1. Try mirror work
This is a popular technique I picked up from Louise Hay, it is used to boost self-love and practice mindfulness. Start by simply gazing at yourself in the mirror. Look deeply into your eyes, almost connect with yourself. As you do this, try not to dwell on your "imperfections". Notice the aspects of your face that you think are beautiful/aesthetically pleasing, bring all of your attention and awareness to these parts. If at any time you begin to have any negative thoughts or emotions, let them pass through, acknoweledge them, and release them. When you feel as though you are done and satisfied with your experience, look back into your eyes and say out loud, "I love you". It may seem weird at first, but make a habit of saying "I love you" everytime you walk by a mirror or do your mirror work. This is an essential step towards bettering your self-esteem and self-compassion.
2. Pick up a hobby
If you've always wanted to paint, take a cooking class, or play the drums, now's the time to start. When you develop and practice a hobby, you will feel accomplished, occupied, and happy. This is a great way to boost your self-esteem. Doing the things you love also gives you a chance to learn more about yourself and expand as a person.
3. Create an uplifting, joyful environment for yourself.
Decorate your workspace or bedroom with bright colors, images/photos that invoke positive emotions, pretty flowers or anything else that makes you feel at ease and content. A nice environment = a happy you.
4. Start a gratitude journal.
Buy yourself a nice notebook or journal and write at least 10 things that you are grateful for everyday and why. Really try to acknoweledge all of the gifts, talents, and things you possess. Make this a ritual and you will see how positive you will feel afterwards. When you write only positive things in your journal, you slowly but surely start to notice only the positive things in your daily life.
5. Focus on your inner-beauty.
The media constantly dictates to us that we are not truly beautiful if we do not have the "perfect body". This leads us to feeling inadequate and our self-worth begins to crumble. In that moment we need to disconnect and focus on ourselves and who we are on the inside.
You need to realize that you are not an airbrushed model or a celebrity, you are YOU. You are more than your dress size, you are more than your acne and you are more than the media's ideal image of beauty. You have an inner beauty and character that shines, that is what makes you special. Redirect your focus and stop dwelling on your appearance. True beauty comes from being yourself, living fully in the moment, and experiencing all the beautiful things this world has to offer. When you are comfortable and at ease with yourself, you are instantly 100x more attractive.
I wish you luck on your self-love journey! xo
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This is good, though I never really believed in 4. 1, 2 and 5 are really important though.
1. Because it will bring you down if you focus only on what doesn't look good about you. I have stretch marks, I don't have a full smile, I have pimples, I have a nose that points up too much and the skin around my eyes is shiny and dark. Yet, I don't let it bother me as much as I once did.
2. Because hobbies not only entertain you, they also define you more as your own individual. You like what YOU like and you shouldn't be discouraged if others don't share your interests. Go out there and get in touch with people who do!
5. Because at the end of a day, a gorgeous looking jackass is still a jackass.
Good take. I'd like to add a few things more:
1. Try to smile more - It's harder to feel bad if you smile and people are more receptive to you if you appear friendly
2. Dress nice - Even when you don't feel good, don't let it spill over to your wardrobe. If you look sharp, people will see you as sharp. If you dress like a rat, people will be less eager to be around you
3. If everything fails and you can't stop feeling down on yourself, maybe it's time to talk it out with someone. Professionals can help you with this, they will work with you and offer you new perspectives about why you cannot accept yourself. There is nothing shameful about visiting a therapist. It's 2015.
I agree! Thanks for your comment :D <3