Time to pull the plug?

[Anonymous]

I got into an argument with my boyfriend on Friday evening probably the worst fight ever. I don't see him much. Only once or twice a week. We live 30 min from each other .Now we have already fought about the fact that one 2 separate occasions when I went to visit him at his house he ditched me to hang with his friends. He sees is friends more then me. My kids haven't seen him in two weeks and we made plans to swing by perhaps go to dinner. I asked him if he wanted me to bring anything, he said he would get snacks for the kids and what not. I said what time, he said an hour is good. I get there and he isn't there. I called him, he didn't answer until the 3rd ring. He is at his friends house again drinking. He comes down opens the door and tells me he is going back to his friends house to drink another beer. I said no we made plans. He said it will be short. Last time he did that he was gone almost all night. I shouldn't have to demand his time with us. I was frustrated and then it started..We fought for two hours about that and other things. I felt bad because my kids were there. I told them to watch TV that we just have to work out sum things. He accused me of being drunk because I finally stood up to him. I was being a bit aggressive I admit. In the end I felt bad for stooping so low. I should have just left the house. Now I am thinking I should break up with him. He hasn't called me in 2 days.

[RealDeal]

You deserve better. Your kids deserve better. Trust me when I say that a good man knows when he has a good woman, when he knows what he wants. If he doesn't, then it doesn't come as a priority to him. And what do you and I do when something isn't a priority to us? We push it to the side for as long as we can. You don't want this. You want a guy that will be there for you and cherish you for the princess that you are. Aim high when it comes to what you expect out of a lover because you are gonna have to deal with it. Don't settle for less than what you want. And when it comes to kids you want what is best for al of yous. If you think you are suffering from this pain because of this guy, think of what your kids are going through watching you go through heart ache? They might grow up thinking that this is how love is reciprocated. Food for thought, something to think about.

[stercor]

He's a drunk.

Get away from him as soon/fast as possible.

It's unbelievable that he called you a drunk!

This guy is a loser.

24 years since my last drink,

Ted

[Brianna987]

Yeah, I think it is indeed the time to pull the plug. I think you wrote a very similar post a month or so ago. So this is probably the issue you and your kids keep struggling with. I think enough is enough. I wish you luck.