Hypochondriac?

[Anonymous]

I have a 20 year old sister. She is pretty, but overweight. Very standoff-ish and is a total homebody. Lives at home, does online college classes that requires one day of actual class time. She is ALWAYS "sick" with something. Just lays on the couch and whines about everything. But, when one of her friends calls- she jumps up and is suddenly healthy. This is a 24-7 thing. I am always stuck doing all the chores, since she's always deathly ill. Why does she do this? My mom defends her tooth and nail too and she's never really actually sick. I'm growing tired of it.

[Anonymous]

1) Your sister needs your unconditional immediate help. She needs your help because she is struggling and suffering from depression and self-stem problem. She is still young and have long way to go. Let her not live miserable 50-100+ years. What can you do?

2) Purchase flat 6-month YMCA or other fitness club membership for her as a gift. She could pay you later and ask her politely you want to, but in this world you are only sisters when you help each other and give things unconditionally. When you both leave the world, you leave with your individual deeds, not with your sister or the money you make.

3) Talk to her about life, what she feels about herself, about men, if she dates or want to date. This way, you will give you the chance to know her level of self-stem, understanding of the world, optimistic of the world. Help her understand that she has the power to make a different in wider world inside her by moving from her comfort zone. Bemoaning or regretting only deteriorates her but going to gym every week to lose weight, hanging out with friends will make become social person.

4) talk to your parents about her tactic and politely. Do not reveal the secrets she might not feel comfortable sharing with parents but tell them you are her older sister and willing to help her change her life. Believe she will never forget and appreciate for changing her life. What also can do for a person than helping your little sister become one she ever wanted to be or desired but assumed she could have never become due to the obstacles she is facing right t now.

5) take to dinner one night, sit quiet place, and talk a lot. She that you are willing to be a big loving sister of her. Start with your life of how you want to change yourself to be a big sister who is open to her and want to share with secrets and life. I know, she might be feeling bit jealous you graduated, bought your own house. These American dreams and she might be thinking "I can't do these things". Help your sister, transform her, and you will not only see her enjoy life but you will definitely feel loved, and feel awesome. I have help dozen hopeless people and you can't image how I felt at the end of their life transformation, let alone what they felt about themselves and towards me. START TODAY

[tex151]

Shes a lazy fat ass simple as that, she fakes illness so she doesn't have to do anything, this is one reason why she is over weight. Think about it, if you could get away with not doing chores because you claim your sick, and your parents would defend you on that, and not make you do them, would you really offer to do the chores when there is someone else who will do them?

If that was my sister who was faking illness, I would say get off the couch you fat ass cow, do your chores, get to a gym, put down the cheese burgers, and do something for a change.

[CuteSmartNBlonde]

She's probably extremely depressed, has low self esteem, lacks motivation to change her life... and your mother is enabling her to continue this unhealthy downward spiral. Talk to your sister, rile her up! Ask her if she wants to continue to be a couch potato and blow up like a balloon or does she have goals in life she wants to do. You can also go about saying that you find her to be a pretty girl with a lot of potential and it hurts you to see her waste away by laying on a couch constantly sick. Its time to help your sister, she seems to need a push in the right direction and your mom obviously isn't going to be the one to do it

[fr0stybab3]

She's going to get a place of her own in the future anyways so she might as well learn how to wash a dish otherwise her future boyfriend might kick her out for being lazy. Approach her about it subtly, like if you brought your mates over and have them talk to you about what kind of girl friend they'd want and what kind of qualities they'd like them to have while she's there. Or you can just take the phone off her because she is 'sick and needs rest' before hanging up on the ringer. This may sound rude but you have your own rights about what should and shouldn't happen in the household

[Honey18]

She does it so that she doesn't have to do any work and since your mom allows that there is really nothing you can do about it except move out. I'm just trying to figure out why you both are still living with your mom.. Unless the age thing is wrong then you should move out already..

[Asker]

As stated below, I have been moved out since I was 18. I went away to college, and moved back to my hometown after. Got a job, bought a house. What does me being moved out have to do anything? She's always been like this

[Honey18]

Because if you moved out then you should be doing chores at your moms house.. especially if your sister still lives there no matter how much of a fake hypochondriac she may be. Like the other guy said, why would you go back to your moms house to clean sh*t if you know your sister could easily do it? You're just giving her more of a reason to act the way she does. Adding sh*t to the fire isn't going to help it burn out.

[Asker]

I just hate disappointing my mom. She works a lot, so does my father. So I just figured I'd be generous and help her out. Especially since they raised me, put me through school, all that. But I am getting sick of it

[Honey18]

Then talk to your mom about how you feel. Tell her you want to help out but you all know that your sister isn't really sick. I can't say that you should disrespect your mom in any way for personal reasons.. If talking to her doesn't help then tell your sister she needs to grow up already. Stop doing your sisters work for her.

[darkknight1x]

If you've already moved out then stop being a push over and tell your mom to get somebody else. Stand up to your mom your in your mid-twenties already dammit. Tell her that she's making your sister lazy and being dependent on others which could lead to Dependent Personality Disorder.

[wanacot]

Your sister does it because she knows she can get away with it. If it didn't work with your mom then chances are she wouldn't still be behaving that way.

If you're 25-29 why don't you move out?

[Asker]

I have moved out, I've been moved out for quite some time. But I live in the same town as them. I am always being called over for something. Not like big things either (which I don't mind doing).

[wanacot]

Well then stop going over for things you feel your sister could easily be doing. Tell them you're busy or can't make it.

[boboaustin]

really I guess you just have to say no to ur sister & mum for a couple of times, that way they'll have to get it done & stop relying on you all da time.

[Anonymous]

maybe she's depressed