Is it good to hide my insecurities?

[Anonymous]

Being insecure is unattractive, so I manage to hide my insecurities, but deep inside I feel so awkward.

There's so much pressure to be confident because it's attractive, so I try my best to appear calm and collected and it works, but I don't actually feel like that. What can I do?

[bluenose1872]

A lot of people don't realise it but you make you that way. No outside influence. People only react to the person you present yourself as. You are what you believe you are. If you see yourself as weak and awkward that the way people will treat you. It's called a self fulfilling prophecy. Don't compare yourself to others. Don't try and copy anybody, fictional or in real life. Try and believe in yourself. Your good at something. Let that define you and take confidence from it. Stop telling yourself negative things in your head. The brains pliable. Just like propaganda is a short message repeated until it sticks in the public conscience so your brain is trained the same on a personal level by you. Learn to be good to yourself. Positive thinking instead of negative. You'll have to force it at first but it becomes part of you after time.

[MrMaskyMoon]

[Sorry in advance for the spelling and grammar errors]
Hmm, well you see. Hiding your insecurities is what the majority will do, but what i recommend is that you get a pen and pad and write down what you're insecure about and try to figure out why they worry you.. there isn't any need for you to feel insecure my friend. there's probably nothing wrong with you... unless you're a serial killer of course xP... but seriously now, if that doesn't work out perhaps you should try making a myTake about it on here and see what people think about hte things that worry you... Alternativly i would be happy to help if you'd like to send me a pm :).. you're good bro... you're good

[awilliai7]

Hiding insecurities isn't necessarily the best option. I mean it does help when relating to others in a way, but its better to acknowledge them, accept them, and move on with whatever you feel isn't good enough. I have a 3 inch scar on my thigh that is NOT pretty, and as a woman it was and sometimes still is hard. At first i would not ever be caught in a bathing suit because of my scar. Now I've grow to say yes, i have a bad scar, but it doesn't define who i am. im still super beautiful and i am not going to let it ruin my confidence. They say fake it till you make it, but i think you can do more than that. Just let it go and know that you are still 100% awesome.

[Anonymous]

Try focusing less on how you look. If you build your character- the tension around your physicalities will fade :) even if you don't care about your looks anymore but feel sad about your character- at least it's a step forward. You can do itttttttt.

[BertMacklinFBI]

open up with people you trust, but don't make a habit into it and don't fluster people with it.

[GreatnessRevamped]

I was reading a study on the body. Apparently, if you do a physical action enough, it can affect your mind.
So, if you forcibly smile, then after a while, you will be smiling normally.
www.theatlantic.com/.../

If you stand in a "hero" pose, then you will feel more confident.
jamesclear.com/body-language-how-to-be-confident

It's faking it to make it.
google Amy Cuddy.

Good luck

[serious]

Yes, insecurities are unattractive so that's ok if you want to hide it. However you should work on overcoming your insecurities or try to handle them in the best possible way, because you can't hide everything, you can't keep hiding your insecurities forever, some time or the other it might show itself.

Hence instead of hiding them, learn to accept your insecurities and try to handle them, overcome them.

[rlittledistraction]

When you find a girl- or guy- to open up to, or a brother or sister, do so. Believe me, girls find it really hot when a hot guy opens up to them WHEN HE TRULY CARES and underneath there's a sensitive, sweet soul who is real, not just hot.

[Anonymous]

Fake it till you make it.

Girls like it when you open up a bit, but show 5 parts confidence for each time you open up a little on insecurity with any girl you are actually hoping will want to fuck you.

[kittykatbrat]

Everyone breathing has insecurities.
What r yours?

[Asker]

They're genetic

[kittykatbrat]

Are their any medical solutions?

[kittykatbrat]

*there

[Asker]

They're not illness related. Just about my body

[kittykatbrat]

Meaning your genetic body type?

[carinerose]

You can't fake being confident. It demands a lot of work, and for that you have to deal with your insecurities and make them something to be proud of.

[Asker]

I have faked it for the longest, and the work is a lot. The work is wearing me down, but I can't present myself as insecure

[carinerose]

So you have to stop pretending. Deal with your problems, it's the only solution. I used to be super insecure but I didn't want to be like that anymore, so I told myself I wouldn't be. I tried to figure out what was wrong with me and why I was the way I was and it progressively became something I held on to to make me stronger.

[Asker]

So basically you're telling me to accept my flaws

[carinerose]

Yup. It's the only way

[Asker]

'Despite my flaws, I am a fucking awesome caring and genuine person, and your negativity is not welcome.' I'm going to start drilling that into my brain

[carinerose]

You go girl.. ummm boy !!!

[sparkly-crystal]

girls find confidence really sexy. So work on improving yourself before delving into the dating world.

[ForSafety]

no, absolutely not. But it's important to control it.

[Anonymous]

I think that most of us fake confidence because of the same reason u are mentioning.
Girls love hard shells with soft hearts.

[Melcart23]

I let mine be known just so whoever ends up with me knows what they're getting

[AdamThomas]

What is it that makes you insecure?

[LifeEqualsLove]

As long as you can still feel confident

[apple24]

I don't know! I let it out in the open! lol

[babeeeone]

Aww you sound exactly like me

[ConsultantIsBack]

Remove them!

[Asker]

I can't control them unfortunately, they're genetic

[Decentguy]

its not bad either.