How to live a happy, sober lifestyle?

[kayleeroze]

I am drug free as of a year and a half ago. However , along the way of quitting hard drugs , I picked up a few other habits.. lots of drinking , smoking cigarettes , and smoking weed. I am considerably young to be completely independent - i bought my own car , pay for insurance. i live on my own , pay for rent. i buy all my own groceries , pay all of my bills , and am paying tuition for being a full time college student. I quit smoking cigarettes ten days ago , due to the fact i legitimately could no longer afford them. car insurance was due , and i had to choose - tobacco or wheels. I have adjusted slightly , and i don't miss the hard drugs at all. What is hard for me is not drinking or smoking weed. Sure , they aren't the worst things in the world , but I'm planning to be a social worker one day. I can't be a stoned drunk social worker the same way i can be a stoned , drunk waitress. I would appreciate taking this question seriously , as it is very serious to me. if you live sober , how do you do it? I haven't actually lived a completely sober life since I was about twelve. Any advice , comments , opinions are greatly appreciated , if they are respectable and not rude. thank you in advance !

[Zigzagz]

There is a lot to say on this matter. I used to be a heavy HEAVY pot smoker, and an almost daily drinker, but at the beginning of this year I went basically completely sober (other than the occasional beer with my dad or a buddy), but I can say for sure you sound like you have a predisposition to addictive behaviors.

[kayleeroze]

congrats on your sobriety !! How did you do it? How did you cope with normal life? I definitely think I have addictive genes , I come from a long line of alcoholics , smokers and druggies. Classy , right? JK. thanks !

[Zigzagz]

I became obsessed with my own potential as a human being. Stopping weed smoking for a long enough time makes a person realize that when they smoke they are constantly in a kind of fog, and they aren't using their mind to its full potential. As for alcohol, I quit drinking, because as a part of reaching my potential, I would like to acquire perfect health, which alcohol definitely does not promote. Alcohol is more or less poison. And if you were to have to pick between alcohol and marijuana, you should definitely stick with herb. However that being said, another checkpoint I wanted to reach was financial freedom. Which is incredibly hard to have if you are bound to substances that cost money on a consistent basis. It was basically then I realized that I needed to quit smoking, drinking, wasting money on stupid stuff like cable and junk food, and eventually all of that caused me to feel the urge to fill my time with productive things like going to the gym to work out and stuff like that.

[psychomonkey]

Well its a lot easier if you didn't already smoke weed and drink. But you should just make sure your life is busy and try not to think about it.

[kayleeroze]

Thank you ! But there's also a problem there.. I can get drunk and successfully go to work and do my job , I can get drunk or stoned and do my homework and get good grades , hell i can get drunk &stoned and do laundry and the dishes. My life is pretty busy , I have just adjusted it with drinking and smoking / : Thanks again

[psychomonkey]

Can't help you there so good luck.

[abundantlyrich]

You always need to have good friends to ground you. That means you need to talk to them at least once a week or see them if you can.

Develop an interest and make it into something more.

Maybe see a counselor to get further help with your stoning issues?

[Glitterandheels]

Be grateful for for what you have. Don't buy/do/ things you don't need to just to impress people , do what makes you happy, company of positive people And there you go

[Zigzagz]

^^^^Actually really fucking insightful. Peer pressure is a HUGE factor in participation in mind altering substances. If you can learn to say "no, go fuck yourself" then you're half way there.

[Glitterandheels]

@Zigzagz yeah it's all about learning to say "Idgaf"

[kayleeroze]

Thank you !! I think what helps me most in this post is the "be grateful" part. I definitely don't try to impress people by doing drugs/ drinking.. those things aren't very impressive. I get drunk mostly by myself. But thank you again.

[Glitterandheels]

Aw your welsome and all d best

[Iron_Man]

Its easy I am not a drinker, I get high on life itself, I dont need to be high or drunk to enjoy life

[kayleeroze]

Its not easy for everyone. Have you ever been addicted to a drug , cigarettes , or alcohol before? Life is actually pretty shitty for most people. My question is more "HOW do you enjoy life while being sober" , not "DO you enjoy life being sober" . Thanks !

[Iron_Man]

No I have not because I dont touch it. I have been to hell and back I am just a strong guy that pushes through things. I never turn to that kind of stuff. I just enjoy life I dont need to be drunk to enjoy things.

[kayleeroze]

I'd appreciate a less judgmental tone. I don't think I'm going to get much more helpful insight from you. Thanks for your time.

[Iron_Man]

I dont know how to help you here. You're looking for a user just like you to talk back and forth. I am not into drugs so in that case I can't help you

[GucciMane]

She was asking people that did drugs & lived that life style, so why do you come on here with your bullshit...

[Iron_Man]

Blocked I have no time for level one rookies that want to hate