, hot-or-not and more, who are based only on appereance and even here on GAG we rate our profile pictures 1-10 depending on how attractive we are.
If you are on of the millions of people with a low self esteem, this method might be something for you. It has long been known that our brain is complex and can be fooled - even doing something as simple as smiling can trick your brain into thinking you're happy and you will actually feel happier. Amazing, isn't it?
So how can we use this to our advantage in this case? If you feel ugly, not as important as everyone else, smaller, less valuable etc. that will affect you and your life negatively and can destroy many good things. Guys are constantly hearing that girls like confidence, but what are you going to do if you don't have confidence? You just don't feel good enough. Girls are constantly shown how important it is for them to be beautiful, hot, skinny and how cruical that is if they want to succeed in life and with relationships. But what if you don't feel good enough?
As a result of this we feel the need to get confirmation of others that we are, infact, good enough. Hearing that you are a "solid 8" might give you some joy short term, but soon you will go back to feeling the exact same way you did when you asked the question in the first place. It is like using tape to fix a glass bowl, smashed into hundreds of little pieces.
So, back to this method I want to teach you. I have been talking about this with several of you here on GAG - both in private messages and in opinions - and I can confirm that it works. How do I know? I have done it myself. Now, it's not going to happen over a night. It takes practice, determination and an active choice to actually want to change yourself. There is no quick fix to a bad self esteem, no 3 steps- method.
What you need to do is to trick your mind:
Everytime you get a feeling or a thought that you are less than others, that you are ugly or bad, you have to fight that feeling or thought. Tell yourself that you are good enough, you are beautiful. You are awesome. It doesn't matter if you agree, just do it.
Everytime you see yourself in the mirror, give yourself a compliment. Find something about your face or your body that you aren't so bitter about and compliment yourself about that. "I have such a cute nose!", for example.
VIsualize yourself as confident, happy and great. Visualize that you're in a place where you don't feel the need to have others telling you that you look good to be happy and confident.
Try your best to accept the things you cannot change. Maybe you don't like your short, stubby legs or your big ears - but accept that you are this way and it doesn't mean you are less than anyone else.
And lastly, remember that the only one constantly thinking about your inperfections is yourself. Others are way to busy with thinking about themselves.
So, stand straight, walk proudly and remeber that you are great and gorgeous - just the way you are!