Could I do with losing a few pounds & toning up?

[Anonymous]

I've just gone through a really bad break up, to make things worse the guy wasn't exactly nice about it and had a lot of mean things to say, not just about me but my body too. He is the only person to see me naked and some of the comments he made just makes me feel really badly.

i decided for me I should try do something about it, please be blatantly honest in what you think, am I really as bad and "flabby" as he said. & any advice or tips you might have for weight loss/toning up would be great. thanks so much x

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p.s I didn't include my face because I don't want people knowing who I am

[ThatNikkiGirl]

first off, I must say you don't look like someone under 18, you look more like your in your early twenties (women fill out completely at that age usually). most models you see in magazines are preteen to early teenage girls with no-thighs/butts and breast implants/stuffed bras.

i don't see anything wrong with you.

all you and everyone else your age needs to do is work out 3 times a week for 40 minutes at a time. just do that to keep in shape.

if you want to tone up, you will gain weight before you lose it (muscle weighs more than fat after all). go to a gym or rec center and ask for help from one of the people that work there, its their job. they can get you started in the right direction.

your ex is a loser butthead for not seeing what a cute girl you are.

[ALWAYSclassy]

You have a hot body *no homo*. The only reason he said that crap about you is because he was bitter and wanted to make you feel bad about yourself. If your body was so horrible, that didn't stop him from having sex with you did it? You are not flabby. Telling a girl she is fat is the ultimate mind f***. That's one thing you can say to a girl and she will be like WTF and worry about it. But it didn't bother him during the relationship, and is HIS body perfect? I bet not! You look great, honestly I don't think there is anything you could do to look better seriously.

He was just trying to make you feel bad about yourself, don't let the asshole win!

[NotSoBad]

The guy is just saying those things because he is upset and is responding in an immature way. He makes himself feel better by putting you down. If you don't let it bother you then he won't get the satisfaction out of doing it. What he is doing is a sign of an abusive relationship. You are in very good shape. I would only suggest working out because it is a great way to make yourself feel better mentally. After working out you will feel better about yourself and it will raise your self-esteem. :) Be happy you are out of that relationship.

[TexMex]

First of all this guy is obviously upset that your not together anymore because if he had that much of an issue with your body he would have left after the first time but if you want to do it for yourself jump on a treadmill cardio is the best way to lose weight in my experience as a hockey player.

[He-Wins1210]

OK. this is the most stupid question I've ever heard. If your serious about losing weight you need mental help because if you get any skinnier you'll be accused of anorexia. NEVER let a guys opinion make you change how you look. especially if he's only saying it to be mean.

[Keith]

Honestly, you look amazing! I wouldn't believe anything he says about you; he's just trying to make you feel bad for not being with him. (what a jerk!)

[wounded]

HUH?

You look perfectly fine!

But exercising can make you feel better in your body.

[ands3003]

You are beautiful! Don't change a thing. And toning up? You are toned already?

You are really good looking. He's just an immature prick. =]

[jcycler]

You look awesome. Don't lose a pound.